A HEART FOR THE WIDOWED….Veterans continue to serve others

Purple heart When McWhorter-Weston VFW Post 1118 (Cushing, OK)  was recently presented a check by Oklahoma American Veterans News  the post chose to use the money toward hosting a special Valentines lunch, inviting the widowed in the community as guests of honor.
All widows, widowers and pastors from the area are cordially invited to a special Valentines Day lunch at the VFW Post  at 6600 E Main, in Cushing,  on Sunday February 14, 2016.  Doors will open at 12:00.

Purple heart Research shows that acts of kindness are often passed on, when we realize how much others care,  creating a domino effect that can ignite a community.   

Valentines Day also coincides with the first day of Random Acts of Kindness Week which
runs February 14-20, 2016.


Purple heart Few things are as clear in scripture as the biblical imperative to care for widows.

Tulsa-based Stand in the Gap for Widows (SITGM) interviewed more than 300 widows
to understand their concerns and needs. They learned that widows often feel left out on Valentines Day as they no longer have their sweetheart with them.

SITGM has put their findings into a manual, which is made available, at no cost to churches.   The program, which requires minimal involvement from pastoral staff, presents a methodical approach to enhance what the church is currently doing, in order to help meet the emotional and practical needs of widows. Already in use by over 40 churches, the program inspires  churches with simple ways to support widows, such as providing for small-group gatherings of widows, within the church.

Encouragement and reassurance from kindred spirits provides hope and comfort. When
one realizes that they are not alone, afterall, they can look to the future, with a deepened faith and a renewed sense of enthusiasm.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~                    The Governor of Oklahoma and the Cushing, OK City Council have issued proclamations honoring the widowed on Valentines Day.

Purple heart State of Oklahoma proclamation

Purple heart City of Cushing Proclamation

The Board of Commissioners of the  City of Cushing, proclaimed  February 14, 2016 as  “A HEART FOR THE WIDOWED DAY”  in the City of Cushing and encourage all citizens to reach out in love to the widowed on this special day.

WHEREAS, the death of a spouse can be one of the most stressful events a person will face in their lifetime; and
WHEREAS, one doesn’t know what is needed when friends first ask  yet, as weeks pass, support from friends and family drops off significantly; and
WHEREAS, grief, which can affect memory, making simple tasks difficult, is often misunderstood by those who have not suffered the loss of a spouse; and
WHEREAS, imprudent decisions made while in shock, can be impossible to undo later; and
WHEREAS, grief can be compounded by financial decline; and
WHEREAS, simple acts of kindness can provide hope and encouragement.

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Acts of Kindness Can Create a Domino Effect YOUR COMMUNITY!

Research shows that those who perform acts of kindness become kinder, more
grateful and happier, which can spill over, creating a domino effect that can ignite a community.

Secret acts of kindness can restore hope and bring fresh strength to those who are desperate to believe that someone cares.  Few things are as clear in scripture as the
biblical imperative to care for widows. Valentines Day provides a chance to show compassion and kindness to the widowed.

How do we change the world? One act of kindness after another. Hold a door, make eye contact and give a cheerful good morning. Give a compliment, a kind word,  a pat on the shoulder or if you know them, a hug.

Some like to  do an act of kindness, in secret, to honor the memory of a loved one.

Governor Mary Fallin’s Proclamation to recognize our widowed on Valentines  Day coincides with the first day of Random Acts of Kindness Week, February 14, 2016.

Secrets the widowed won’t tell you, but wish you knew to help you understand why they act as they do. 





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Tulsa, OK Dinner Invitation for All Widows ~ (February 11, 2016)

Please share this with your friends who are widows. (Click the link at the bottom to see their last fun event, “Lemonade and Laughter”.)

P.S. Asbury does a gorgeous job of putting on these events for Widows.  After you look at these Lemonade & Laughter pictures, from Asbury this past summer please tell your widowed friends about this invitation.




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Tulsa Botanic Garden- Beauty of Osage Hills

Emily Ramsey wrote a very nice article about the  Floral Terrace at the Tulsa Botanic Garden, which was completed in October, 2015.

“The A.R. and Marylouise Tandy Floral Terrace is a 3.5-acre garden set on a hillside that overlooks the seven-acre lake and offers a beautiful eastern view of the Tulsa skyline. The garden is filled with 400 different plant types with a total of 8,000 permanent plants and 7,000 seasonal plants.”

“The drive alone, through the Osage Hills and the long, winding road past countryside and grazing horses, helps to set the mood and throw off our worries before even arriving at the Botanic Garden.”

Click above link to read Ms. Ramsey’s entire article.


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Merry Christmas!

 We  hope you had a blessed day. 

We’d like to share a couple of kind things we heard about over the holiday.

….the Yellow Cab driver and the man and lady who were spotted around 11:00 am on Christmas Eve, 2015 at 66th and Memorial, in Tulsa. The front car in line in the turn lane   to Walmart had broken down.  A man and lady had pulled over on a side street and were just walking up to help. A Yellow Cab pulled up, offered assistance and made a wide turn to bring his car nose to nose with the disabled car to give her a jump.  (This is someone who makes his living from providing rides but he took the time to help someone when it may have cost him a fare.)

…Stutts House of Bar-B-Que 2021 E. Apache St in Tulsa, offered free Christmas dinners delivered to home-bound persons. The owner Almead Stutts said they want to help those in need when they can.


When someone feels alone and discouraged, a simple unexpected act of kindness and respect from another can  provide hope and encouragement that things are going to be ok.


Different Kind of Christmas by Mark Schultz.

only 3:34 minutes

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Free Jr. Frosty Milkshake, per day for a year. (Stocking Stuffer!)

CONFIRMED! Scroll down to  the last row of the pictures on wendys.com   (to where it says “Holiday Magic”) and click on it. You will see this offer is legit. 

Wendy’s announced that it’s offering customers one free Jr. Frosty milkshake,  per day for an entire year!

Go your local Wendy’s before Dec. 31st and make a one-time purchase of a $1 Frosty-shaped key tag, which will allow you to enjoy the sweet deal  through Dec. 31, 2016.

Then when you visit Wendy’s  during the year, just make a purchase of whatever you want  (yes, even just a snack off their dollar menu) and you get a free Jr. Frosty!

90 cents from every key tag purchase is donated to the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption, the eponymous nonprofit created by the Wendy’s founder in 1992 with the sole purpose of finding permanent homes for foster children.


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Taco Bueno has been having GREAT specials…..Are you getting notified like the rest of us?

Taco Bueno has had a special every day since last week. However, you have to ask specifically for it.And the way you know to ask is by getting an e-mail from Taco Bueno:

  • Beef muchacos  99 cents   (Reg $2.69.) yesterday.
  • Party Tacos for 49 cents on Thursday
  • Nacho salads were 50% off Wednesday
  • Taco platter for $2.99 Tues.
  • Chicken potato burritos for 99 cents Friday-Sunday last week.

Want to make sure you get the e-mails? Go here: http://www.tacobueno.com/buenoheads

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