Things I Want to Teach My Child



Things I have read or heard that I want to share with my child. These are not my own quotes.

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  • Optimism is really rooted in gratitude. Optimism is sustainable when you keep coming back to gratitude, and what follows from that is acceptance. -actor Michael J. Fox, 59 who has battled Parkinson’s for 30 years.
  •  Optimists are proven to overcome setbacks more easily than pessimists. Look for the silver lining in every cloud.
  • Optimists make friends, earn respect, close sales, produce loyal clients, and others enjoy and want to be like them.  Attitudes are contagious. Is yours worth catching?
  • Optimism is positive thinking lighted up. -Norman Vincent Peale
  • Always thing positive.
  • None of us are born optimists. You aren’t in control of anything in life except your attitude. You may have to force a smile at first. Focus on your blessings.
  • Make the best of everything, by looking for the best in everything.
  • Ninety-nine percent of everything you do in life is attitude. If you have a relationship with God, and you have the right attitude, you’re going to learn to ask the one question in life that covers everything: How can I help you? -unknown
  • Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.    Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, and my redeemer.  Psalm  19:14
  • Practice optimism at home, as well as outside the home. Too often we waste our charm on strangers, then do nothing but complain at home.
  • “Say it is a beautiful day, isn’t it?” with a smile.
  • Your smile might be the only one someone sees all day.- Debbie Tuggle
  • Silence and smiling are two very powerful tools.
  • All people smile in the same language.
  • Smiling makes your face feel good….and it makes you look younger.
  • Take time to laugh, for it is the music of the soul.
  • Accentuate the positive, not the negative. Don’t look for something to complain about. Complaining is such a waste of time. People get bored hearing your complaints.It isn’t hard to find something good in every one and everything. 



  • HAPPINESS IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU. Happiness doesn’t lead to gratitude; gratitude leads to happiness.   Just saying the words “thank you” activates the right prefrontal cortex, the area of the brain responsible for whether you think something is “good or “bad”.  And that makes feelings of calmness, contentment and security wash over you.   Give thanks! For everything! Your health, your family, the food you eat, good weather, good deals at the store, etc.  Being grateful can lead to an unending source of happiness. 
  • If you want people to be kind and generous toward you in the future, then you must express your gratitude. If you don’t, they’ll think you are a jerk.- Amy Dickinson.
  • Silent gratitude isn’t very much use to anyone.
  • If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, “Thank You,” that would suffice. —Meister Eckhart
  • Gratitude which has lasting effects on the brain promotes better mental health.
  • In our busy lives, we may be tempted to forget  that God is the one who gives us life. But  we can build an attitude of thankfulness into our daily routines asking Him for help and acknowledging the gift of life with humble, thankful hearts. Each day is a gift from God – a thank you prayer thanking Him for His goodness and faithfulness.  Laus Deo- Praise be to God   (ctrl ‘f’ blessings)      (Praise be to the name of God for ever and ever;     wisdom and power are his. Daniel 2:20.)
  • Life is a gift. It is not about the plans we make; it is about the moment that make every day worth living When you nearly lose it all you find you have everything in the world.
  • Never take anything for granted. Each day is a gift. It is a prize of its own. You have to go out there and receive it and enjoy it to the best of your abilities. That’s what I do every day of my life. And always remember: Believe.- Eric LeGrand whose football career ended in tragedy.
  • Life is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift to those who come after. Make it a fantastic by living well, enjoying today, doing something fun, being happy and have a wonderful day. It is your day
  • The key that encourages kindness is a sincere “thank you” for acts of thoughtfulness. It gives joy to the giver, which can create a domino effect that can ignite a community. One act of kindness after another.  When you show love by encouraging others you will find the key to an unending source of happiness.   You hold the key. A  small key can open a big door.
  • A thank you note is an act of grace. It completes the circle.  It is something between us, something we share. It connects us, and makes us both feel better. -Jane Howard Victoria magazine June 1994 pg 44 Title Acts of Grace.

GRATITUDE see attitude.

  • Gratitude is like a food group. It is essential for being alive. -Henry Winkler
  • Gratitude, like faith, is a muscle. The more you use it, the stronger it grows. -Alan Cohen
  • Be humble and in touch with gratitude.
  • Happiness doesn’t lead to gratitude; gratitude leads to happiness. By saying thank you, you are making the recipient and yourself happy. It is a low cost way to live.
  • Nurture gratitude for your life. Remember that true beauty comes from within, from the positive qualities of your heart and mind. And most of all, be kind. Kindness is beautiful. Out of that will come happiness. And happiness is sexy!- Tina Turner
  • The surest way to be happy is to seek happiness for others. -Martin Luther King
  • Certainly things can go wrong, but we can make it better with our attitudes and with words. In many ways, we are our own well being. As soon as we suspect something- pray. Of we have wrongly brought it on ourselves, take care of it immediately. We are to care for our life to the best of our ability. An hour of true effort is worth a lifetime of well being.
  • I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness. It’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.- Brené Brown
  • When others are happy, be happy with them. If they are sad, share their sorrow. Romans 12:15
  • Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.- William Arthur Ward
  • Think like a proton. Always positive.
  • You can’t plant negative thoughts and reap positive energy.
  • Take a deep breath and think of the three things you are grateful for, right in this moment.
  • If you don’t believe its possible, no one will.
  • One day or day one? You decide.
  • Life is too short to be ordinary.
  • I feel that everyone’s searching for, the feeling that unites us all. Call it “God.” Before I go onstage every night, I pause and dedicate the performance to God, in the sense of “Allow me to surrender.” Onstage he feels an intimacy that feels natural, that transcendent. You get above and beyond if people like you or wondering how you are doing.Transcendence happens and when it does, there is nothing like it on the planet. It’s the moment people experience when they fall in love, which is equally frightening and exciting. That is what it feels like. – Hugh Jackman
  • When you focus on the goodness in your life you create more of it.- Oprah Winfrey
  • ‘Life doesn’t get any better than this’ is the realization that we have everything we need, not that it is any easier.
  • Life is full of hidden surprises. Think of them as life’s little bonuses. Small happenstances that make you realize that the universe is on your side. – Comic strip Pickles 8/24
  • Start each day with gratitude and it’s bound to go a bit better than if we didn’t.
  • The miracle of gratitude is that it shifts your perception to such an extent that it changes the world you see.
  • You may not be as fast on your feet, and the image in our mirror may be a little disappointing, but if you are still functioning and not in pain, gratitude should be the name of the game- Actress Betty White, age 98.
  • Gratitude sustains the soul. How can we experience grace if we don’t feel grateful?
  • Be grateful for blessings not yet received, for blessings unknown. Gratitude is a practice that opens us up to God’s gift. -Norman Vincent Peale
  • Whatever you do will come back to you…some call it karma but it is actually found here: what you_sow, you_reap
  • Video: Heart of a Teacher a message of gratitude for educators.
  • We are not promised precious moments forever so be filled with gratitude for the present.
  • People don’t remember what you say, but they do recall how you made them feel.
  • Those who pray together, stay together.
  • There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is. —Albert Einstein
  • In the right light, at the right time, everything is extraordinary. —Aaron Rose
  •  Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there. —Rumi
  • Gratitude is the only attitude.~ Cameron Diaz
  • The Gratitude Diaries: How a Year Looking on the Bright Side Can Transform Your Life (Dutton)  -Living gratefully leads to a richer, more fulfilling life.
  • To speak life means to think positively. It is important to choose words and thoughts that will uplift and inspire us especially when we face a trying time.
  • Our thoughts have the power to curse or bless us. Our words have power. focus on the words you speak. If it doesn’t serve, don’t speak it.
  • Gratitude comes from a place in your soul that knows the story could have ended differently.
  • Gratitude can unshackle us from toxic emotions.
  • Gratitude makes us feel good and when shared, uplifts others.
  • Start the day with the attitude that some things may go wrong, but by looking for good in everything around us–even in the things that go wrong- we will find much to be happy about.  We create our own atmosphere by deciding ahead of time to think, act, speak and be grateful…. and that draws even more good to us.
  • Video Appreciation Thank someone today who has touched your life.
  • Thank a Veteran. They are willing to go, in your place, to fight to keep America free. This is the very least you can do to honor them. (REMEMBER: We honor Veterans on Nov 11th each year. Memorial Day is a day to honor those who lost their lives in war, not everyone else who has passed.   PLEASE don’t get them confused.)
  • Acknowledge grandparents and siblings birthdays
  • When someone lets you in, in traffic, acknowledge their kindness with a wave….and be sure that you too, let others in, in traffic.
  • Never pass up an opportunity to tell all janitors, cooks, gardeners and garbage collectors you encounter each day how much their work means to the world.  (Notes of appreciation to the people who make your life better – the local police dept, the neighbor who rototills your garden, the manager of the grocery store, friends, members of the church, the postmaster, family members, pastor, neighbors, former teachers, classmates, clerks at Walmart.  The gratitude  from people who may have never been told they were appreciated will warm your heart.   This costs you nothing and can mean the world to someone.)
  • “You’re welcome” connotes that you’ve done something worthy of thanks—and thus that you are worthy of respect. If you want to inspire respect, say “You’re welcome” rather than “No problem”.

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Nurture an attitude of gratitude-

  • Keep a gratitude journal with big and little joys in your life.  It is a proven mood-booster. Share the list with others through e-mail or text.
  • Write down and identify three good things that have gone well for you and why. Refer to this often.
  • Think about the people who inspire you and consider how you can emulate the qualities that you most admire.
  • Write thank you notes to people you appreciate and let them know why.
  • Leave yourself reminders to look for the positives in your life such as  Post-it notes on the mirror or fridge.
  • Engage in mental subtraction-imagine what your life would be like if some positive event, joyous occasion or significant blessing hadn’t happened.
  • Take a thoughtful walk to appreciate the things around you-sights, sounds, the smell of freshly cut grass, a stranger’s smile or a landmark.

ATTITUDE See Gratitude (Beauty is on here. See also Smile ~ Smiling)

  • Life is all about attitude. You’re no better than anyone else, but nobody is better than you.
  • The key to good health is a good attitude. A good attitude is contagious. Be a carrier. -Unknown
  • Attitudes are contagious….Is yours worth catching?
  • Bored? Stay on the bus. The scenery will change.
  • If you have to tell someone something negative, first say something positive, then the negative and end with a positive.
  • It is important to follow rules, finish what you start, never give up, develop leadership skills, teamwork, stay positive and motivated.
  • Staying positive doesn’t mean you have to be happy all the time. It means that even on hard days you know that there are better ones coming.
  • Being positive won’t guarantee you will succeed. But being negative will guarantee you won’t.
  • Don’t feed negativity as it will get uglier, nagging and demanding your attention.
  • If your life is off-key, maybe it’s because you have been deafened by the negative self-talk that doesn’t let God get a word in edgewise. – Mark Batterson.
  • A a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.
  • Your attitude toward others,  work,  and your daily life are a reflection of your attitude toward God. – E. George.
  • “For success, attitude is equally as important as ability.” – Harry F. Banks
  • It’s not reality that makes us feel stuck: It’s the lens we use to view the world.
  • Sometimes when you’re in a dark place, you think you’ve been buried, but you’ve actually been planted…Be patient. Your time to grow is coming.
  • Patience is the ability to idle your motor when you feel like stripping your gears.
  • Inspiration and information without personal application will never amount to much transformation.
  • You can start late, look different, be uncertain and still succeed.
  • Video: Attitude is everything.
  • “The only disability in life is a bad attitude.”–Scott Hamilton
  • A bad attitude is like a flat tire. You can’t go anywhere until you change it.
  • “Your attitude not your aptitude will determine your altitude.” ~ Zig Ziglar
  • “If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.”-Charles R. Swindoll
  • Video: Finish Strong It’s more than a statement, it’s an attitude.
  • Video: Finish Strong Teen Athlete any teen athlete can learn from it.
  • Video: The Power of Attitude
  • The best way to turn an ugly attitude into a beautiful one was by doing good. Wherever we have the opportunity,  we should do good to everyone. When you do good things for others, good things come back to you.
  • Seeing the bad in the world and in people isn’t difficult or wise or insightful–it’s lazy. – Chip Gaines, TV show host
  • Change attitude and watch your blood pressure drop.
  •  Anger is an  acid  that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured. Mark Twain.
  • Anger is a condition in which the tongue works faster than the mind.
  • Clinging to anger at someone who has done something horrible to you continues to make you the victim.
  • He who says what he likes, must hear what he does not like.
  • ‘Believe me, every man has his secret sorrows, which the world knows not; and oftimes we call a man cold when he is only sad.’-Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
  • Inspire, motivate, encourage others around you. Bless them. You may never know how much it means and how far they will go because of your kind words.
  • Always leave people better than you found them. Hug the hurt. Kiss the broken. Befriend the lost. Love the lonely.
  • Hugs were invented to let others know you love them without saying anything. – Bill Keane
  • A hug is the shortest distance between friends.
  •  A hug is the perfect fit; one size fits all, and nobody minds if you exchange it.
  • Be kind and compassionate to one another.
  • Let God’s light shine, not only in your words, but in your deeds.
  • We rarely see the full spectrum of God’s plan and our simple deeds can spiral into much bigger blessings.- Delilah
  • Be a blessing. Three simple words, but what a profound impact we experience when we act on them. -Debbie Macomber.
  •  You will never regret being kind.
  • Be kind to someone every day.
  • Being kind is more important than being right. – Andy Rooney
  • Never underestimate the power of a kind word. -Anonymous
  • Just one person saying to me, “You’ve made my day!” makes my day. – Andy Rooney
  • Some great people make other people feel small; but, really great people make everyone feel great!
  • Beautiful minds inspire others.
  • Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people. – Eleanor Roosevelt.
  • Use your wit to amuse, not abuse.
  • Always leave loved ones with loving words…It may be the last time you see them.
  • Be a reflection of what you’d like to see in others. If you want love, give love. If you want honesty, give honesty. If you want respect, give respect. You get in return what you give. – unknown
  • Cheerfulness is the atmosphere in which all all things thrive. – Johann Paul Richter
  • Don’t let another man’s attitude hurt you. Be the first to reach out.
  • We can give support to others and balance their fears with our faith. We cannot rely on others to do our believing. We each must have faith of our own, but sometimes another person can say just the right thing and it makes another’s life happier and they feel more secure.
  • Beauty is found in someone who is kind, happy and authentic. – Bobbi Brown Cosmetics company founder.
  • Smiling is  one of the best beauty secrets.
  • Beauty pageants teach us to seek gratification from others rather from God.
  •  Happiness for me is peace of mind with myself, at peace with God, at peace with my family. – Mary J. Blige
  • People always ask me, “You have so much confidence. Where did that come from?” One day I decided that I was beautiful, and so I carried out my life as if I was beautiful. –Gabourey Sidibe, actor
  •  Every one of us possess the beauty of compassion we are born with our arms reaching out to embrace.
  • Everyone is my superior in that I can learn something from them. -Gandhi
  • You can respect and learn from people, even if you don’t like them. Be aware that you can learn something from everyone, because every person in the world knows something you don’t know. You can learn from everyone. No matter if you like them or don’t like them you can learn something, whether it is how to or how not to.
  • Treating all people with respect is a wonderful gift to carry throughout life. It costs nothing to treat someone with respect.
  • Respect a man, he will do the more. – James Howell
  • He that respects not, is not respected. – English Proverb
  • If you have some respect for people as they are, you can be more effective in helping them to become better than they are. – John W. Gardner
  • No matter what their perceived social standing to be treat everyone like they have worth-like they are important, because they are.  Include others in conversation.
  • Treat everyone fairly, with equal treatment.
  • Reap what you sow-  good  or bad. Just like Luke 6:38: Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.
  • You are one in 7.5 billion people in the world and it does not circle around you. Give to others. 
  • Your worth comes from esteeming yourself.
  • “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” – Sri Ram
  • Everything can be taken from a man, but one thing: the last of human freedoms–to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. Viktor Frankl
  • Choose to sit on the sunny side of the room instead of the dark.
  • The important thing is not what happens in life, but choices you make in response to what happens to you.
  • ‘Your past is nothing to do with your future. You can make life how you want it to be and you just need to take control of your life. Don’t let your parents’ life be yours.’  Fight through, life is what you make it. Story: here
  • Your future is determined by your present. Living a virtuous, harmonious  life predicts the direction of your future.  If your life is combative and unharmonious,  it indicates a  similiar future. What you do now sets the stage for what lies ahead. In other words, without changing your present patterns, you can’t avoid a related future. – Broomhilda


  • You reap what you sow. And that goes for attitudes. Angry thoughts attract anger. Frustration creates more frustration. Bitterness begets bitterness. The opposite is true. Kindness brings more kindness, positivity attracts positive people. Love creates more love.
  • True beauty comes from within, from the positive qualities of your heart and mind. And most of all, be kind. Kindness is beautiful. Out of that will come happiness. And happiness is sexy! -Tina Turner
  • The things we do outlast our mortality. They’re like pyramids that the Egyptians built to honor the Pharaohs. Only instead of being made of stone, they’re made out of memories people have of you.-R.J Palacio
  • Anyone can make a small gesture of kindness to another person that can effect change in the world.
  • No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. –Aesop
  • No gift will ever buy back a man’s love when you remove his self love. – Steinback
  • You can never tell when you do an act just what the result will be; for with every deed you are sowing a seed–though its harvest you may never see.
  • Be pretty if you can, witty if you must, but be gracious if it kills you. – Elsie De Wolfe.
  • For whatever a man might sow, that also he will reap. … in all this–“with what measure ye meet, it shall be measured to you again.” Galatians 6:7. (Kindness returns,)
  • I shall pass through this world but once. Any good, therefore, that I can do or any kindness I can show to any human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again. I expect to pass through this world but once. -Stephen Grellet
  • Kindness is the golden chain by which society is bound together–Goethe
  • Be kind to everyone you meet. You never know what battle they are fighting. They may have just learned they or a loved one has  cancer. Everyone you know is engaged in a really tough battle, if you could only see behind the curtain.
  • With kindness you can inspire, motivate and encourage others.
  • Seldom do we realize the importance of small deeds or to what degree of greatness unnoticed kindness leads.- Helen Steiner Rice
  • Do random acts of kindness.
  • In some way, no matter how small, make the way smoother for at least one person.
  • We can focus on kindness to make this world better. Kind kids grow up to be kind adults.When we teach kids to describe their acts of kindness the acts of kindness kids do is amazing.
  • The best portion of a good man’s life is his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and love. -Wordworth
  • It is only in the giving of oneself to others that we truly live- Ethel Percy Andrus
  • Giving to others- every man shall give as he is able. Deuteronomy 16:17
  • We find ‘meaning’ in our lives from giving a part of ourselves away to others, using our highest strength and talents to belong to and serve the Lord.
  • To have joy, one must share it.  -Lord Byron
  • Researchers found that people leading meaningful lives get joy from giving to others while happy people get joy by receiving. People who tend to be happy think life is easy, are in good physical health, and are able to buy the things that they want and need. The happy life is defined by a lack of stress or worry. Happiness without meaning characterizes a relatively shallow, self-absorbed, or even selfish life, in which things go well, needs and desire are easily satisfied, and difficult or taxing entanglements are avoided. -Study published in the Journal of Positive Psychology
  • What sets human beings apart from animals is not the pursuit of happiness, but the pursuit of meaning- Roy Baumeister.
  • Giving to others 2 “So when you give to the needy, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others. Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full. 3 But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, 4 so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you. Matthew 6:2-4
  • To receive a gift is truly a pleasure, And it is the giver who receive the treasure.
  • Acts of Kindness Can Create a Domino Effect in Your Community!


  • It is not what happened to us yesterday that makes the difference in our attitudes and the way we act. It is the total of our yesterdays.  We have no idea how rooted our beliefs and thoughts and behavior patterns re in childhood. As hard as we try to understand who we are by looking at today’s reflection, it is the childhood influence that holds the key.  We should be careful what we say and do and teach our children.
  • The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. -unknown
  • Listen to your children. Let them talk. Never brush them aside. Never consider their words trivial. Hold their hands whenever can.  Much love will be transferred, much warmth to remember.
  • It is important for parents to live the same things they teach.
  • Spend time with your children. It’s the best investment you will ever make.
  • No child can get all the necessary support at home and million of poor children get no support at all. That is what makes a wise, educated, warm hearted teacher  so vital to the minds, hearts and souls of this country’s children. -unknown
  • Every child’s potential should be recognized and nurtured. All kids need a little encouragement. You would not believe the number of people who are disregarded just because their potential on paper doesn’t seem so great- Octavia Spencer.
  • Let your kids earn the money to buy for someone who wouldn’t have a nice Thanksgiving. They can learn the power they possess to make another person’s life better.
  • Give your kids enough money to do something, not enough to do nothing.- The movie The Descendants.
  • We all need someone- A structure cannot stand without support.
  • Having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feeling in the world. – Andy Rooney
  • You should never say no to a gift from a child. -Andy Rooney

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Food brings people together. It doesn’t matter who you are or where you come from or what you’ve done, you can sit down and share food with someone and something transformational happens.

FRIENDS friends/ friend friend

  • Video: Friends Celebrating the joys of friendship
  • My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.- Henry Ford
  • To stay young, keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down. (Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!)  (See aging)
  • You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people, than in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
  • Your friends are your greatest treasure.
  • Friendship, like the immortality of the soul, is too good to believe. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • Friends is a way of speaking without words.
  • The best and most beautiful things of this world can’t be seen or touched. They  must be felt by the heart.
  • Carve your name on hearts and not on marble.
  • There is in friendship something of all relations, and something above them all. It is the golden thread that ties the hearts of all the world. – John Evelyn
  • When you are with someone you trust never needing to pretend, Someone who helps you know yourself…You know you’re with a friend. – Amanda Bradley
  • Friends are an important part of sharing the burden and worry of each day. Trying to  handle it all alone  leads to a feeling of isolation.
  • Friends are God’s way of taking care of us.
  • Birds of a feather flock together while eagles soar.
  • Think twice before burdening a friend with a secret. -Life’s Little Instruction Book
  • You really are judged by the company you keep. You are the sum total of the five people you spend the most time with. Choose your five wisely, making sure you choose the right ones. They are like the army you go through life with.
  • Know your friends, but know your enemies better. (Know their tactics.)
  • Believing the best in people usually brings out the best in them.
  • In everyone’s life there is usually one so-called friend who is more like a trouble maker. They may do nice things, but basically they are malevolent. (Malevolent:  wishing harm to others; malicious; rejoicing in another’s misfortune.)
  • Keep good company or none. Good company and good conversation are the sinews of virtue. When you wallow with pigs, expect to get dirty. 
  • No matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with. – Andy Rooney
  • Sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and heart to understand. -Andy Rooney
  • Friendship is love with understanding- Ancient proverb
  • The language of friendship is not words but meanings.- Henry David Thoreau
  • Without confidence there is no friendship. – Epicurus
  • When friends meet, hearts warm.
  • My friend is one whom I can associate with my choicest thoughts. – Henry David Thoreau

1936 How to Win Friends and Influence people – Dale Carnegie  went from a poor Missouri farm boy making five cents per hour to an international success making a dollar a minute teaching executives “how to win friends and influence people” .

  • Become really interested in others. “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” – Dale Carnegie
  • See things, as often as possible, from their point of view (the honey-versus-vinegar approach).
  • Remember that a man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
  • A one minute smile trial. Relax your face, raise the corners of your mouth slightly in a subtle “Mona Lisa’ smile and simultaneously feel your eyes soften. Now frown and sense the emotional and energetic shift. Feel the difference?
  • Smile! A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks. People with smiles get higher “cuteness” ratings!
  • Smiling increases your face value.
  • Your joy is the source of your smile, but sometimes your smile can be the source of your joy. – unknown
  • Never underestimate the importance of having a person in your life who can always make you smile.
  • Look for strength in people, not weakness; good, not evil. Most of us find what we search for.
  • Make others feel important, using appreciation rather than flattery.  Praise people. If you are trying to change someone, praise every slight improvement.
  • Find the good and praise it.
  • Praise others, with true praise, not flattery. It makes others feel significant.
  • Anything scarce is valuable; praise, for example.
  • Learn to give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you’ll have no time for the criticism of others.
  • Be direct in praising and indirect in criticizing.
  • Let people “save face.” If you have an idea you want someone to adopt, let him think the idea is his.
  • If you are trying to win someone to you way of thinking as a last resort throw down the challenge ) the “I bet you can’t do it” approach.


  • “One of the greatest diseases is to be nobody to anybody.” — Mother Teresa
  • The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread. —Mother Teresa
  • “’s awful not to be loved. It’s the worst thing in the world…It makes you mean, and violent, and cruel.” ― John Steinbeck, East of Eden
  • Everybody just wants to be acknowledged. What every child wants to know is, ‘Do your eyes light up when I enter the room? Do you hear me and did  what I say mean anything to you? That is all they are looking for. That is what everybody is looking for. If we understand that, we can easily communicate with people around the world.-unknown
  •  There is no limit to how much you can love.
  • Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.1 Corinthians 13:4-7
  • I think half or almost all of the pain in the world…is people not feeling seen. It’s like Mr. Rogers, my hero, says: Love is at the root of everything….love or the lack of it. –Constance Wu, actor
  • When you speak to a person always look into their eyes. People are  hungry for acknowledgement, eye contact, which social media has taken away.
  • Concentrate on making others feel special. Try to live so that people miss you when you are gone.
  • Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for by this some have entertained angels without knowing it. Hebrews 13:2 (NASB)   (Angels come to visit us, and we only know them when they are gone! – George Elliot)
  • Find ways to include everyone. Make them feel as if there is nothing more valuable than the time you are able to spend with them.
  •  Most people need love and acceptance more than they need advice. -Bob Goff, motivational speaker.
  • One of the basic needs of human nature is to be accepted. We fear rejection and somehow get the idea that we are only worth what other people think we are worth. We allow their personal ups and downs to put limits on our self image and the opinions we hold on most everything. but they, also, have a need for acceptance and look for someone else to supply it. Looking for approval can become a vicious circle where people hang together in tight little knots for ego preservation. We forget that self-acceptance is a necessity. When we have earned our own self-respect, gained our own self-confidence, we no longer have to worry about who likes us. We’ve been searching for ourselves in other people and it’s an inside job, a need to be centered and poised in our own self-identity. – Joyce Hifler
  • Looking for validation with acceptance- Don’t expect others to treat you better than you treat yourself. (Realize you are part of the problem.)  Don’t let some things live in your mind.  Self-talk-I choose today to give myself the best gift ever. Focus on being grateful for what the Lord has done for  you (health, family, job food etc).  Energy flows where energy grows.
  • Ego is just an overdressed insecurity.
  • The coolest people don’t need to wear another’s label. (clothing)
  • How you say it counts! Studies show that 38% of your meaning is conveyed by how you sound.
  • Be a calming presence. A touch of a hand and a gentle caress are all ways to make an emotional connection. (Ministry of presence.)
  • Be the person you needed when you were younger.
  • The sanest thing in this world is love. —Anne Sexton
  • Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer is a message of acceptance for those who appear different.
  • When you meet a quiet person, remember ‘Still waters run deep.”
  • Bringing out the best in others is the mark of a successful person.
  • Not every person looks a certain way. Each is unique, rare, one of a kind.
  • See situations through a different lens: Try to look at things through the other person’s eyes.
  • Look people in eye. Eyes are the window of the soul.
  • Always acknowledge anything anyone does for you with a genuine thank you. You are not entitled! Send a thank you card, a thank you e-mail or pick up the phone and make the call immediately. (You know how it feels to not be thanked.) Always say “thank you” and not the kind of half-hearted utterance you gave at age three when Mom was standing over you, prompting you. (God, too, likes to hear a thank you.)
  • Write thank you notes to those you are grateful to have in your life. hair stylist and friends. You never know how many you will touch with your kindness Readers Digest March 2019
  •  “Pay it forward” when someone does something nice for you.
  • If you are lucky enough to be successful , you have a responsibility to give back. Pay it forward.
  • Just a thought: So many have done kind things for me in my life.  If I had tried to pay forward just a single kindness for every act of kindness I had received over the years and each of those people did one the same, think how wonderful this world would be.
  • Treat everyone you meet as if they are the most important person in the world–because they are important. If not to you, then to someone; and if not today, then perhaps tomorrow. -From the Book The Power of nice.
  • MANUAL WORKERS DESERVE A HAND – HOLD `LOWLY’ PROFESSIONS IN HIGH ESTEEM  By Abigail Van Buren  Published: June 17, 1992 12:00 am DEAR ABBY: I cannot forget a letter you had in your column some time ago. It was written by a person who didn’t know what to say when he (or she) was asked what he did for a living. From the tone of the letter I concluded that the person was working for minimum wage, or doing some kind of manual labor of which he was somewhat ashamed. This, coupled with the following remark a school principal made to my son, prompts this letter. My son was having problems in school, so his teacher took him to the principal. In talking to my son, the principal asked, “Do you want to be a ditch digger all your life?” My son replied, “What’s wrong with being a ditch digger? It’s honest work.”The principal called me to school because of my son’s “smart mouth.” When the principal repeated what my son had said, I responded: “Nothing was wrong with what he said. If there were no ditch diggers we’d be up to our necks in water and filth.” I also told the principal he was dead wrong to demean ditch diggers, and repeated what my son had said. “It’s honest work.”Then I went on to say: “I am a professional who works with professionals, and I get really steamed when my co-workers look down on people who are minimum-wage laborers. If no one picked up the garbage, cleaned the septic tanks, laid sewage pipes, picked the crops and worked in the fields, where would we be? This country was founded on hard work – most of it manual labor. Pride comes in doing the best you can with whatever talents you possess.”I will close with a comment I heard a long time ago. I don’t know the author, but it goes something like this:”Use what talents you possess, for the woods would be silent if no birds sang except the best.” – C.V.J.

A wonderful story about the importance of paying attention to others and being kind to them.

Wanting to graduate with a perfect GPA Walt had spent many hours studying and had maintained a 4.0 average all the way through college. On the final exam in his business course the teacher handed out the exam but both sides were blank. The professor explained: “I’ve taught you everything I can teach you about business in the last 10 weeks, but in your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say “hello.” The last question which would count toward the quiz grade was: What’s the name of the lady who cleans this building?” Walt handed in his paper, leaving that last question blank. “It was the only test I ever failed. I didn’t graduate with a perfect GPA. I got the ‘B’ I deserved. Her name was Dorothy (Dottie), and I didn’t know Dorothy. I’d seen her, but I’d never taken the time to ask her name. This was one of the biggest most important career lessons I ever learned and I’ve never forgotten it. I’ve tried to know every Dorothy I’ve worked with ever since.” -Walt is Walt Bettinger, CEO of Charles Schwab.

  • His experience is a great reminder of what really matters in life. We meet many people every week – clients, customers, colleagues, the checkout girl at the grocery store, the guy at the toll booth. Each one is significant.
  • One of the nicest things you can ever do is to make sure no one is forgotten.
  • Be present and passionate about people. Be on the lookout for Dorothy, quiet leaders and silent heroes. Each person who crosses our path gives us an opportunity to acknowledge them, even if it’s just a smile and a hello. The greatest gift we could give another is to truly see them.  Make eye contact with people  and speak. If you see someone frequently  learn their name and use it when you speak to them.
  • Every person has a story and every story is important.
  • Never look down on anyone unless you are helping them up.


  • Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.”  -Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
  • Because we never know what another person is going through, your smile may be the only one they see all day.
  • Smiling is on Dale Carnegie’s list of ‘6 ways to make people like you’ in his book How to Win Friends and Influence People.
  • Never underestimate the power of a smile …..even when you don’t feel like it.
  • Around the world, everyone smiles in the same language.
  • When you smile at someone first, even a complete stranger,  it will usually be returned.
  • The “feel-good chemicals” that your smile generates, bring about a feeling of euphoria elevating both your mood and the other person’s.
  • Because miles are contagious and all people smile in the same language, your smile can be the beginning of a chain reaction as it is then passed on to others.
  • Smiling is a form of exercise.
  • The simple act of smiling creates an overall feeling of well-being. Those who smile at others are generally happier, less stressed and healthier, which has an impact on lifespan.   Research shows that smiling regulates your heart and blood pressure,  decreases depression and anxiety, reduces inflammation, physical pain and discomfort as well as stress levels and tension, which strengthens your immune system.
    The facial muscles that are used to smile give you a more youthful and attractive appearance, which can boost self-esteem.
  • When you enter a room, you can “own it” with your smile.  A smile exudes confidence and competence,  inducing feelings of trust,  putting others at ease,  making them feel comfortable quickly.   Those who smile regularly are often looked on as leaders, are assumed to be more motivated, and have greater problem solving skills to handle high-pressure situations,  making them more likely to get a promotion or close a business deal.


  •  Fighting for something- If you truly believe in your soul that the world would be a better place, that the course of history and your corner of mankind  will truly be better stand up and be a man. But, if you know in your heart, deep down inside, the it doesn’t really matter, except to you and your ego, then be a real man.  Even though you were right:  Apologize for an argument, even if you aren’t wrong. You don’t need to be wrong to apologize for an argument. It is a great way to smooth over a disagreement.  Because  a man should only stand up for the things that truly matter.
  • You got to know what you know and then have enough intelligence and little enough ego to say, “This is where I need help”. Sterling K. Brown


  • We each crave being accepted by others because society has taught us that being accepted by others is a sign of our value in the world. When we don’t feel acceptance by society we feel like we aren’t visible or a voice. We feel alone, isolated and scared and there is no place for us in the world. We can each nurture others by being a voice and ally for those who feel unaccepted. In doing so, we become free to we accept ourselves and live a life of authenticity.
  • Rest in God, who already holds you safely in His hands.
  • We are all in this life together. It would be awful to think that you are alone. We need other people. Sometimes it takes a stranger to show you that even in a time of need you are never alone.
  • The best way to have a friend is to be one. Be a human engineer- 100% positive, inspire on they feel low, be enthusiastic, to generate enthusiasm.  People who aren’t enthused don’t have Christ in them
  • Tom Cruise, Elon Must and Joanna Gaines were lonely (See under bullies)


  • Those whom we support hold us up in life, so show kindness and compassion; be supportive of all.
  • Even the smallest acts can leave an incalculable impact.We may do something for someone else that we don’t even remember, but it may cause that other person’s life to turn in some positive way.
  • Express sympathy  when a friend loses one they love–flowers, a call, a card, a casserole, a listening ear,  mow their yard or just show up and don’t ask what you can do. Never say, “Call me if you need something!” They need it, they just don’t know what it is as their mind isn’t clear. Figure out what needs to be done and just do it!  Grand words are meaningless, but thoughtful actions are timeless.   This is endearing to some and will help make friends even better friends.
  • If you don’t know someone well and they mention that they lost someone at least tell them you are sorry for their loss and you hope they find peace.
  • Showing up as a witness to someone else’s loss is a vital expression of our own humanity. (On attending the funeral when someone you care about loses a loved one.)   Ask Amy 12/19/18
  • When someone is hurting respond to their pain, without being thrown by their behavior. Simply open your heart and be fully present to them.; move toward their suffering instead of away from it. They may be feeling deep regret, that they have let their loved one down, by spending so much time working or maybe they didn’t say I love you enough. Use their memories to remind them of their gestures of affection and acts of loyalty and sacrifice. Maybe they worked the long hours away from home to support them or put  in overtime to pay for their meds. Long hours with them at an oncology clinic and building a wheel chair ramp, so their loved one could go outside are expressions of love.

The Truth about helping others:

  • None of us has the answers to all of the world’s problems, but it is in our power to, as Mother Teresa used to say, “Do small things with great love.”
  • God’s bounty knows no limits if we give instead of hold; it circles round and round again and returns to us tenfold. (Helping others)
  • One Acre Fund supplies seeds, fertilizer, credit to pay for it and classes teaching modern farming methods. (Severely malnourished children) For I was hungry and you fed me. See Matthew 25:31-46
  • Helping others- Help others to be self-sufficient, with the goal of their eventually helping others.
  • At the end of life we will not be judged by how many diplomas we have received, how much money we have made, how many great things we have done. We will be judged by “I was hungry and you gave me food to eat…I was naked and you clothed me. I was homeless and you took me in. ~ Mother Teresa
  •  “When  Jesus returns he will  put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left.  To those on his right He will tell them they are “blessed by God and will receive their inheritance, which is the kingdom prepared for them since the creation of the world. ” The reason was because when Jesus was hungry they gave Him something to eat,   something to drink when He was thirsty invited Him in when he was a stranger   clothed him, when He needed clothes, looked after Him  when He was sick and came to visit Him in prison. The righteous will ask Him  when did they do those things and Jesus will reply, that whatever they did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters* of mine, they did for Him. ’Matthew 25: 31-46
  • Look, I am coming soon! My reward is with me, and I will give to each person according to what they have done. Rev 22:12
  • *Whom are His brothers and sisters?  For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother.”  –  Matthew 12:50 ESV           “Look, I am coming soon! My reward is with me, and I will give to each person according to what they have done. Rev 22:12


JOBS / CAREER/ WORK/ OPPORTUNITY/ Encourage/. ctrl f on the words teamwork, goals and ‘happen’

  • Successful people fear failing, criticism, and letting others down. That is why they try so hard,  why they pay attention to detail to get every possible duck in a row.  (Teachers on the first day of school, nurses making life-or-death decisions, first time moms.) Careers are built because of nervousness.
  • Don’t trash anyone. Always keep your personal feelings about a colleague close to the vest. Behave professionally, do your work, stand up for yourself and your work with confidence, take correction when you are wrong and direction when you need it and try to demonstrate that you can work with a variety of people.
  • People will follow a winner. That is why you can’t talk negative. Always be positive, even if it looks impossible.
  • Upbeat people are twice as likely to keep their jobs.
  • In a meeting lean slightly froward 10 send signals that your’re listening and make your boss view you more favorably
  • If you don’t have time to do your work well, when will you hate time to do it over?
  • Live to work by the work of your hands.
  • Messy desk- keep it clean and you are viewed more favorably by management, more efficient, organized and imaginative.
  • Go for the amazing. Each morning pray for the safety of the employees. When it looks like business is slowing down, pray for enough work to avoid layoffs. (And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper. Psalm 1:3)
  • If you are the boss… Be sure to let them know how proud you are of them. A big congratulations to each of the players is due.
  • To get employees to do what you want… At the Bronx Zoo  a particular gorilla  sat in the doorway when the cage needed cleaning.  Keepers waved bananas enticingly to get the ape to move,  but it ignored them or snatched the food and ran back inside.  Banana waving was  an attempt to reinforce behavior that hadn’t occurred yet ( bribery).  The problem was solved by ignoring the gorilla when it sat in the doorway, but reinforce it with food whenever it did happen to to out by itself.  A reinforcement must be something the subject wants . Rain is a positive reinforcement to ducks, negative to cats. Food is not a reinforcement if you are full. Thus, it’s useful to have a variety of reinforcements for any training situation.
  • Picking up trash in the company parking lot even if not your job shows you are a potential leader.
  • The worst bankrupt is the man who has lost his enthusiasm. Let a man lose everything in the world, but his enthusiasm and he will come through again to success – H.W. Arnold
  • Like what you do; if you don’t like it, do something else. (If you are in a job in which you can’t be happy, then get another job.)
  • Every job is a self-portrait of the person who did it. Autograph your work with excellence.
  • No matter your profession, work isn’t the solid foundation you might want it to be. It will not bring you great joy.   Make God your  #1 priority, family second and everything else will fall into place. Your joy and strength will come from God.  – unknown      “The joy of the Lord is my strength.” ( Nehemiah 8:10)
  • Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of inheritance.
  • Whatever you do,  do it with integrity. Wherever you go, go as a leader. Whomever you serve, serve with caring. And never, ever give up.
  • Earning pay excites the mind more than a windfall of cash or nabbing a lottery jackpot according to Emory University researchers
  • The Chinese use two brush strokes to write the word ‘crisis’. One brush stroke stands for danger: the other for opportunity. In a crisis, be aware of the danger–but recognize the opportunity. –Richard Milhous Nixon.
  • A man is meant to work, to go out into the world and trust in God to make his dreams come true.
  • Upbeat people are twice as likely to keep their jobs. Be kind a thoughtful. It is not beneath you to make coffee or refill the copier.
  • Your job isn’t to make a living but to make a life.
  • Some parts of your job may not be exciting, but find ways to make it rewarding. Reshape your job to fit your situation.    Enthusiasm carries us over the hump. Amazing what an enthusiastic person can accomplish. Enthusiasm released to carry us over the obstacle. Look for and create the opportunity.
  • The difference between an obstacle and an opportunity is our attitude toward it. Every opportunity has a difficulty, and every difficulty  has an opportunity.
  • Every problem is an opportunity. Difficulties often become challenges to make you a bigger, broader, better or more beautiful person than ever before.
  • Opportunities multiply as they are seized. —Sun Tsu
  • Opportunities will come, but you’ve got to be ready. Study, practice,  visualize a full dress rehearsal in your head, picture the outcome, pray. If you think positively about what lies ahead, it often comes to pass. There are always hurdles in life. Picture yourself going over them, leaping form one challenge to the next and you will accomplish anything.
  • “Spend eighty percent of your time focusing on the opportunities of tomorrow rather than the problems of yesterday.” – Brian Tracy
  • “Opportunities don’t happen. You create them.” — Chris Grosser
  • Opportunities are like sunrises. IF you wait too long, you miss them.  -William Arthur Ward.
  • God will give you an abundance of opportunities and possibilities. Hope and courage gives you miracles and blessings.
  •  “There is no security on the earth, there is only opportunity.”–General Douglas MacArthur
  • Difficulties are opportunities for inner growth.
  • Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.”–Thomas Edison
  • “I feel that luck is preparation meeting opportunity.”–Oprah Winfrey
  • Do not suppose opportunity will knock twice at your door- Sebastian Roch Nicolas
  •  A door closes….is the push needed to get out there and find something more exciting.
  • Chance opportunities are really consequences of courageous acts of faith, conscious decisions to believe that good things can happen and will.
  • There is opportunity in every obstacle. One chapter ends and another begins.
  • A problem is just an opportunity or a challenge.
  • Don’t avoid a problem. Face it directly by using your faith to deal with it. Look for the opportunities, not problems. Don’t study the problem; study the solution.
  • “We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.”- C. Swindoll
  • David battled Goliath with a slingshot. Gideon led a small army or Israelites. Both men faced a job that seemed impossible and came out victorious.
  • Opportunity is rare, and a wise man will not let it go by him. -Bayard Taylor
  • Sometimes when we go through such difficult experiences, it can feel like we’re in a never-ending winter and that spring will never come. But the greatest gifts of wisdom are often found within such challenges. I now have a heightened appreciation of everyday life and feel more deeply how precious our time on Earth is. I want to keep encouraging as many people as I can to cherish their lives. If I can help even one more person to become happy, then I’ve succeeded.- Tina Turner
  • Enthusiasm reflects confidence, spreads good cheer, raises morale, inspires associates, arouses loyalty, and laughs at adversity…it is beyond price- Allan Cox
  • Enthusiasm, like measles, mumps and the common cold is highly contagious.- Emory Ward
  • The more you learn the more it will help later in life. One female attorney knew how to drive a tractor and put it on her resume. She got hired.
  • There is never a point, as long as there’s breath in our body and one brain cell that’s still hopping along, that we cannot continue to grow and to learn.
  • Secrets of Straight-A Students | Reader’s Digest
  • Love what you do or do something else. You can’t be good at anything you don’t love. People will do more business with you when they can tell and know  that you love what you do. – Larry Winget
  • Nobody ever said on their deathbed, I wish I had spent more time at the office or   had more time for work.”You don’t want the end to come and you wish you had loved more, smelled more roses, reached out to helped others more. You have to do that now.
  • When we are standing at a parent’s deathbed we realize seconds after they pass that we should have gotten together more often.
  •  If you get laid off, you may have to return to school but some have shared that to prevail (they end up earning more than their previous income) by keeping their head up, maintaining a positive attitude and even returning to school if they have to, to learn all they can.
  • Every exit is an entry to something else.
  • Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
  • Don’t aspire to make a living. Aspire to make a difference. ~ Denzel Washington
  • Video: The Power of Teamwork Nine key principles inspired by the Blue Angels.
  • Teamwork- where you make others look good.
  • Teamwork is the fuel that allows common people to attain uncommon results.
  • One of the best examples of the importance of teamwork comes from nature. As each goose flaps its wings it creates an “uplift” for the birds that follow. By flying in a “V” formation, the whole flock adds 71% greater flying range than if each bird flew alone. When a goose falls out of formation, it suddenly feels the drag and resistance of flying alone. It quickly moves back into formation to take advantage of the lifting power of the bird immediately in front of it. When the lead goose tires, it rotates back into formation and another goose flies to the point position. The geese flying in formation honk to encourage those up front to keep up their speed. When a goose gets sick, wounded or shot down, two geese drop out of formation and follow it to help and protect it. They stay with it until it dies or is able to fly again. Then, they launch out with another formation or catch up with the flock. (People who share a common direction and sense of community can get where they are going quicker and easier because they are traveling on the thrust of one another. Staying in formation with those headed where we want to go they are willing to accept their help and give our help to others. Taking turns doing the hard tasks and sharing leadership,  interdependent on each other’s skills, capabilities and unique arrangements of gifts, talents or resources. where there is encouragement, the production is much greater. The power of encouragement is the quality of honking we seek. stand by each other in difficult times as well as when we are strong.
  •  “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” – Mark Twain 
  • The way to get things done is not to mind who gets the credit for doing them.
  • There are two kinds of people, those that do the work and those that take the credit. Try to be in the first group; there’s less competition there.
  • Attempt the impossible to improve your work. Bette Davis
  • If we attend continually and promptly   the little that we can do, we shall long be surprised to find out how little remains that we cannot do –Samuel Butler.
  • The secret of joy in work is contained in one word- Excellence  ~ Pearl S. Buck
  • It is more important to be competent than to be liked. What makes one person like you makes another hate you, so being liked by everyone is unattainable. You may as well be competent. There is no “I” in team.
  • Never be afraid to pause on the road. Many times it will be the best part of the journey.
  •  Learn to say no to all the wasteful things you are asked to do. When you count the hours, and to use each day to the fullest of  your creative energy. If you deal with the present, you don’t have to worry about the future.
  • It is your right to choose what you do and don’t do, to choose what you believe and don’t believe; to curate your life and your own perspective. Say no to things y0u don’t want to do. -borrowed
  • Video: The Simple Truths of Service  inspired by Johnny the Bagger
  • Most millionaires live modestly and prize frugality, according to Thomas Stanley and William Danko who researched the habits of  America’s wealthy into a bestselling book called The Millionaire Next Door. Unlike Bill Gates, most made their money from from boring, niche businesses.  Popular millionaire occupations: owning ambulance services, cafeterias, funeral homes, mobile home parks and meat-processing plants. The very rich head companies that control pests, distribute wholesale groceries, run tugboats and curtains.   Mundane categories of businesses that provide wealth of their owners as dull-normal industries don’t attract a great deal of competition, and demand for their offering is not usually subject to rapid downturn.   (career/job).


  • In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps. Proverbs 16:9
  • Life is like a road. Sometimes there is a bend in the road that we can’t see beyond. But God sees. He knows the way and he will guide us.
  • For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11
  • Our job in this life is not to shape ourselves into some ideal we imagine we ought to be, but to find out who we already are and become it.

JOB LOSS- for everything you lose, you gain something else.

  • Some obstacles work out for the better because God knows that without those you wouldn’t be as strong as you are.
  • Do everything you can to prove you can!
  • What are your marketable skills? You can always work hard and reinvent yourself.
  • You are not your job. Things can change beyond your control. You are not worthy because of what you do.Your worth comes from esteeming yourself.
  • A person’s self-esteem is often tied to his/her work. Losing a job can be very traumatic. When someone is laid off or fired, it can have a serious psychological effect. In our culture, men and women often define themselves by the jobs they hold. If you listen closely, you’ll hear people be introduced by their name, followed closely by their job title. This usually happens when their work is in a field that is highly visible or exciting. But a person’s job tells you nothing about a person’s character or value.
    It is wise to help others understand that personal worth is not tied to a job. Many people have lost one job only to find that this was God’s way of redirecting their lives. Be an encourager by pointing to God, acknowledging His provision for those who will look to Him as the Source of all things.
    This can also be an important time for spiritual growth. If a person is not a believer in Christ, losing a job could be God’s way of getting one’s attention, opening the way to consider the need for salvation and for God’s direction in life. For those who know the Lord, pray that they will rely on the Lord to reveal the next step in life, because He promises never to leave or forsake us. (Hebrews 13:5). (My Answer by Billy Graham)
  • You did not get where you are overnight. Change takes time and lasting change takes effort.
  • Don’t look back except to see how far you’ve come.


  • If Plan A doesn’t work there are 25 other letters in the alphabet.
  • No one escapes adversity. The challenge is to overcome it the best we can.
  • You should never let adversity get you down–except on your knees.
  • Enthusiasm reflects confidence, spreads good cheer, raises morale, inspires associates, arouses loyalty, and laughs at adversity…it is beyond price- Allan Cox
  • When someone tells you no, why do you believe it? There are excellent brain surgeons who cannot read, who would not take no for an answer. They found a different way.
  • Those who become a success don’t set down and say ,”OK”. They think “Bite me”! I’ll show you”,  and they become successful  writers or the math whiz etc, but they do need stimulation to do it. (Reinvent yourself!)
  • Don’t cover your head.  God has a plan for you.
  • Don’t limit God. The more you honor Him, the more you will see His blessings.



  •  To make good use of your time, know what is important. To become a problem solver learn to establish priorities.
  • The busiest people seem to have the most time because they leave so little to chance. They put things on the calendar and schedule regular appointments for haircuts, dental, etc.
  • Answers come fastest to the relaxed mind.
  • Give something your best shot for the next 3 hours, then set work aside and go do something fun. Never work on Fri night, Sat or Sun.
  • Leonardo da Vinci felt that he did his best only after he’d taken a break from what he was doing as it gave him a fresh perspective as it recharged him  so he had more energy and focus. Every now and then, go away, have a little relaxation for when you come back to your work, your judgment will be surer. – Leonardo da Vinci
  • The ability to concentrate and to use your time well is everything if you want to succeed. Since college, I’ve worked hard during the week and, except for periods of crisis, kept my weekends free for family and recreation. Every Sunday night I get the adrenaline going by making a list of what I want to accomplish during the coming week by making an outline.I’m amazed by the number of people who can’t seem to control their own schedules. Over the years, many executives have said to me with pride: “Boy, I worked so hard last year that I didn’t take a vacation.” I always feel like responding: “You dummy. You mean to tell me that you can take responsibility for an eight-million dollar project and you can’t plan two weeks out of the year to have some fun?- Iococca, with William Novak (Bantam)

Harvey Mackay “SWIM WITH THE SHARKS” (inspiration for work)


  • If you have the ability to sell something, you will never go hungry. Video: Sales Motivation
  • Plan your strategy.
  • Consultative selling- value added. Provide knowledge with  integrity.  Most customers don’t know what they want. Salesman’s job is to help them find out. Learn what they want to use it for, who else will be using it, how much can they afford, so you can figure out best plan. Tell me about problems you are having. (Ask the questions…You spend x to get x. Makes you or save you X…so price isn’t important? )
  • Teach the customer. Be the trusted advisor. (Fish don’t know about water. People don’t know about air.)
  • Always show value added.  I can’t beat on price but I can on value. Our value proposes it will bring….
  • Call up your customer 30 days after the sale and ask How do your friends like it? Even if his/her friends don’t like it, he/she won’t be able to admit it. They need to justify in own mind that they made a good buy, then ask names and number of his/her  friends.
  • Selling something- Give a little background. Everybody has a story. Example:When people know about the family it makes the auctioneers job easier as it gives their possessions more value. All you have to do is give them a chance to tell it.
  • He who has a thing to sell and goes and whispers in a well, is not so apt to get the money as he who climbs a tree and hollers.


  • In the valley of the blind, the one-eyed man is king. (MEANING: even a person with limited abilities and knowledge is at a great advantage in the company of those with lesser abilities and less knowledge than he. )
  • When your only experience in business is that you have worked for a business does not give you knowledge to run one.
  •  Knowledge is of two kinds. We know a subject ourselves or we know where we can get the information- Samuel Johnson
  • Knowledge is proud because she knows so much. Wisdom is humble because she knows so little.
  • Knowledge is power only if it is used. Ask. Read. Network, Trust your instincts. Stay alert. Watch for trends.
  • Knowledge may be power, but enthusiasm pulls the switch…. while Henry David Thoreau said “None are so old as those who have outlived enthusiasm”
  •  What you want in life is a function of what you think you deserve–and can achieve. Make a commitment to obtaining knowledge. Make do with what you have against seemingly insurmountable odds. And as you move ahead, pass on y0ur optimism and faith to the next generation. -Vernon E. Jordan , Jr.                    education
  • “The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will.” – Vince Lombardi
  • The heights by great men reached and kept Were not attained by sudden flight, But they, while their companions slept, Were toiling upward in the night. -Henry Wadsworth Longfellow’s lines from the Ladder of St. Augustine


  • Lazy people who take handouts are less healthy, less wealthy and less happy.
  • If you don’t work you don’t eat, (2nd Thessalonians 3:10). This Bible verse doesn’t pertain to those who cannot work due to physical challenges, bodily diseases, old age, and the greed of employers. (‘Unwilling’ to work  is what everybody misses.)
  • Don’t ask the Lord to guide your footsteps, if you are not willing to move your feet.
  •  Never be idle. If your hands cannot be employed usefully, attend to the culture of your mind.
  • There is no pleasure in having nothing to do.

SNOBBISH See judgment

  • People often appear aloof and act superior  because they feel inadequate or inferior. (Those who talk a lot about money and inheritance want to associate with people who are as well off as they  wish they were.) Snobbishness of any kind is a sign of limitation.
  • People may be an expertise in their field, but once they step outside of that field, they are simply average people living in the normal world In fact, many people who are extremely knowledgeable or accomplished in one area are deficient and ignorant in areas outside of their expertise. Often, excellence in one area comes from focus and diligence that takes time, effort, and energy away from everyday pursuits. Therefore, someone who might be able to explain Einstein’s theory of relativity may not be able to balance their checkbook. Regardless of who you are or where you’re trying to go in the world, arrogance is a liability and humility is an asset.        – Jim Stovall
  • Anytime anybody tells me the trend is such and such, I go the opposite direction.I hate the idea of trends. I hate imitation; I have a reverence for indivduality.- Clint Eastwood
  • When a fellow says it isn’t the money but the principle of the thing, it’s the’ money.
  • When you strut, you stumble.
  • You can only build a tower so high before the base crumbles.
  •  Be sincere. Eventually everyone will find you out and judge you by your true self and not by your pretensions. Better to be a nobody and yet have a servant than pretend to be somebody and have no food. Proverbs 12:9
  •  Never speak bad of anyone and if anyone speaks bad of you, make sure you are living your life be so that no one believes him.  (Your character cannot be essentially injured except by your own acts.) Good character is above everything else. Keep your own secrets, if you have any.
  •  No one should seek their own good, but the good of others. 1 Corinth 10:24


  • It is never too late for a man to start giving his best to the One Who loves us the most.
  • Quidnunc- KWID’NUNGK‘), Noun. A person who is eager to know the latest news and gossip; a gossip or busybody)
  • There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The difference is attitude. the big difference is whether it is positive or negative –Clement Stone


Everyone has beauty, but not everyone can see it. Man looks at outward appearance, but the Lord looks within. Many who were bullied and belittled  took it as encouragement to show others with an  “I will show you!” attitude; working hard to make sure the people who bullied them can’t believe how their lives have turned out.

  • Under that false bravado lies a tragic soul, more to be pitied than scorned.
  • Always remember that you are braver than you believe, stronger that you are, smarter than you think and twice as beautiful as you have ever imagined.
  • Standing up for someone else we learn to stand up for  ourselves.
  • No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Nobody can make you feel anyway. Rise above it.
  • First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win. —Ghandi
  • Don’t worry too much about what people think of you. You wouldn’t worry so much about what they were thinking of you if you knew how little they were thinking about you.
  • Enemies sometimes compel us to do more and to succeed.’
  • Probably the most profound thing in the Bible is ‘Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.’ This is what, to me, is the essence of Christianity.- Dave Brubeck, legendary jazz musician and composer.
  • Mother used to say that when someone was ugly with you to “kill them with kindness”.  It will drive them crazy and co-workers will wonder how anyone could say such ugly things about someone so nice. (No wonder everyone loved my mother!)
  • Feel sorry for those who hurt you without cause. In that way you will be the bigger person because the problem is theirs, not yours. Many times they strike out at you because they are hurting.
  • One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered. Never surrender.


Bullies tell us:

  •   They manipulate others. Treating others with cruelty a a way to take control when everything else seems unpredictable. To feel comfortable with ever-changing surrounding.
  •  Bullies aren’t bad kids.  They’re acting out for some reasons.  They may be grieving over loss of someone they could talk to. Bullies  were sometimes bullied themselves; often at home. They feel deep pain. All they want is for people to stop tormenting them. They have low self esteem and long to feel accepted.Their behavior is a cry for help and they just don’t know how to ask.
  • Jealous..To cope with feeling out of place they want others to feel worse than they do. Unruly-  ..they prey on  the powerless and weak.   Bullying relentless.  teasing and call names the cross-eyed,  nose,  for a mole or a funny name….to have a little power when they feel small and overlooked.
  •  Pushing someone because they are too perfect.
  •  No  child should be forced to sit on the sidelines wanting to be accepted.
  • We should pay as much attention to bully’s feelings as we do to a victim’s.
  • The bully doesn’t have many friends– listen to them.  They need to get on a path to forgiveness of other and of themselves. Talk to your own kids about everything.

Here are just a few more well-known people sharing their story of being bullied:

  • Chris Rock developed his humor and wit as a response to bullies. “It made me who I am,” Rock said, going so far as to thank the people who “kicked my a–, spit in my face, and kicked me down the stairs. It lit a fire under me to succeed.
  •  Michelle Trachtenberg  -actress  “This one girl in high school threw me down a flight of stairs, fractured my ribs, punched and fractured my nose,
  • Rihanna says that she has been teased her entire life.   The pop star says she is grateful for these struggles because they made her stronger. ” “What they were picking on I don’t even understand. “Now I’m in a much bigger world.
  • Winona Ryder was beaten up in junior high.  She later ran into her old bully at a cafe.  The bully asked for an autograph, and Winona replied: “Go f*** yourself.”
  • Tiger Woods– racial slurs
  • Khloe Kardashian has struggled with her weight and her confidence, making her an easy target for school bullies.
  • Bill Clinton was teased for his weight growing up.
  • Kate Winslet (starred in Titanic) was made fun of for her weightt.  She says that fellow classmates would call her terrible names like “blubber.”  Growing up, no part of Winslet was off-limits to bullies – not even her feet. “I was chubby, always had big feet, the wrong shoes, bad hair,””[They] teased me for wanting to act. Locked me in the cupboard. Laughed at me.” The bullying continued into her adult years, too. In an interview with Rolling Stone, the Oscar winner revealed that “Titanic” director James Cameron called her “Kate Weighs-a-Lot.”
  • Tom Cruise struggled with reading, which made him an easy target for bullies. had a lonely childhood. “I had no really close friend,” he revealed in an interview in 2012. “I was always the new kid with the wrong shoes, the wrong accent. I didn’t have a friend to share things with and confide in.” Tom Cruise has visceral memories of being picked on. “So many times, the big bully comes up, pushes me. Your heart’s pounding, you sweat and you feel like you’re going to vomit. I don’t like bullies.”
  • Jackie Chan “I allowed myself to be bullied because I was scared and didn’t know how to defend myself.” The martial arts master says he put an end to the abuse by defending a classmate. “I was bullied until I prevented a new student from being bullied. By standing up for him, I learned to stand up for myself.
  •  Sandra Bullock– clothes. I looked like a clown compared to the cool way the other students looked and dressed,” Sandra Bullock said in a 2009 interview. “So I got my ass whooped a little bit. Kids are mean, and the sad thing is that I can still remember the first and last names of every one of those kids who were mean to me!
  • Justin Timberlake was bullied at school. “They called me different, they called me weird, they called me a couple of other words I can’t say on TV. Thankfully, my mother taught me that being different was a good thing, that being different meant you could actually make a difference.”
  • Jessica Simpson was a victim of the school’s mean girl group: “I had girls egging my home, writing curse words on the sidewalk in paint — just saying really nasty things about me”, but the star credits her unfortunate youthful experiences with helping her as a high profile celebrity, learning how to deal with constant scrutiny from the media. “I grew up in that fishbowl of always being judged and watched. I really do believe that was God preparing me for the life I’m living now.”
  •  Cindy Crawford  As a high schooler, the supermodel was often teased and ridiculed, mostly about things that ended up becoming her trademarks. “I hated my eyebrows and my hair,” she wrote in her book “Becoming.” “The mole was the thing I got teased about and was embarrassed about, and that set me apart.”  Cindy Crawford also recalls the time classmates set up a fake modeling job just to embarrass her. “I felt all the air leave my body. I ran out of the store as fast as I could, only to see two girls from my high school standing on the corner laughing. I felt like I’d been punched in the stomach.”
  • Rumer Willis‘ tormenters were tabloids, who would compare her to her “masculine father” Bruce Willis and cruelly scrutinize her face and body, causing her to consider plastic surgery as a young teen. “I thought … ‘If I change my face or get really skinny, that will be it. That will be the answer.’ And it’s not,” Willis said, wiping away tears, on an episode of Dancing with the Stars
  • Victoria Beckham  Before she was a Spice Girl, classmates “were literally picking things up out of the puddles and throwing them at me, and I just stood there, on my own. No one was with me.” “I didn’t have any friends. People would push me around, say they were going to beat me up after school, chase me. It was miserable, my whole schooling—miserable. I tried to be friends with people, but I didn’t fit in. So I kept myself to myself.
  • Eva Mendes says she was an easy target for bullies because she was gawky and had big teeth. One bully in particular “preyed on the fact that I was so scared and would avoid her,” Mendes told HLN. “It was torture.” Bullies tortured me all through junior high school It was miserable. She was so fearful she couldn’t turn to her parents or school administrators. “It was torture.” “I literally had to deal with it on my own. At the time I couldn’t understand why they kept taunting me and it took me two years to figure out how to do that.”  When I realized  that I was showing them my fear and that’s what they were pouncing on   she confronted and stood up to her tormentors and the bullying stopped.
  • Mila Kunis was bullied in school because of her “funny face.” Kids would make fun of her big eyes and lips.
  • Miley Cyrus talks about three  who bullied her by making fun of her, sending her cruel notes, stealing her books and locking her in a school bathroom.  “Maybe they just smelled insecurity. Maybe that was why they singled me out.
  • Joanna Gaines– the Fixer Upper host  revealed that her insecurities stemmed from experiences she had in school.  “My mom is full Korean and my dad is Caucasian,” she said. “Kids in kindergarten would make fun of me for being Asian and when you’re that age you don’t know really how to process that; the way you take that is, ‘Who I am isn’t good enough.’ ”  Her discomfort reached its peak, though, after moving to a town in Texas and joining a new, much larger, school. “In the lunchroom everyone was a blur and I was thinking, ‘How do people do this? How do you find that one person to sit with?’ ” she said. “So I literally walked in the lunchroom and walked out and went into the bathroom. My fear and my insecurities just took over and I felt like I’d way rather sit in the stall than get rejected.”  The experience has stuck with the Fixer Upper star, who continues to teach her kids to make friends with those who seem to need it. “I always tell my kids to look for that kid on the playground who’s not playing with anybody, to go reach out, ask them their name, to look for the kid in the lunchroom who isn’t sitting by anybody, be their friend,” she said. “That experience grounded me in that I want to look for the lonely, the sad, the people who aren’t confident, because that’s not where they’re supposed to stay.
  • Jessica Alba may be a successful, beautiful actress, but the Sin City star was bullied in high school. Alba said she got picked on because she was an awkward child with buck teeth and a Texas accent.  “I was bullied so badly my dad used to have to walk me into school so I didn’t get attacked.” “I’d eat my lunch in the nurse’s office so I didn’t have to sit with the other girls. Apart from my being mixed race, my parents didn’t have money, so I never had the cute clothes or the cool backpack.”
  • Jennifer Lawrence said that her bullying became so bad that she switched schools to get away from some mean girls.  She has some advice for dealing with the mean people. “Don’t worry about the b–ches”— could be a good motto, because you will come across people like that throughout your life.”
  • Taylor Swift says that her junior high bullies gave her the inspiration to start writing songs.
  • Madonna says that the boys at her school used to bully her and call her a “hairy monster.”
  • Blake Lively- “Kids used to make fun of me in elementary school by calling me Big Bird (because I was ‘too tall’ and had ‘yellow’ hair).
  • Kate Middleton– according to the headmistress at her school says that the Duchess of Cambridge was bullied for two terms over her  reputation “as quite a soft and nice person.”
  • Emily Blunt- stutters. (Married to John Krasinski  of the Office
  • Steven Spielberg was bullied for being a “nerd” in school.
  • Kristen Stewart says kids her own age “were mean and didn’t give you a chance.”  (People who stuttered and became singers…. )
  • Brittany Snow  – Pitch Perfect 2 star   started an organization called Love is Louder to help kids through bullying and depression  Being a victim herself. “When I was younger, I was bullied daily,” she told PEOPLE. “I know what it’s like to feel alone and outcast.”
  • Megan Fox said that she faced constant bullying at school. Her advice: You just have to remember the person picking on you has their own problems and their own issues. And you’re going to be OK.
  • Avril Lavigne was bullied because of her big glasses, her hair and her tomboy clothes. They also called her “Vampire Lady” because of her teeth.
  • Michael Phelps was tormented by bullies who mocked him for his hyperactive personality and big ears and  his long arms   The swimmer went on to use those long limbs to win several gold medals.    The future Olympic legend wore hats much of the time to conceal the size of his ears, Phelps’ mother told Yahoo Sports.He gets a little taste of revenge when he visits his hometown and encounters his tormentors. “They’ll try to talk to me and I’m thinking, ‘Yeah, why are talking to me now? You were picking on me then.'”
  • Tyra Banks was bullied in school for being a “bean pole.” She later used her tall, thin physique to create an extremely successful modeling career.
  • Eminem was frequently bullied for being an outsider.  “I was beat up in the bathrooms, in the hallways, shoved in the lockers
  • Lady Gaga  was mercilessly bullied in school for being different.  “Being teased for being ugly, having a big nose, being annoying,” she told Rolling Stone. “‘Your laugh is funny, you’re weird, why do you always sing, why are you so into theater, why do you do your make-up like that?'”  “I used to be called a s—, be called this, be called that, I didn’t even want to go to school sometimes.
  • Pretty is as pretty does. If you act pretty people will think you are.
  • Elon Musk was relentlessly bullied as a child  for being the  smallest guy in his school,   “It’s pretty rough in South Africa,” she told Esquire. “If you’re getting bullied, you still have to go to school. You just have to get up in the morning and go. He hated it so much.”  Musk’s first wife, Justine, said, “I don’t think people understand how tough he had it growing up. He was a really lonely kid.”
  • Pierce Brosnan was made fun of for his Irish accent while he was at school.
  • Prince Harry was bullied for his red hair when he was young.
  • Ben Hooper- 1870-1957 governor of Tennessee  was born out of wedlock, yet he was not going to go trudging through life with his head bowed in meek submission; he was a lad determined to be the best in his class in defiance of his detractors.  “Instead of my supposed handicap generating an inferiority complex, it motivated a spirit of ambition and determination that furnished the impetus to carry me over many a hill in my young days. I began to understand that sensible people might appraise a man upon his character and attainments rather than upon the accident of birth or the merits of his antecedents. This possibility furnished a great incentive to effort.”   And effort he made. Ben attended public schools, graduated from Carson-Newman College in 1890, became a lawyer, entered the world of politics, and eventually rose to the office of governor.
  • Amy Tan said she didn’t date because she was ugly so she grew up thinking she could never rely on her looks as a way to get ahead in this world.
  • “I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become.” ~ Carl Jung
  • I’m always more motivated by the negative comments than by positive ones. I know what I do well. Tell me what I don’t do well.
  • Listen to the critics, but listen most carefully to those who spoke up when the sun was shining.
  • Don’t waste time responding to your critics. -Life’s Little Instruction Book
  • In order for you to be insulted, you must first value their opinion.
  • For more: google: famous people who were bullied
  • Jesus said to pray for those who mistreat us

FAITH FAITH (See also Worry vs Peace and fear fear)

  • F.A.I.T.H.  (Facing All I Trust Him) As a rule, men worry more about what they can’t see than about what they can. —Julius Caesar
  • F-E-A-R  Forget Everything And Run  or Face Everything And Rise?
  • Great strength comes from faith in God.
  • Faith can move mountains (problems) we have as unquestionable belief provides ways and means and how to.
  • Faith is permitting ourselves to be seized by the things we don’t see. Martin Luther.
  • Our greatest debt caused by sin is erased by faith in God.
  • Faith does not make things easy–it makes them possible.  Bianca Olthoff, inspirational author
  • Hope is reborn in the form of faith, faith that God will take over, even if you can’t yet see how.
  • You don’t need faith for things you understand, but for the things you don’t.
  • Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase ~Martin Luther King Jr.
  • Aerodynamic engineers studied the bumblebee and decided it simply should not be able to fly. Its wings are too weak and it’s body too heavy for flight. Eveything seems to tell the bumblebee, “You’ll never get of the ground. , but thanks to our Divine Creator it can. Without faith, nothing is possible. With it, nothing is impossible. See James 1:6-8
  • If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth. Mark 9:23
  • When you walk to the edge of all the light you have and take that first step into the darkness of the unknown, you must believe that one of two things will happen. There will be something solid for you to stand upon, or you will be taught how to fly.- unknown
  • Even if no one else believes in you, the Lord does.
  •  Faith is a journey, not a guilt trip.
  • The most common way people give up  is by thinking they don’t have any power. Faith has transformative power.
  • The only true foundation there can be for anything in this world is solid faith.
  • Its not the time to build a foundation in the midst of a storm. Get to know God before you are in a storm.
  • In a dark place your faith can be with you. Reach out to Him, He may be the  only one who knows you are there. Feel  God’s presence. Trust Him with everything. Let it go.
  • Trust in Him at all times. Pour out your heart to Him (Turn over loneliness, mistakes, frustrations.)
  • When you find a penny, think about what it says….Let it remind  you that someone is praying for you.

FEAR Fear (see worry vs peace) and faith faith

  • F-E-A-R:  Forget Everything And Run  or Face Everything And Rise?
  • F.A.I.T.H.  (Facing All I Trust Him) As a rule, men worry more about what they can’t see than about what they can. —Julius Caesar
  • Faith banishes fear. Don’t let fear take control of you. You aren’t in control, but you know Who is. Exhilaration is the other side of fear. Do something on your bucket list, not by an act of courage, but by an act of faith.
  • If you don’t feel confident, ask the Lord to give you the confidence to trust in Him always–even when scared, so we do what we need to do.
  • Our greatest fear should not be of failure … but of succeeding at things in life that don’t really matter.” – Francis Chan
  • Jesus Christ is the key to letting go of fear and doing the things you once feared.
  • There is only one thing which makes a dream impossible to achieve; the fear of failure.–Paulo Coelho
  • Fear is just excitement in need of an attitude adjustment. -Russ Quaglia and Doug Hall in San Jose Mercary News
  • Remember that fear always lurks behind perfectionism.” – David M. Burns
  • Every day do one thing that takes your breath away.
  • “Do one thing every day that scares you.” — Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Anything I’ve ever done that ultimately was worthwhile…initially scared me to death. —Betty Bender
  • Do the thing you fear the most and the death of fear is certain.
  • Fear is one of the biggest drivers of emotions.
  • When you do the thing you fear the most, you put an end to fear.
  • I can pay attention to fear and get nothing done or ignorant and march ahead. Some people watch the parade go by. Others march in it. Be the Grand Marshal. Keep marching.
  • Focus on your feet, not your head.  Keep them moving forward.
  • Fear can motivate you when you ask yourself how you are going to pay those bills.
  • Obstacles are fears that need to be transformed. When you have successfully released and transformed them you are one stop close to your dream.
  • “What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do.” -Tim Ferriss
  •  You must do the thing which you think you cannot do. —Eleanor Roosevelt
  •  Many people are afraid of the dark, but the real tragedy is those who are afraid of the light. —Unknown
  • “We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face. We must do that which we think we cannot.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Love is what we are born with. Fear is not.
  •  I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night. —Galileo Galilei
  •  The only time you run out of chances is when you stop taking them. —Unknown
  •  In order to dominate the soul you must also learn to dominate the body. And in order to dominate the body you cannot fear pain. —Paulo Coelho
  • Fear from uncertainty, lack of confidence can hold you back.  Indecision postpones and  prolongs it. Action defeats fear.
  •  Every shadow—no matter how deep—is threatened by morning light. —Unknown
  • Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadows.
  • By acting bravely we become brave; not the other way round. —Unknown
  • Be brave. Even if you’re not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
  •  “In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.” – Deepak Chopra
  • When the lion is chasing the antelope, he doesn’t look back. He has to eat. —Robert Cheruiyot

FEAR AND PEACE (See fear fear and faith faith)

  • ‘Fear not’ is in the Bible 365 times
  • Stand up to fears in the name of the Lord-walk on earth in His image.
  • There are only two responses to the world; fear or love. Your life depends on which one you choose.- Deepak Chopra, author
  • Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain. Your image of self will be upgraded and confidence will flood your mind and drive out doubts.
  • Fear of failure? (Not trying at all is worse than trying and failing.) An accountability partner such as a friend or family member, can cheer you on in support.
  • If you deal with the present, you don’t have to worry about the future.
  • In every life we have some trouble, but when you worry you make it double. Don’t worry. Be happy. —Bobby McFerrin
  • Sometimes the Lord calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage and calms His child. – unknown
  • Worship is the antidote for discouragement. Spend some time on your knees today.
  • Reflecting on the majesty and glory of Jesus Christ should drive us to our knees in worship before Him. – Paul Chappell
  • Peace is seeing a sunset and knowing Whom to thank- Amish proverb.
  • If Christians understood the full extent of the power we have available through prayer, we might be speechless. During.WWII there was an advisor to Churchill who organized a group of people who dropped what they were doing the prescribed hour for one minute to pray for the safety of England, its people and peace. There is now a group of people organizing the same in America.
  • Peace begins with a smile. – Mother Teresa
  • Smiling creates peace of mind, that positive state of being in which creativity is maximized. And science backs it up: When facial muscles are activated to make a smile, it signals the brain to be uplifted–even if you are feeling down!
  • Peace is not the absence of trouble, but the presence of God.
  • Live in peace And the God of love and peace will be with you.- Corinthians 13:11
  • It is usually trouble that brings us closer to the Lord.
  • Never underestimate the power of prayer.
  • There is no medicine better than prayer, and no doctor better than our creator. -Paul Nison
  •  Prayer is the time God has reserved for us when He can recalibrate our thinking and renew His peace in our mind an soul. – Jim Maxim, from 21 Days of Breakthrough Prayer
  • Some of God’s greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.
  • Do not have your concert first and tune your instruments afterward. Begin the day with God. – James Hudson Taylor
  • You can always pray for someone when you don’t have the strength to help him in some other way.
  • No prayer is too small for our Lord to handle.
  • It is God to whom and with whom we travel, and while He is the End of our journey, He is also at every stopping place. – Elisabeth Elliot
  • God always gives His best to those who leave the choice with Him.
  • Thank God for what you have. TRUST God for what you need.
  • We can gain solutions to nagging problems when we spend time praying.
  • Jesus is bigger than any problem you will face today.    My grace is sufficient for thee: for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9
  • Control what you can. Pray about what you can’t. – Trent Shelton
  • The cure for everything- saltwater…in one form or another. Sweat, tears or the salt sea. The is nothing that one or all can’t fix.
  • Jesus said, “Take my yoke upon you.”   Every farmer knows the purpose of a yoke (a wooden frame that joins two cattle in their task) is to lighten the load by sharing it between two animals. When you yoke up with God, He lightens your load by sharing it with you.
  • God knows and cares and waits for you to  ask, Intellect may study a problem and find no solution as it cannot overcome the spirit any more than pride can overcome humility. Emerson said, “Great men are they who see that the spiritual is stronger than any material force.
  • In 1987, President Ronald Reagan made his famous speech in West Berlin. He called on then-Soviet President Mikhail Gorbachev to “tear down this wall”.  In thespeech he said: “This wall will fall. For it cannot withstand faith; it cannot withstand truth. The wall cannot withstand freedom.”
  • Walk by faith.It becomes easier when we give it to God.
  • Spiritual fatigue is the result of trying to live without God. The symptoms are obvious: worry, fear, resentment and guilt. Neither sleep, nor working out, nor a day off from work will rid you of these draining emotions. Such fatigue requires spiritual recharging. The Bible says , “He who energizes those who get tired.” Our souls, need a much deeper kind of relaxation and only God can restore your soul.- Rick Warren.
  • He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak.Isaiah 40:29
  • Unless you keep your batteries charge they will rundown.(Recharge on the Sabbath….the day of rest.)
  • When Jesus prayed at Gethsemane: “An angel from heaven appeared to him and strengthened him.” (Luke 22:43) inviting God into our situations and circumstances-asking God for help and for deliverance. – as poor and needy people because it is God who: “performs all things for (us).” (Psalm 57:2). To such friends, God says: “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10). receive strength from God. “Those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. (Isaiah 40:31).
  • The only thing impossible for God is lying.
  • The wonderful thing about praying is that you leave a world of not being able to do something, and enter God’s realm where everything is possible. He specializes in the impossible. Nothing is too great for His Almighty. -Corrie ten Boom   (Corrie, and her close family, managed to save an estimated 800 lives during the Nazi occupation of the Netherlands. During the War, her profound religious faith and belief in God’s plans gave her the bravery and resourcefulness to make it through situations worthy of a spy story. But it was after the war that she achieved her greatest accomplishment – forgiving her former enemies and teaching the world to do the same.)
  • God has given us a book of prayers in the Bible;  the book of Psalms has prayers for every imaginable circumstance of life. These prayers are pleasing to God because they are Scripture; they were breathed out by the Holy Spirit through the experiences of David and the other writers of these psalms.To  grow in this holy art of prayer, the book of Psalms is the place to go.
  • Be prayerful in all things and ask someone to pray in agreement with you  for Wisdom, strength and peace and awareness of what God wants you to do.  (Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye  shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:   For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh, findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. Matthew 7:7–8)
  •  When we stop to pray,  God is already ahead of us, waiting for us to catch up.
  • Relax- Deep breaths, exercise daily. Don ‘t get dehydrated or malnourished.

GOALS GOALS- see also fear

  • COMING UP WITH A BUSINESS IDEA The whole world is out there, praying for a great idea, and they trip over one about three times a week. The only think you have to do to have a good idea is wait for something bad to happen and then say, ‘How could I have avoided that?’ And to have a great business, you have to help other people avoid that. – Jim Stovall
  • If its to be, it is up to you. With God’s help, you can accomplish anything you set your mind to.
  • Writing down your goals gives you a target to aim for and  a step toward achieving them.  Ever gone to the grocery store without your  “list” and come home without the most important item you went to buy?   “Out of sight…out of mind.
  • In goal-setting the process of writing and revising your goals  helps you clarify your vision by challenging you to think it through to the end    (helps increase your productivity)   Once a goal is written, you’ve made an investment which helps  you to make a commitment. And as with any investment, you’ll want to protect it and nurture its growth.
  •  A winning effort begins with preparation.
  • Don’t ever underestimate your dream in life. Anything can happen if you pray and believe. not a childish, magical belief. It means hard work, but never doubt that you can do it with God’s help. -unknown
  • Begin with the end in mind.
  • Write out your goals. Action plans and deadline makes the goal, even more powerful.
  • Those who don’t write  down their goals respond to conditions rather than creating the conditions for a better life. That is why so few  succeed. Taking the time to  write down  goals and revising them continuously gives people an edge to achieving far greater and more consistent results.   Those who fail to plan, plan to fail.
  • Either you run the day or it runs you.
  • Time is your most valuable asset. You need to prioritize how you spend it. You have the power and responsibility to decide what you do with the time you have, so choose wisely.  – Matthew Jones
  •   And then it is winter….
  • Goals must be stated positively, clearly, in writing, be specific and measurable (realistic, compatible, obtainable) and have a deadline toward which you direct your specific effort until achieved.
  • Goals are personal-written and specific-start general then more and more specific-sharper and sharper as you move closer.
  • Power of goal setting allows you to focus.
  • Intensified goal setting gets people into action.
  • Successful people do it when others flit from one place to next.
  • Review your goals daily to make sure you are doing your daily actions and your weekly actions.
  • Track your goals.
  • God only knows what slumbering talents are awaiting to be aroused. Always let your future desires and never your past defeats set your goals for you.
  • Tackle those things even if they are hard–and you will accomplish your goal with the energy other persons use trying to dodge the inevitable.
  • If we all expected to win or succeed at everything we put our minds to, it would make every day filled with great expectation.  When expectation is a lifestyle, you move toward your expectations (goals) daily. Expectation is what will keep you optimistic in the worst situation.
  • When it comes to reaching your goals, you have to see yourself there first. Then reverse engineer your dream.
  • Make a plan. Write down your goal. Next list the steps needed to attain this goal. Then detail what you need to do in each step.. Break your goal down into smaller goals. The take the first part of your goal and break it down again. Continue to break it down again. Continue to break it down until you ave a task that you know you can accomplish…. ..and do them. Then celebrate when you ave completed it. Keep a list of your accomplishments in a place that you will see every day. When you find yourself mentally reviewing the things you have not done, stop yourself and read the list of things you have done.
  • Set and achieve goals.   A goal is a dream with a plan.
  • If you have someone tell you that your goal is impossible, ignore it and if it is an honorable goal be encouraged since God is with you, if you include him.
  • A dream written down with a date becomes a goal. A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan. A plan backed by action makes your dreams reality.
  • Be hardworking, focused and willing to put whatever is necessary to achieve goals. Here is  how successful people accomplish more
  • If we did all the things we are capable of doing we would literally astound ourselves. ~ Thomas A Edison
  • God has given each of us a talent. Why should we allow  anything get in our way of fulfilling it –from doing what we have been given the ability to do? I wouldn’t be where I am today without Him.
  • To deny our abilities or pretend they don’t exist; that would be false humility. But listen:Where did your abilities come from? God gave them to you, and you can’t take credit for them. Instead of making you proud, your abilities should make you humble, because God chose you to have them. You do not deserve them, and you only have them by God’s grace. As King David acknowledged, “Wealth and honor come for You”. (1 Chronicles 29:12)  In addition, as long as you only measure yourself against others, pride will be a problem for you, and most people don’t like those who act as if they are better than them. but when you measure yourself against God, then you will realize how small you are and how dependent you are on Him for everything–even life itself. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up. (James 4:10)
  • First prize doesn’t go to the most talented–again and again the man who wins is the one who is sure he can. Great drive, powerful determination,
  • Unwrapped talent. There are more ‘talented’ people who are failures and more ‘untalented’ people who are successes, proving that talent is not the most essential ingredient.
  • Jim Poppen, a farmers son was an underachiever in high school--judged to be below average in intelligence and talent–went to medical school and was the world famous brain surgeon summoned when Robert Kennedy was shot in the head.
  • The man who booted the longest field goal in pro football history did the impossible because no one told him that it was impossible.  He was born with only half a right foot and a deformed right arm and hand. He played outstanding high school and college football but professional teams didn’t think he was pro material. He wouldn’t accept it because he never learned to give up.  He finally became a player with the St. Louis Saints. He later said his coaches were so busy encouraging him that he forgot to tell them that he couldn’t.   (Never give up! Miracles happen every day.)
  • There is evidence that an all consuming drive can create talent where talent presumable doesn’t exist.  Be a disciplined, determined, dedicated and undefeated dreamer who is driven by an all consuming desire to succeed.
  • Nothing is written in stone. You create your future in the things you do today.
  • Make a list of all the things you think you do well and make a list of those things you would like to do well. (What interests or excites you?) Examine your God given talents. Analyze both lists. Discover the undiscovered talents within you, but think realistically. They are there. Look for them.
  • If you don’t get what you want in life,   make the best of what you get.
  • If God gave you the talent to do something wouldn’t He give you the confidence to go with it? If you don’t feel confident, ask Him to provide it. When He calls us, He equips us.
  • Winners are determined to win so they set goals that can be measured, keeps statistics,  make commitments and  plans  daily   and doesn’t quit. They see opportunities, not problems, willingly taking risks to meet a challenge and  keep working to find a way to do something. If it means they have to go through something to get to the other side, they will, instead of going way around it  ……a loser makes promises but won’t take a risk and hates setting goals or making plans….doesn’t know what goals are.  A loser doesn’t want statistics.
  • Most people overestimate what they accomplish in one year, but underestimate what they can accomplish in 10 years.
  • You must have long term goals to keep you from being frustrated by short term failures.” -Charles C. Noble
  • Celebrate what you’ve accomplished, but raise the bar a little higher each time you succeed.
  • Trying to run a business without a business plan or strategic planning won’t work.
  • Every five years set new goals. You can get almost nothing done in a year, but you can achieve almost anything in a five-year period.
  • You become a success the moment you start moving toward a worthwhile goal. Do it now! Time flies.
  • Don’t be hampered by negative attitudes. Some won’t believe it can happen. They may be conditioned by parents, their lack of education, etc.  Think of the circus elephant conditioned to not moving by a small rope from the time they are little. They are brainwashed…. so don’t talk too much to other people about what you plan to do.You don’t want them talking negative.
  • If God is in it, there is no ceiling or wall.  Make God your pilot and yourself the co-pilot and see what happens,
  • Your goals are the road maps that guide you and show you what is possible for your life.” – Les Brown
  • Realistic goal: Beyond your grasp–but within your reach.
  • Goals determine your thought –thoughts determine your life.
  • “No dreamer is ever too small; no dream is ever too big.” – Unknown
  • “You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” – Les Brown
  • Don’t procrastinate- When you think you will do something later…Why do you think later would be any different than right now? There will always be only 24 hours in a day and there  will always be a ton of obligations and diversions. (In case you’ve been putting off something you really want to do, thinking you don’t have the time or ability. You probably have more than you know. Just start with the 15 minutes plan. Have confidence in your memory, or your ability to learn something new. And if something looks too daunting, take it one finger at a time. Follow the 15 minute plan where you commit to 15 minutes per day and you’ll usually  end up doing it for more than 15 minutes per day.
  • Plan your work, Work your plan.1. THANK GOD FOR HIS BLESSINGS AND HIS GUIDANCE AND ASK HIM TO CONVICT YOU IN AREAS THAT YOU NEED TO CHANGE.  Let Him affirm you in areas where He is pleased with your life. Let this encourage you.2. WRITE DOWN CLEARLY DEFINED GOALS of what you want to accomplish  so that you see a vivid mental picture of yourself when you have achieved it for:
    •  short term (daily goals, which are usually done before you go to bed or if you work, before you leave the office for the day)
    •  long term – (a week, month, year 5 years, 10 years down the road)

    AGAIN, goals must be specific,  measurable and have a deadline  for all areas of your lifefamily, education, health, house cleaning, weight LOSS, receiving your college diploma, achieving a clutter free* house.

    3. DETAIL  ACTION STEPS YOU WILL TAKE EACH DAY IN ORDER TO ACHIEVE YOUR GOAL. (Include any obstacles you think might  be in the way, and your “Plan B” for getting around these obstacles, in order to get to your goal. This will keep you moving forward in your life when you experience challenges. ( “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.” ~ Albert Einstein )

  • Detail exactly what YOU have to do every month to be on track. …  you have to do certain things each week…and to reach your weekly goal you must do certain things daily.  If your goal is an organized office set the deadline (one week? two weeks? Write down the exact date it will be done) along with  how you will feel when it is done:  Tuesday of next week my office will be clean. I will love going in there and  will feel good about leaving the door open and letting  people see how organized it is when they walk by. I will always want to immediately file any paper or receipt in order to keep it that way. I will set aside into my “re-gift closet” anything I find while cleaning that we can re-gift or re-purpose, especially for the grandkids, as they cherish something Grandpa “made” just for them. This will save us tons of money which can be used to help pay down our mortgage which will allow us to then refinance at a much better rate which will drop our payments very low and leave us much more money to live on each month.
  • Next, break down what needs to be done to accomplish your goal:  “1.) I will clean one drawer each day while listening to Dr. Phil, until that is done.  When they are all cleaned  I will next  rewind the sewing thread while watching Dr. Phil. 2.) I will do “like kind” first go round by  putting all the receipts in one box to be sorted later, all the sewing items in one box, all the unfiled papers in a box–all to be sorted  when I am watching/ listening to Neal Boortz….or Dr. Oz or Dateline….or whatever.  I will play a game by grabbing the clothes from the dryer during the commercial and see how many I can fold before the commercial is over. Just plan your life  so you have a schedule to follow.  (Don’t get upset if it gets off once in awhile—just regroup and move forward.) Stay committed and  persist until you succeed in reaching your goals .
  • Don’t set goal so big you won’t get it done.
  • If you feel like life is passing you by, throw yourself into the small things and repeat to yourself, ‘This is where I start’.
  • Take a big challenge and chop it to bite size pieces–public speaking may be your fear. Arm yourself with facts, humor and enthusiasm.
  • “You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
  • “Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs.” -Henry Ford
  • If something is hard…who gave you an easy card? Hard builds esteem.
  • Sometimes doing the one thing you don’t want to do can be the best thing you have done.
  • If you want to able able to jump seven feet start with one foot. Add one inch at a time. Inch by inch it’s a cinch.    Example: I want to lose  X lbs smaller in a year…so I have to lose X   each month that year…..which means I only need to lose X a week and I will feel….(fill in how you will look and feel). To accomplish this this my action steps are- walk more, drink more water before I eat,   pray over my food that it nourishes my body and I only eat what my body requires and I feel full, that nothing harms me…. etc.   (Remember, break it down into tiny pieces.…. There is power in taking small steps.  Little goals add up, and they add up rapidly. Once you’ve started, it’s like you’re halfway there. Take that first step!)   Plan a personal reward for when you reach your goal and schedule time for you to relish the reward.

STAYING FOCUSED AND WORKING DAILY TOWARD YOUR GOALS  will do more to guarantee your success than any other single factor.   (No focus, no peace. Know focus, Know peace.) Attention increases productivity… and tells you how you are doing against your goals.   Repeat your goals to yourself every day. (You can tape goals to mirror, visor,  on fridge so you think about it all day.  Keep a journal or diary,  3×5 reminder cards in your wallet or on your bathroom mirror or whatever to read daily or find what is  helpful as you to stay focused.  The reason: – Visualizing results  will pass from conscious to subconscious!)    Visualize yourself 10 lbs less….that you have accomplished by those tiny steps–walking a bit each day or using a bit less mayo or drinking a cup of water about 15 minutes before you eat.
4. BEFORE BED ALWAYS CHECK YOUR WEEKLY LIST AND WRITE DOWN WHAT YOU NEED TO ACCOMPLISH FOR THE NEXT DAY  toward your goals deadline you set (along with the other “to do” items, such as dusting, that you will clean one drawer,  schedule the  dentist, eye doctor, time for family, exercise such as walking 3 times a week, grocery store, even the route you will take to do errands so you NEVER  waste time by back  tracking.  Jot down a new Word-for- the- day that you will learn by using it as many times as you can in conversation tomorrow.    Then pray about it. This will allow things to be worked out for you….while your mind rests.  Writing before bed will start you moving toward the next day’s goals.
Quickly, number them by priority so in the morning you will do the  most important first, then the second, the third and  in that order. If we don’t schedule  we will dash about, “putting out fires” and doing only what is in front of us, wearing out ourselves.

REWARD YOURSELF. WHEN A GOAL IS ACHIEVED! YOU DESERVE IT.    The many things you  accomplish are just indications of what you can do. Believe and never doubt that your exciting future lies out there ahead of you.
If you get stopped in the direction you were going simply re-strategize, adjust and re-launch again and you will be more prepared for success.        (Regularly review progress and constantly educate yourself in all areas where you have set goals. This will help you learn things that will make the process easier and the success be attained more quickly.)


Strength strength

  •  Sometimes God will put a Goliath in your life for you to find a David within you.
  • Ask God for strength for help in rising above the circumstances.
  • God will give us the strength to carry on, if we’ll reach out to Him. Know that God will see you through.
  • Great strength comes from faith in God.
  • Never grow a wishbone,  where your backbone ought to be. —Clementine Paddleford
  •  Whatever I fight weakens me. Whatever I cooperate with strengthens me. —Wayne Dyer
  •  I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self. —Aristotle
  •  The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure. —Joseph Campbell
  • We find strength from bible  reading and our prayer life- Food for our bodies.
  • Ask God for help and he will meet you in your greatest weaknesses. He will transform that weakness into strength, self-deception into rigorous honesty. He will make you the person he always meant you to be.
  • Godly strength comes from deciding to rise above the hard and pursue the holy.

GRACE  and HOPE and confidence , See Faith

  • Video: Hope pure and simple   Life gets busy, making it easy to lose hope. A message of love & grace in the midst of even the toughest times.  We have the luxury to choose to live a simple life.
  • That man is richest whose pleasures are cheapest. – Henry David Thoreau
  • I do not understand the mystery of grace–only that it meets us where we are, but does not leave us where it found us. — Anne Lamott
  • Grace is a consequence of humility.
  • Grace is when God gives us good things that we don’t deserve.  Mercy is when He spares us from bad things we deserve. Blessings are when He is generous with both.
  • Sense of hope is the basic component of cheerfulness.
  • Cheerfulness is the atmosphere in which al things thrive.  ~ Johann Paul Richter.
  • The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer up someone else. – Mark Twain
  • If you lose all hope, you stop trying and you stop caring. Each of us is put here to dilute the misery in the world.
  • Thinking about others first is the ultimate act of personal responsibility. The most important step in embracing the concept of personal responsibility is the willingness to change how you think.
  •  “Once you choose hope, anything’s possible.” — Christopher Reeve
  • Catastrophe holds the  potential growth. It isn’t what happens in your life; its what you do with it.
  • Never let circumstances control you!
  • We can’t always control what happens to us, but we have the power over our reactions to it. God will give us the strength to carry on, if we’ll reach out to Him. Know that God will see you through.
  • If you are in a tight corner, turn to God for help. Ask Him to show you the way.
  • In facing the unknown, hope is as reasonable as despair.
  • Hope is heavy. The Bible carries it; an anchor for your soul.
  • Hope is wishing for a thing to come true; faith is believing that it will come true. Believe that for every problem God will provide you with a solution. -Norman Vincent Peale.
  • Jesus experienced every negative emotion we go through.  He also defeated them all, which gives us hope and confidence to do the same. -Creflo Dollar
  • Victory has a Father. Defeat is an orphan.
  • Lincoln was defeated 10 times before he was finally elected president.  He kept on though he had great personal sorrow as well.
  • The loss of hope is the worst thing, You restore hope by helping people.
  • What an anchor is to a ship, hope is to the soul. Both ships and souls are kept safe by a firm, secure anchor that keeps holding despite turbulent winds and churning tides,
  • You will find God in the small moments when we are at our most human – imperfect, confused and longing for hope. That is where God will meet you. -unknown
  • The happiest people are fearless dreamers. They use their imaginations to create hope and possibility- Ian K. Smith, M.D.
  •  Let go and let God. —Unknown
  • God long ago drew a circle in the sand exactly around the spot where you are standing right now. You were never not coming here. —Sufi poem
  •  Jesus didn’t say ‘follow Christians’. He said ‘follow me. Many people have a hard time believing in God, because they’ve seen people fall who profess to be Christians. We aren’t perfect, but He is.  We fall down but He gets us back up.
  •  There will come a time when you believe everything is finished. That will be the beginning. —Louis L’Amour
  •  Act, & God will act. —Joan of Arc
  •  When you let go of the need for any and all outcomes life becomes a creative magical adventure. —Deepak Chopra
  • Whatever is… is best. —Ella Wheeler Wilcox

WHAT OTHERS THINK (Self-worth) See Rejection and Bullies

  • You shouldn’t be concerned about what others think, but about what Jesus thinks.
  • If you accept the expectations of others, especially negative ones, then you never will change the outcome. – Michael Jordan   A lion doesn’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep.
  • If you refuse to accept anything but the best, you’ll get the best.


  • When two people fall in love, past and future disappear. —The Alchemist
  •  Be passionate in your love life, partaking of it as a feast and appreciating its small pleasures.


  • Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor. Peter 2:17
  • See to it that you really do love each other warmly, with all your hearts. 1 Peter 1:22
  •  Love means protection, adoration, mutual growth, & respect above all other things. Without this, love is an illusion, a confused attachment. —Dena Botbyl
  • I have learned that it is more important to be loved by the people you know than adored by the ones you don’t.
  • Failing in love is easy, but staying in love is something special.
  • Spread love everywhere you go; first of all in your own house…let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God’s kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your warm greeting.  Mother Teresa
  • DATE ‘LINE’:  The parents of my girlfriend place their trust in me. I will not violate it. I will respect my girlfriend as I expect other men to respect my sister. I will respect womanhood because my mother is a woman. I will ask my girlfriend to do nothing I would be ashamed of if my mother found it out. Manhood means strength of character as well as body. Lack of self-control is a sign of weakness. I want my girlfriend to know that I am manly. God is everywhere, sees everything, knows everything. Darkness may hide me from people, but it cannot hide me from God.-author unknown

INSPIRATION AND MOTIVATION  See Just do it and challenge, and jealousy

  • It does wonder for my own psyche to turn envy into inspiration. No matter how successful we become, we’re never above that. -Hillman Curtis
  • Video: Nature’s Inspiration Breathtaking! May the beauty, wonder, and the joy of nature always bring joy to your soul.
  • Video: Inspiration 365 Days a Year a brief selection of Zig Ziglar’s favorite inspirational quotes.
  • Video: Motivations Quotes The right words can engage the brain &  bring an idea to life
  •  60 percent of inspiration is organization- fashion designer Isaac Mizrahi
  • You find inspiration in everything. IF you can’t, then you aren’t looking properly. -Paul Smith Fashion designer


Pay someone else to  do things for you. Your time is worth more.


  • Slice off a bit of a task each day-go through one drawer at a time, alphabetize, update, straighten. In another day, tackle files and old bills.
  • Clean drawers while supper is in oven, pay bills while kids are playing. Don’t sacrifice a week or evening when you can be doing something more pleasurable. Spend 5 minutes a day. Do leg exercises while on the phone.
  • 2pm energy drought time. Reserve filing chores and undemanding phone calls for immediately after lunch. Efficiently comes more easily when you aren’t fighting a nap.
  • At night jot down list of things you need to do the next day.
  • Clean kitchen as you go.


Never use a preposition to end a sentence. (Preposition- up, from, out, of in, under, there, for)  Turn light out? Nope! Turn out the light


  • Better to be a nobody and yet have a servant than pretend to be somebody and have no food Proverbs 12:9
  • The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender. Proverbs 22:7
  • Making your kids a loan, not a handout, helps them learn.
  • Pay house off- A paid off mortgage or a fixed mortgage means your monthly housing costs never rise.
  • Paying an extra $10 a month toward your mortgage on a 20 year $100,000 mortgage, at 7.49% you will pay it off 6 months early and save yourself $3,032.91, according to’s mortgage calculator.
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Keys to Success: MENTORS- 

  • God puts mentors in your path. They may not look like you, sound like you, or be what you expect.  But they always  know more than you. – Maria Shriver
  • Nothing you say today will teach you anything. So if you are going to learn, you must do it by listening.
  • No matter our age, every day we are learning by listening, teaching by our actions, and we graduate as we move from one phase of our life to another. Norma Comfort, 92, Knoxville, TN
  • The best sermons are lived, not preached.
  • The best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person. – Andy Rooney
  •  Be willing to listen intently to other’s people’s point of view, as we learn from each person. To change the way I feel I have to change the way  I think.
  • Most people do not listen to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.
  • A wise person knows many things, but a successful person knows many people. We can’t do it alone. God can put people in our path to change our lives and take us further than we ever thought we could go
  • No man is an island, so network with people
  • Be a good listener, letting others do a good deal of the talking (about themselves and their interests.) Be interested in others to be interesting to them.
  • Being a good listener is more important than good looks and asking questions make a huge difference. We all feel more valued when someone takes an interest in what we have to say.
  • Befriend and listen to older people.   They make incredible mentors as they have a lot more experience and can teach us so much,  including gentleness and humility while saving us  a whole lot of stumbling.
  •  Everyone you will ever meet knows something that you don’t. Take advantage of allowing others to mentor you by LISTENING closely as much as you can.
  • The two words silent and listen contain the same letters arranged differently. In whatever relationship you may  be in, the best way to listen is to remain silent. – Robert Herjavec.
  • Listen to understand  in order to learn how to deal and communicate with people effectively, and you will know how to motivate them.
  • Wiser decisions can be made by finding and listening to mentors (people who help us along the way by sharing  their experiences that we haven’t had. We can  skip making mistakes that they did and learn from their successes.) You may gain  great advice based on mistakes they have made.
  • It is most important to know what you don’t know. Never be afraid to admit when you can’t figure something out. There are times when the truly smart thing is to ask for help

 Leadership- See inspire,  teamwork

  • Leadership is not being in charge, it is about taking care of people in your charge. – Simon Sinek
  • If serving is below you, leadership is beyond you.
  • Real leaders are ordinary peole with extraordinary determination.
  • Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant and whoever wants to be first must be your slave— Matthew 20:26-27
  • In any group of people, a small fraction will be leaders, a larger fraction will be followers, and a substantial proportion just won’t want to get involved. Following the herd is a sure way to mediocrity. Don’t be afraid to innovate. Be different
  • If you are not the leader of the pack, the view never changes. –Anonymous
  • Stay focused. Don’t let other people or things distract you.
  • If you’re riding ahead of the herd, take a look back every now and then to make sure it’s still there. – Will Rogers,
  • Be willing to say to those in your charge, “I don’t know.” —Unknown
  •  There are three ways to lead: 1. By example 2. By example 3. By example. —Unknown
  •  As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence actually liberates others. —Marianne Williamson
  • Nehemiah has 13 chapters all filled with lessons on leadership. When Nehemiah was appointed Governor of Jerusalem, he didn’t take advantage of people like his predecessors  had. He treated everyone fairly from the nobles to the poor, and stayed focused on his mission, two hallmarks of a good leader See Neh 5:15-16
  •  Many people have gone a lot farther than they thought they could because someone else thought they could. —Zig Ziglar
  • Video: Wisdom of Wolves lessons in leadership and teamwork, learned from the powerful wolf pack.



  • Successful leaders don’t ask, “What do I want to do?” Instead, they  ask, “What needs to be done?” Then they  ask, “Of those things that make a difference, which are right for me?” They don’t tackle things that aren’t good at. They make sure those necessities get done, but not by them. They ar not afraid of strength in others. Andrew Carnegie wanted to put on his gravestone: “Here lies a man who attracted better people into his service than he was himself.
  • Leaders are purpose-driven. They know how to establish a mission. And  they know how to say no. The pressure on leaders to to 984 different things is unbearable. Too many leaders try to do a little bit of 25 different things and get nothing done. They are very popular because they always say yes. The effective ones learn how to say no and stick with it. As a result they don’t suffocate themselves.
  • A great many people who are exceedingly good at execution, but poor at picking the important things. They get the unimportant things done. They have an impressive record of achievement on trivial matters.
  • Never try to be an expert if you are not one. Build on your strengths and find strong people to do the necessary tasks.



  • What you fail to master in your life will eventually master you.
  • Unless you try something beyond what you have mastered, you will never grow ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • Video Mediocrity: Are you Middle Class or World Class?
  • How you finish depends on how you start.
  • You are the sum of the obstacles you overcome.
  • In golf as in life, the follow through makes the difference.  Video: Golf Quotes
  • Video Unchain the Elephant (How we have been conditioned.)
  • Sometimes life knocks you on your ass…get up! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it’s the ability to deal with them. Steve Maraboli
  • Try to have good days and bad moments. Life is too short to have bad days.
  • Past performance is not an indication of future returns.
  • Never be content to just be average. Always give your best.
  • At 211 degrees, water is hot….At 212 degrees, it boils. And with boiling water comes steam. And steam can power a locomotive.    The one extra degree makes all the difference. And so many times in life, it’s that one extra degree of effort that separates the good from the great.
  • Bear in mind that your own resolution to success is more important than any other thing. ~ Abraham Lincoln
  • Present choices determine future consequences.  Actions have consequences.
  • The choice you make today will usually affect tomorrow.
  • Stand out-do the right thing. When you follow others like a sheep, you don’t stand out. People see those who do and remember and that can make you special.
  •  Just because it is common sense doesn’t mean it is common practice.
  • ‘Raise the bar’ for self and others. -Johnny Weismueller
  • Video: Learning to Dance in the Rain “Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass…it’s about learning how to dance in the rain!”



  • Sow the wind (do nothing) and reap the whirlwind (chaos)
  • To resist change is like holding your breath. If you resist you will die. We must accept motion, must live with motion, must know ourselves to be ever moving.       I will go anywhere provided it is forward.
  • He who hesitates gets bumped from behind.
  • You can’t count your days, but you can make your days count.
  • Video Secrets of the World Class If you wish to be more than you are…  to be great at what you do, change your thinking…thus, your life!
  • Video: What is the Big Idea? Sometimes a single, powerful idea can change your life.
  • Be the change you want to see in the world.- Ghandi
  • Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have to change other.
  • Video: Change is Good. You go First. Scared of change? Deciding to make changes is easy, getting everyone on board is a different story.
  • Change is not made without inconvenience, even from worse to better.
  • One reason people resist change is because they focus on what they have to give up, instead of what they have.   – Liz Josefsberg
  • A 4.0 in school does not necessarily make one fit to excel. And a 2.0 gpa doesn’t mean you will wind up living at  the bottom of life. Its about whether you move forward or backward. You can make a change in this world.  Don’t be afraid. -Bill Cosby
  • “Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.” – Barack Obama
  • “It is never too late to be what you might have been.” — George Eliot


  • A man who becomes conscious of the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits for him, or to  an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his life. He know the ‘why’ for his existence and will be able to bear almost any ‘how’. Viktor Frankl
  • It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness. Viktor Frankl
  • Research has shown that having a purpose and meaning in life increases overall well-being and life satisfaction, improves mental and physical health, enhances resiliency, builds self-esteem, and decreases the chance of depression. And ironically the single-mined pursuit of happiness is leaving people less happy.   – Emily Esfahani Smith article in Reader’s Digest
  • Mankind wasn’t created to build Superdomes and highways and get a lot of money. Your purpose is to represent God. – “Murph the Surf’ (Jack Roland Murphy),   –a surfer in the 1960s who became an international celebrity / legendary jewel thief by stealing the world’s largest sapphire (a 563 carat gem about the size of a racquetball) and other gems from New York’s American Museum of Natural History.  He has been a concert violinist, national surfing champion, high-tower circus diver, business owner, cat burglar, painter, author (Jewels for the Journey) , convicted murder and the subject of a 1974 feature film, “Murph the Surf”, starring Robert Conrad.  He once sparked one of the biggest riots at Florida State Prison.  A psychologist who examined him after an arrest in 1968 said, “In fact, he is top-notch at everything he does.” He is lumped in with legendary gangsters and criminals, such as Jesse James, Al Capon and Thomas Blood.  Roger Staubach and a troupe of NFL stars spoke to the inmates at the Florida penitentiary where Murphy was serving two life sentences. The athletes spoke about the important role God played in a areal man’s life and for the first time Murphy considered the possibilities of faith.  In time he became a model prisoner and jailhouse artist, painting seascapes and lighthouses counseling troubled youths, working for the prison’s chaplain. After 19 years in prison, he was release in 2000, because of his exemplary behavior and ministry, the Florida Parole Board voted unanimously to terminate his lifetime parole. He became director of a prison ministry, visiting prisons worldwide, crusading for convicts’ souls, clearly focused on his occupation: messenger of God. “If you’re not doing God’s business, you are just doing time.”  “Education and employment aren’t enough to rehabilitate a criminal. If you don’t deal with a person’s heart, with their soul…all you’re doing is passing out Band-Aids.”
    (May 26, 1937 – September 12, 2020),


  • The value of prayer for healing. There is an interplay between the type of healing in hospitals and the type of healing that takes place in the private recesses of our minds. I have come to deeply appreciate the role of prayer in the healing process. Often patients or their loved ones have prayed with me before surgery. I see it as an expression of confidence that their loved one will be healed. It makes me feel more inspired. – Sanjay Gupta an American neurosurgeon, medical reporter, and writer.
  • I think the wave of the future will not to rely specifically on prayer or specifically on medicine or surgery. We need to get beyond this ‘either/or’ way of looking at things and say they both work-they are compatible. – Dr. Larry Dossey, on the role of prayer in the healing process.


  • Stress can worsen pain.    It causes headaches and backaches and makes you more susceptible to colds and flu.
  • People get overloaded because they try to control the uncontrollable. The greater your need to micromanage things, the more stressed you are going to be. The two greatest sources of stress in our lives are aggression and arrogance. They make us think we can do more and control more than we really can. Learning to be humble will take you to a deeper level of calm confidence than any time management seminar ever could. It comes from trusting God with the details of your life. This is a process that takes time. You didn’t develop your stressed-out, overloaded, hyper-drive lifestyle overnight, so you’re not going to change with one simple decision. You will have to unlearn and replace old habit that cause you stress. But God will give you the power to change if you trust Him. When Ashley Smith was faced with an incredibly stressful situation–being taken hostage at gunpoint by alleged rapist and murderer Brian Nichols –she obeyed the words of Jesus, and likely ended a killing spree. She turned to Jesus for strength and urged her captor to do the same, explaining that God’s purpose for Brian’s life was greater than his problems, calmly urging him tot stop trying to control things and to surrender to God. She then served him breakfast in a gentle and humble way. Ashley says Brian called her an “angel from God.”   -Rick Warren
  • Petting an animal provides peace of mind. Rubbing your hands through fur lowers blood pressure. If you live alone it is good to have something alive in the house. They can save lives as they can tell if something is wrong.
  • Two timeouts a day to daydream to tame chronic stress in two weeks. Sit in a quiet room and take deep relaxing breaths while imagining a calm peaceful scene.
  • Play soft music while doing chores
  • Take a big task and divide it into ‘bites’ and approach one at a time. Write down the steps and follow them.
  • Always have two plans.
  • Vanilla is calming- for a better and more relaxed mood instantly-even reducing chronic anxiety, heart palpitations and panic attacks. It reduces nervousness for patients undergoing medical procedures by 63%. It reduces cravings since it calms people so they are less likely to binge. Out vanilla extract on cotton balls.
  • Prayer buffers stress by keeping life feeling structured and normal, no matter what problems they’d be facing-celebrates life, has healing properties. It helps you deal with negative emotions so you can move on. Take every chance to enjoy the beauty  around you by walking in the park or hiking. Spending time in nature is calming and releases stress.

GOOD READS- The all time best lessons for living

  • How to Win Friends and Influence People    Dale Carnegie
  • The Importance of Living   Kin Yutang
  • Peace of Mind  Joshua Lot Liebman
  • Love or Perish Smiley Blanton
  • The Science of Being and Art of Living Maharishi Mahesh Yogi
  • I’m Ok- You’re Ok Tom Harris
  • Gestalt Therapy Verbatim Frederick “Fritz” Perls
  • How to Be Your Own Best Friend Bernard Berkowitz aned Mildred Newman
  • Winning through Intimidation Robert Ringer
  • Your Erroneous Zones Wayne Dyer


  • This brother of yours was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found. Luke 15:32
  • If you knew that this would be your last day on earth, you might feel a sense of urgency about things and people that are not a part of your daily routine. This is one of those ongoing dilemmas that you will never get entirely right, but if requires each of us to constantly monitor and balance today an tomorrow.
  • Write down the warm positive memories you have of your loved one. The more you  write the more you are able to see how blessed you have been with so many good years.
  • Here, we are in our cocoon.  We metamorphosis into something beautiful when we leave our earthly existence.  What the butterfly can teach us
  • I am not going to die. I am going home.


  • “To live in the hearts of those left behind is not to die.”
  • Share things with them about their loved one they may not know. It can give them joy to have a new memory to treasure to laugh about and/or to be proud of.
  • I wouldn’t get over the losses in my life. I would learn to get through them- Mary Beth Chapman, wife of Steven Curtis Chapman, after the loss of her five year old daughter in a tragic accident.
  • You will never get over a death. It will always be a part of your life, but you will get through it.
  • Life is for the living. To destroy two lives when another has been tragically taken is a shame. We are all terminal. Try to find love again.
  • You may be lost in a fog of grief now, but you will make it through. You will find your way home. Follow the lead of others. There will be people to help you-your minister, lawyer, counselor, friends, spouse, children. When you can’t see the way, God will give you people to guide you. Listen for them. That is how God will lead you. Trust- unknown.
  • You have run the race in front of you, because that is all there is. All races are run- one step at a time.
  • Household paralysis is linked to grief. The clutter can be a physical manifestation of how powerless a grieving person feels.  It is a common reaction to grief, which might be characterized as Prolonged Grief Disorder, which is also known as “complicated grief”.   Professional help can provide grief therapy and screening for depression can help. You will also start to feel better very quickly when you make inroads in clearing  out your living space. This is an empowering form of self-care. – From Ask Amy Dec 2022
  • I can grieve the loss of what was, but I know losses make room for gains, because Christ’s love leaves no deficits-no empty spaces.
  • The mark of a person is to figure out how to regain strength and move on the way the person you lost would want you to.
  •  Getting beyond your grief, learning to live differently alongside your grief.
  • Comforting others-We pray for the person and their family, too. Ask that God give them a faith that reminds them that even in their sadness and confusion they can look to Him for peace and acceptance and understanding.
  • His promises always bring comfort and peace. 🤍But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Phil 4:19


  • In the final stages what one needs from you now is just your presence and your love. (Ministry of presence.) Be strong and help them accept what is happening.
  • Forget about your illness for a day and go have some fun. Don’t do too much but enjoy yourself. (Remember we are each dying to this life.) Only God knows how long we will live, be we decide how we will live. Hope is stronger than any pharmaceutical.
  • Unchanged:
  • After a loved one passes spend some time with their best friend; they will have a million stories.
  • Just be there for others
  • Unchanged:
  • Just be there for others

See Hope, Encourage and Inspire others


  • Marriage is a long haul, kind of like a marathon-Run with endurance. See Hebrews 12:1
  • Choose your life’s mate carefully. From this one decision will come ninety percent of all your happiness or misery. – Life’s Little Instruction Book
  • It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home. Proverbs 25:24
  • The wedding is a celebration, not a Broadway production,
  • Marriage isn’t a contest to see who is most often right. Marriage requires being what the Japanese call “the wise bamboo”, which means you bend so you don’t break. Treat your spouse with the flexibility and respect you would give to a top client. Think how we treat clients: we smile, we are polite, we listen to their ideas. Never forget that your spouse is your most important client. -Joan Rivers


  • So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.1 Corinth 10:31 (good for fridge magnet)
  • Lord, give me the strength to get healthy, so I can live my best life for you.
  • Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding. Prov 3:5
  • Do everything without grumbling or arguing. Phil 2:14
  • Get someone to pray with you. Matt 18:20. When two or three come together in my name, there I am also. Then have faith (don’t doubt; i.e. don’t talk negative) that God can do it. (James 1:6-8)
  • Freedom from dieting- fill your life with prayer instead of regrets. Don’t hang on to regrets and resentments. Don’t stuff down your feelings with food. Are you eating out of hunger or out of boredom or loneliness?  (See regrets)
  • We consume 44% more when we are offered four foods instead of one.
  • If you eat carbs, use the energy to exercise. Walk extra.
  • umami can help increase the feelings of satiety and decrease food cravings. L-theanine in tea is also linked to better sleep and can deliver that umami kick.
  • High fructose corn syrup will cause an unusual amount of belly fat. The excess fructose is said to be stored as fat instead of being used for energy.
  • Abdominal fat is a risk factor for high blood pressure, diabetes and cardiovascular disease. You lose fat everywhere when you lose weight, but the proportion of fat you lose in your belly is higher than in the rest of your body, because there is less fat there. If you lose 10% of your total body fat you will probably lose 15% of your intra-abdominal fat and 50% of your liver fat.
  • Everybody should have the ability to eat healthy. Food is medicine. Eating right goes a long way to your well-being. There are schools, such as Monroe Demonstration Academy, in Tulsa, OK where Food on the Move helps middle-schoolers learn about gardening, aquaponics, nutrition and cooking –and the science that goes in them.
  • Coupons contribute to obesity Using coupons we tend to buy junk food (processed) since that is what the coupons are for. Processed food ages us faster and packs on weight. (Processed foods are in packages, boxes, cans etc. They will usually have other things added to them, unlike fruits and vegetables.)
  • See weight above under bullies to see what famous people were bullied for their weight


  • Teeth-   sports and energy drinks erode tooth enamel even more than soda. For energy load up on protein and carbs and follow with a good brushing.   More than 75% of people have gum disease but only 3% seek treatment. (Gum disease is liked to oral and lung cancer!)
  • Blood Pressure  Listening to jazz music can expand blood vessels by up to 30%. Widening of the blood vessels increases blood flow and lowers blood pressure.
  • Mental health, like physical health, is a dynamic, ever-changing condition. Some days you are bound to be in better shape than others. The mentally healthy person does not experience wide personality swings — on the moon one day and in the dumps the next. He has the qualities of sameness and predictability. Mentally healthy people think well of themselves. They do not waste time and energy worrying if every hair is in place, or if they made a favorable impression on Miss or Mr. X, or if they used the right fork or wore the right dress. On occasion when every hair is not in place, or they may have used the wrong fork or wore the wrong dress, they don’t agonize over it They have a good sense of priorities and a sense of what is really important. Mentally healthy people are able to accept the inadequacies and shortcomings of others. They do not feel the need to overhaul everyone who does not fit into the mold they have decided is “correct”. They are satisfied to live and let live. Mentally healthy people are able to accept whatever life visits upon them without going to pieces. This means financial reverses, illness, death, divorce, separation, unrequited love– the list is endless. And they have the ability to withstand the cruelties and inequities of life, to regroup, re-energize, think their way through a problem and go forward in a positive, constructive way.- Ann Landers January 18, 1981
  • Eye health- Sardines, mackerel, cod and salmon have DHA, an important fatty acid.   Vitamins A,C, E and minerals like copper and zinc are essential to eyesight, as are antioxidants like beta-carotene, lutein and zeaxanthin. Find them in eggs and yellow and green veggies. Blueberries and grapes contain anthocyanin, an antioxidant that improves vision.   Garlic and onions are rich in sulfur, cysteine and lecithin that protects the lens from cataracts


Taking sides initiates an estrangement and children will be forced to continually split their time and attention, not only between their two parents, but now extending into other generations. For instance, the kids will learn that they won’t be able to tell one set of grandparents about experiences with the other set. They will train themselves never to mention their mother in front of their father’s family…..and thus the emotional editing begins.

If family decides to punish you for simply being kind and cordial to the one who is not a blood relative this reflects extremely poorly on all of them.“Circling the wagons” following a break-up is expected. Families will show loyalty, and   this is mainly demonstrating supportive behavior during a challenging time.

Nor should you play along. Instead you could contact the one to say that you’re sorry that this break-up is happening, that you always enjoyed her presence in the family, and that you hope she and the children do well through the process. – Ask Amy 2022





  • When you are young, your ego is so strong. Then you get older and you get freed from yourself. – Actor Peter Dinklage.
  • Youth is a frame of mind. If you get out there and enjoy it, you can have it at anytime of your life. -Kenny Rogers, quoting his late grandfather.
  • Getting older may not be fun, but it’s easier to deal with when you laugh about it. Like adding a little sparkle to your outfit, humor just brings a bit of joy to any situation and takes some of the seriousness away.
  • You aren’t old until regrets take place of dreams.
  • I’ve definitely grown happier as I’ve matured, and I have even greater patience and love for others. There is a change in perception, a broadening, that comes with age, a greater appreciation for simple things. But you have to love yourself first. -Tina Turner
  • Age is just a number, and it depends on whether the number id going to keep you down or keep you up.
  • We do not stop playing because we grow old; We grow old because we stop playing.
  • And then it is winter.


  • Bless the ones who grew this food and those who helped prepare it. Keep us mindful of you love and grant us strength to share it. -Jennie Ivey Cookeville, TN
  • God bless not only our food and drink but what we do and what we think. As we gather here today, as we join our hands to pray, Father God, we ask your blessing on the food we share today.-Kris Taranic, Phoenix
  • To be present at a table where the prayer is omitted often leaves us feeling as though some vital nourishment is missing from the meal.
  • God is great God is good, Let us thank Him for our food. By His hands, we all are fed, Thank you Lord for our daily Bread. In Christ Jesus Name we pray. Amen



  • Heavenly Father, I give you this day. I ask in the name of Jesus Christ that You help me to serve your purpose today and always.Amen

FINANCES- Money, possessions, wealth

  • I have held many things in my hands, and I have lost them all, but whatever I have placed in God’s hands, that I still possess. -Martin Luther.
  • Don’t spend time chasing money. Let God  give you what you need.
  • Trust God to provide. Remember He fed thousands with a few loaves and fishes. God fills our lives with abundance.
  • Life isn’t a competition to see who ends up with the most.
  • Abundance comes from making others better off and the primary reason to get is to have more to give. It is all about giving, rarely about getting.
  • We spend so many hours working, trying to make more money only to spend it on things that require more time and money.
  • Save your dough and you’ll have plenty of money. Elizabeth L. Walsh
  • Spend less than you maximum to afford the life you want.
  • Own less, live more.
  • Someone driving a $100,000 car might be wealthy. But the only data point you have about their wealth is that they have $100,000 less than they did before they bought the car (or are $100,000 more in debt). That is all you know about them. We tend to judge wealth by what we see, because that’s the information we have in front of us. We can’t see people’s bank accounts or brokerage statements. So we rely on outward appearances to gauge financial success… But the truth is that wealth is what you don’t see. Wealth is the nice cars not purchased. The diamonds not bought. The watches not worn, the clothes forgone and the first-class upgrade declined. Wealth is financial assets that you haven’t yet converted into the stuff you see. – The Psychology of Money: Timeless Lessons on Wealth, Greed, and Happiness by Morgan Housel
  • John D. Rockefeller, an extremely wealthy man (estimated that when he died he was worth nine hundred million dollars) once said: Who is the poorest man in the world …The poorest man I know is the man who has nothing else in the world but money. I believe it is a religious duty to get all the money you can, get it fairly, religiously and honestly — and give away all you can. Let me give you a word of advice: “Always live within your means.” What is success? Is it to get money? Well, is that success? If I had my choice today, I’d be a man with little or nothing but a purpose in life. It’s not the money in itself that is so miserable. money is good if you know how to use it. Let me give a little word of counsel: know what you receive and how you spend it. -“God Gave me Money” by John D. Rockefeller, 1898
  • It’s not the man who has too little who is poor, but the man who craves more.
  • Maybe they aren’t poor…but just lower income.
  • The love of money is the root of all evils. (1 Tim 6:10) It is our attitude towards money that is evil, not the money itself. Money wisely used can promote God’s work in the world.
  • If you think money can’t buy happiness, you aren’t using it to help those in need to empower them to become self-sustaining. (A hand up, not a hand out.)
  • Savings bonds U.S Treasury- Treasury Direct Account  (Learn the value of your savings bond:
  • I bonds


  • Coupons help you reduce spending., Facebook, Target (Target lets you use both manufacturer’s and store coupon.)
  • eBates for cash back
  • shopkick for browsing stores-use to buy Target gift cards
  • ibotta app which pays you for using CVS
  • discounted restaurant gift certificate-groupon, and
  • In restaurants-look at the middle of the menu for best bargains
  • Amazon Prime. You can get a FREE 30 day trial

Websites to find the very best deals.

  • Clark Deals  (founded  by money expert Clark Howard) – hand-picked deals on clothing, electronics, home goods, food, entertainment, smartphones, tools, furniture, televisions, travel and more. The team searches the web every day to find the very best deals, freebies, promo codes and coupons. Sign up for the daily deals newsletter to get fresh deals in your inbox every day!
  • Brad’s Deals looks for the best deals on just about everything from fashion, to tech, to home to pets. Brad’s Deals team helps you find some great deals from pretty much anywhere. It also offers promo codes from stores nationwide.
  • DealNews for consumer electronics, apparel and other products. In addition to promo codes, shipping information, and expiration dates on deals, DealNews publishes data-driven shopping reports including deal predictions and price benchmarks for various categories.
  • GottaDEAL  combines deals and a robust forum to round up great deals for both physical and online stores. In addition, they offer promo codes and coupons to help you save.
  • Groupon gives you great local deals on restaurants, activities, shopping and travel. As a global e-commerce marketplace connecting millions of subscribers with local merchants in 15 countries and more than 500 cities, Groupon has certainly become a popular choice when it comes to getting a good deal.
  • LivingSocial(Owned by Groupon)   allows people to find deals on things to do in their city. Plus, the site offers deals on hotels and other travel experiences.
  • RetailMeNot distributes online and in-store coupon codes, cash back offers, prescription savings and more. The company also has a free browser extension, Deal Finder, designed to help you find coupons before checking out online.
  •  Slickdeals, a social commerce website (owned by Goldman Sachs), features crowdsourced deals and coupons from retailers such as Amazon, eBay, Walmart and Macy’s. They have a lot of tech items but you can also find deals in other categories such as apparel and jewelry.
  • Woot – daily deals on everything under the sun. Cooks, gardeners and wine snobs alike can find something to love on this massive site. Occasionally, Woot offers a Woot-off which is a day-long event full of deals that are released every 30 minutes. Amazon Prime members get free standard shipping on Woot.

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Saving money:

  • eat out only twice a month. Otherwise, pack your lunch as much as possible
  • grow your own produce-lettuce, onion, snow peas, snap peas, beans, tomatoes and peppers


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DEPRESSION/Feeling down/Feeling Blue/ See faith

  • Research show a link between depression and diabetes.
  • When you are feeling down, do something nice for someone else. (Everyday I want to do something to make someone feel special. – Mila Evans 1958-2017) So I ask myself what I can do today.
  • When we let everything become drudgery, we stop learning, we quit looking with interest and we stop being aware of our own needs and feelings. Everything becomes routine and nothing new looks promising. Our lack of energy is brought about by our lack of vision. We need something to look forward to, something to get us up and going every morning. To experience such a renewal requires our attention, our talk, our thought. The potential is unlimited. We know it when we begin to care about helping other people and begin helping them develop a vision. -Joyce Hifler
  • Feeling depressed read Psalm 27
  • The greatness of a community is most accurately measured by the compassionate actions of its members. The concept here is that service to others is a way to connect to the Divine. – Coretta Scott King.


GARDENING and flowers

    • Hanging planters raise flowers to a new level of beauty. Use plant mixes that give a variety of colors and sizes in one packet.
    • Different leaf shapes, shades and textures-mix big leaves with small or solid leave with variegated, for eye catching color.
    • Classic look- put the ‘thriller’ (the tallest) plant and main attraction in the middle, surrounded by the ‘fillers’-round mounding plants-and the ‘spillers’ plants that trail over the edge.
    • Before you buy anything consider where you are going to put the containers and plants. The colors of the pots and flower should complement the patio, front of the house, deck, furniture and other flowers.
    • Arrange individual pots inside your container before planting to see what it will look like.
    • Display your plants in style on an old chair or watering can.
    • Succulents are low maintenance, store water in leaves so you don’t have to water for weeks and since they grow slowly, they rarely need repotting.
    • Transplant hydrangea in spring; iris  transplant them after blooming, from summer into fall.
    • Cherry blossoms in the spring in Washington DC but Philly has 2,000 and Macon GA has 300,000!

Feeling frustrated?

Spend time kneeling in the dirt tenderly working on plants like God can work on us, plucking out and getting rid of things that are ugly, like anger and pride, while leaving room for the best parts to grow.



  • INSURANCE under-insured motor pays YOUR medical, not the other persons. Thus, if you have medical insurance already you may not need to carry under-insured on your auto insurance.
  • Buying Automobile – If you want a Honda, go to an Acura dealer; Toyota to  Lexus; Infinity -go to Nissan,


  • We respectfully request no gifts. We have everything we need. And soon will have each other. Who could ask for anything more?
  • Your presence, not presents is requested…


  • When meeting someone for the first time re-state his or her name. People love hearing their own names spoken. Just acknowledging them personally makes them smile.
  • NEVER ask what they do for a living. It is a great ice breaker to ask where they are from originally. (You won’t sound like an oaf.)
  • Make others feel comfortable. They may be more shy than you.
  • When being introduced  or speaking one-to-one, look that person in the eye.
  • Do not get in their space. Stay back 18 inches.
  • 55% of first impressions are based on your body language and attitude. Smile and act confident. Afterall, the person you are meeting might be shyer than you normally are, so make them feel comfortable.
  • The impression you leave from a first encounter is only a glimpse into your totality as a person, but people “will unconsciously assume that the sample is an accurate representation of the whole you.


Egyptian Gold Butter for skin softening and improving complexion · Pure pressed olive fruit oil‚ castor oil‚ black seed oil‚ raw honey‚ and frankincense are found in sacred text‚ traditional ceremony‚ and historical record. gentle enough for the delicate skin of your face, neck, and décolleté. Does not block the pores

Work in progress (WIP WIP) to be moved above

  • When you sit with a nice girl for two hours you think its only for a minute, but when you sit on a hot stove for a minute, you think it’s tow hours. That relativity. -Albert Einstein
  •  The unexamined life is not worth living.- Socrates     Consider everything you are currently  doing and ask, “Why?”. Then, consider everything you are doing and ask “Why not?”   All we have is our time, effort and energy. Question everything. If there is a better way to utilize these assets,  embrace the possibilities.
  • Creativity is intelligence having fun. If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough. -Albert Einstein
  • It’s not what you gather, but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have live.
  • Coming back to where you started is not the same as never leaving.- Terry Pratchett
  • Find the marvel in the mundane.
  • If you were offered four pencils to pay you for babysitting for an hour would you do it? That is the exact deal you get by blowing one hours worth of time on four pencils.
  • What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. -Henry Stanley Haskins
  • Every great and commanding moment in the annals of the world is the triumph of some enthusiasm – Emerson , a mover and shaker.
  • Unencumbered by facts….some speak freely.
  • The saddest part of being an only child is that when you grow up you aren’t even a child anymore.  You are just ‘only’.
  • Kids don’t realize they would not be here if the previous generation hadn’t discovered sex. Jacki Weaver- Aussie Actress.
  • Seven deadly sins: Lust Gluttony Greed Sloth Wrath Envy Pride (Envy- Read Psalm 37
  • All that is gold does not glitter, Not all those who wander are lost. -J. R. R. Tolkien
  • Temptation always promises more than it produces.
  • There is always someone who has it worse.
  • Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. – M. Scott Peck M.D. The Road Less Traveled.
  • The way a person presents him or her self is a conscious statement. So if you choose to wear a purple or orange Mohawk, a safety pin through your ear and a ring in your nose it’s your privilege.
  • Treasure the ‘doing’ a little more and the ‘getting it done’ a little less.
  • Being human always points, and is directed, to something or someone other than oneself. The more one forgets himself–by giving himself to a cause to serve or another person to love–the more human he is. ” Viktor Frankl By devoting our lives to ‘giving’ rather than ‘taking’ , we also acknowledge that there is more to the good life than the pursuit of simple happiness.
  • It is doing the things you don’t want to do that make you a good person.
  • If you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on.
  • You will never stub your toe by standing still. The faster you go, the more chance there is of stubbing your toe, but the more chance you have of getting somewhere–Charles F. Kettering
  • People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.
  • Be sure to imagine right, for we tend to become as we see ourselves. – Norman Vincent Peale.
  • Not everything that counts can be counted. -sign hanging in Albert Einstein’s office.
  • Change in activity is a form of rest (When you need a break, try doing something different. Variety is the spice of life.
  • Take a road trip (Historic Route 66 is interesting)
  • Maya Angelou Quotes. I have great respect for the past. If you don’t know where you’ve come from, you don’t know where you’re going.
  • The bitterness of poor quality is remembered long after the sweetness of low price.
  • Diversity is the key.
  • We only have one chance in this life.
  • Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb. That is where the fruit is.
  • Sometimes having more guts than brains works.
  • What sort of legacy do you want to leave behind? Serving the Lord?
  • Do not follow where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
  • Hubris (pride or self confidence) is terminal.
  • One half of knowing what you want is knowing what you have to give up to get it. ~ Sidney Howard
  • I find the greatest thing in this world is not so much where we stand as in what direction we are moving. -Oliver Wendall Holmes
  • Nobody can do everything but everyone can do something.
  • Nobody forgets where you have buried the hatchet.
  • Remember who you are.
  • Always be yourself and embrace the things that make you special.
  • Sometimes you need to remake the situation. Don’t take yourself seriously, even when others are. Be true to yourself.
  • All of us intend to do better tomorrow and we would, too, if we started.
  • Somebody has to do something and its just incredibly pathetic that it has to be us.
  • We can’t all be heroes, because someone has to sit on the curb and clap as they go by. ~ Will Rogers
  • Never discuss your problem with someone who cannot solve it. Silence cannot be misquoted.
  • Count to two before answering a question and between sentences.
  • Radio Garden for music anywhere in the world. Check it out for Christmas.
  • There are only a few plays that really matter in the outcome of a single game. Since no one can tell you when those plays might occur, the only way to proceed is to give a one-hundred-percent effort all the time. This is true in games like baseball and basketball, but even more true for each of us as we play out our personal and professional lives.  As you go through your day today, make every play count. Today is the day!
  • Life is like coffee. Great video.
  • Video There is no I in team. There are many
  • Video The Perfect Moment
  • Video The Power of Positive Doing
  • Video Oh, Thank Goodness. It’s Not Just Me You may think you’re the only one…but guess what? You’re not! Connect the heart and soul of what it means to be a woman!
  • Video: Good to the Core Can you identify your core values?
  • Video: Dreams are Whispers From the Soul Within each of us us lies a powerful dream.
  • Video: Great Quotes, Great Women
  • Video: May You Be Blessed Live more abundantly than the day before
  • Video: 100/0 Principle making relationships all they can be
  • Video: Oil for your Lamp The world needs your passion and flame—but you can’t fulfill your destiny if your oil is running on empty.
  • Video: Pulling Together
  • Video: Customer Love 10 Phrases to Make Your Customers Feel Loved
  • Video: If Life is a Game, These Are The Rules
  • Video: One Choice
  • Video: First Thing Every Morning make the best use of those 86,400 seconds each day
  • Video: The Power of Discipline Discipline alone can be the difference between winning and losing, between greatness and mediocrity.
  • Avoid looking forward or backward; look upward.
  • Whiners are a bore.
  • Appreciate nature. Contemplation of nature can cure the “ambitions of the flesh” and “disease of the soul.”
  • You can’t hoot with the owls all night and fly with the eagles in the daytime.
  • I’m the most blessed person in the world
  • Be your own best friend. That way you will always have someone there with you. When we accept ourselves we are freed of the burden of needing to be accepted by others.
  • It is a shallow life that doesn’t give a person a few scars. -Garrison Keillor
  • Washing Dishes for Jeff
  • The voyage of discovery lies not in finding new landscapes, but in having new eyes. –Marcel Proust
  • Any fool can make something complicated. It takes a genius to make it simple. -Woody Guthrie.
  • You have a soul just as you have a body and a social self. Do not starve it.
  • If you can affect someone when they’re young, you are in their hearts forever. –Mara Wilson, Actor
  • Linger in bed alone for awhile each day before arising, devoting yourself to contemplation and mental housecleaning.
  • Do things beautifully.



  • Communicating our questions, hopes, and fears in prayer makes them– even to ourselves–more open and clear; and the stronger the ties that bind us to God, the more likely we are to live, react, and behave in harmony with exalted standards–and with greater joy, peace, and happiness. -Jimmy Carter
  • If you are looking for God in the dramatic moments, You will miss Him in the details.-unknown        Look for His hand in the details of your day… He is working even in the small things.
  • I have always found the strength I needed, but only with God’s help.
  • For every step you take toward God, God takes two steps toward you; and if you come to God walking, God comes to you running. – James Martin, business manager turned Jesuit Priest
  • I have a great need for Christ. I have a great Christ for my need. Charles Spurgeon
    “Let is therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.” Hebrews 4:16
  • There is plenty of time if you don’t hurry. Take care of minutes: for hours will take care of themselves. – Lord Chesterfield
  • God does not comfort us to make us comfortable, but to make us comforters.
  • God makes us comfortable so we can help others.
  • “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. 2 Corinthians 12:9 Grace has carried me here and grace will carry me through.)
  • ref-uge (n.)   “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1
  • Living a life that pleases God is a lot like brewing a proper pot of tea. It takes extra effort, but its always worth it.
  • And as a few strokes on the nose will make a puppy head shy, so a few rebuffs will make a boy shy all over. But whereas a puppy will cringe away or roll on its back, groveling, a little boy may cover his shyness with nonchalance, with bravado, or with secrecy. And once a boy has suffered rejection, he will find rejection even where it does not exist—or, worse, will draw it forth from people simply by expecting it.       feeling inferior
  • Observe constantly that all things take place by change, and accustom thyself to consider that the nature of the universe loves nothing so much as to change things which are and to make new things like them. For everything that exists is in a manner the seed of that which will be.” “Thou wilt die soon and thou are not yet simple nor free from perturbations, nor without suspicion of being hurt by external things, nor kindly disposed towards all; nor dost thou yet place wisdom only in acting justly.” ― East of Eden
  • Remember the guy who gave up? Neither does anyone else.
  • No matter how happy I had been in the past I do not long for it… The present is always the moment for which I live- Jamaica Kincaid
  • Solitude is the soul’s holiday- Katrina Kenison, author
  • God has remade you, but He didn’t do it only for you. He will use you to touch other people.
  • Thank God for the chance to glorify His name. He will show you not what a man can do, but what God can do with a man.
  • Thank Him for all the people who helped you on your journey.
  • What if you woke up to find the only things you had were the things you thanked God for yesterday?
  • I say a prayer of thanks every morning. When I put my feet on the floor, I set my attitude. I make the conscious decision that it’s going to be a good day. -Lori Allen
  • Thank you, Lord, for prayer that changes things. But, even more thank you for prayer that changes me.
  • After Job had prayed for his friends, the Lord restored his fortune and gave him twice as much as he had before. (Job 42:10) At the end of Job’s horrific suffering, he was overwhelmed with blessings.
  • Pray for God to show you how to be valuable to someone. Then give thanks to God, without Whom none of this could be possible. You’ll never believe it until you experience.
  • To say a prayer is not enough. One must believe that it is possible for that prayer to be heard. If one simply believes, ‘What can I lose by praying; it can’t hurt, yet they have  no faith in the prayer, no absolute belief in it in the first place, it will not be answered. See where it tells us that in the Bible ( James 1:6-7,   Mark 11:24, Mark 11:22-23, Matthew  21:22)
  • It is never too late for a man to start giving his best to the One Who loves us the most.

God, Prayer, Jesus

  • THE KEY OF LIFE: Take hold of my instructions; Don’t let them go. Guard them, for they are the key to life. Proverbs 4:13
  • The key to reaching God is praying in Jesus name
  • God has given us the key to open the miraculous.
  • The key to grace is belief.
  • We stumble over and over. We try harder and harder and we still stumble. We don’t have to try to impress God. He already loves us.
  • God loves you the way you are, but he knows you can do better. Rev William Sloan Coffin, Jr.
  • (*Habakkuk 2:2-3 The Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it. ) When you have an idea lay it out in writing. Don’t try to sell others on a plan just by the melodiousness of your voice or your personality.
  • The praying person and the serpent. Sever the snakes head. Salvation wins.
  • Even when we blame God or turn our backs on Him, God never turns away from us.
  • Prayers are tools NOT for doing or getting, but for being and becoming.
  • Video A Time for Prayer
  • There is a light that shines even in the dark.
  • Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. -Martin Luther King.
  • Jesus never says, ‘Get cleaned up and then come in.’ He says, ‘Come in. I’ll clean you up.’ -Max Lucado
  • Jesus does want to speak to us–today. In our own language, just as a friend would speak. Take time to listen. (Wally Armstrong)
  • How we know Jesus is God: John 15:16-18 John 5:23 John 12:25-26
  • When you pray for your kids, visualize the dreams you have for them and trust them to God.
  • When someone can’t pray, tell them that you will pray for them until they can.


  • Divine love has been all around you, even at your darkest moments.
  • Nobody, absolutely nobody is beyond God’s reach. (Praying for others)
  • No one is ever so lost that he ceases to by missed by the One who loves him most. –Gary Stanley, in What My Dog Has Taught Me About Life.
  • God loves us more than we will ever know and cares for us in ways we will never fully understand
  • God will pursue us to the ends of the earth and beyond, not to condemn but to surround us with love. You will always be loved.
  • True love God already gave us. You are good enough, imperfect as you are. You have the love that completes you, the love that never fails, the truest love of all. God’s love, a love that never goes away. Open hearted, unconditional love. Love you can rely on. God loves us without limits.


  • Live simply, love generously. Learn constantly.
  • Love makes everything possible.
  • To live without loving is not really to live. -Moliere
  • Everyone needs to be loved…especially when they do not deserve it.
  • Show love …and you will be loved.
  • Love is good will towards others. Love is concern for others. Love wants good things to happen to others, even our enemies- Rev. Richard Taylor. Do not rejoice when your enemy falls, and let not your heart be glad when he stumbles, lest the Lord see it and be displeased, and turn away his anger from him. Proverbs 24:17-18
  • The only safe and sure way to destroy an enemy is to make him your friend.
  • We love without reason and we hate without reason (If you hate a person, you hate something in him that you hate in yourself. What isn’t part of our self doesn’t disturb us. The same with not being able to forgive.
  • If you love, you get love back, and that is just a simple basic truth. If you are loved, it is because you love. It’s like a mirror. We get back what we give out.
  • Enjoy the little things in life, as someday you will realize they are the big things.
  • Dance like no one is looking, sing like no one can hear you, love like you can’t be hurt.
  • Judging others leaves no time to love them.
  • Love without sacrifice isn’t really love at all. It’s narcissism. See narcissism



  • Narcissistic Greed- It is all about me. I want it now- wrecks economies, culture, families and even our souls.
  • I want what I want, when I want and if I don’t get it there is going to be trouble. The narcissistic character disorder is a pathological disorder int e sense that the first person pronoun is the most important part of the alphabet. Other person’s welfare or well being or comfort or even life may not be that important.
  • Narcissist focuses always on self. He isn’t crazy either legally or medically; he simply cannot empathize with other human beings.  He expects special favors and views those around him as extensions of himself–this to summon or send away at will. They alternately over idealize and devalue that person.
  • Narcissists cannot love in a genuine way. It’s an incapacity. It is indeed a kind of blindness, an inability even to see that one is doing something harmful.
  • Flamboyant behavior (buying drinks for everyone at the bar with a fat wad of cash) her constant exaggerations (claiming to be a surgeon or nurse) and her overwhelming concern about how she is perceived by others.
  • The narcissists concern for him or herself all but eliminates the capacity to feel any emotion for people. Empathy shown would be feigned.
  • Grandiose sense of self-importance or uniqueness, pre-occupation with fantasies of unlimited success; exhibitionistic need for constant attention and admiration, characteristic responses to threats to self-esteem and characteristic disturbances in interpersonal relationships such as feeling of entitlement, interpersonal exploitiveness, relationships that alternate between the extremes of over-idealization and devaluation, and lack of empathy. Fantasies involving unrealistic goals may involve achieving unlimited ability power, wealth, brilliance, beauty or ideal love. In response to criticism, defeat or disappointment, there is either a cool indifference or marked feelings of rage, inferiority, shame, humiliation or emptiness. Loves only himself. Expects special favors of other without responding in kind. (They both turn inside to themselves when their frail egos fail or feel that others fail them. They think they are the nicest people they know. React with rage an indignation if can’t manipulate people to do what she wants. Neither one ever learns to give up center stage. Whatever she wanted mattered, what someone else might want or needs did not. Whatever means she employs to get what she wanted (lying, cheating, wheedling, seduction, manipulation even murder) are justified in her mind.

Histrionic (Latin for actor- Histrio) Person who is on stage all  the time, being the center of attention, all of the influence, always the center of the stage…all the time and everyone else then has to play roles around them. Life is a continuous performance, overly dramatic, reactive and intensely expressed behavior and characteristic disturbances in inter-personal relationships. They are lively and dramatic and always drawing attention to themselves. Prone to exaggeration and often act out a role, such as victim or the princess. (Crave activity and excitement…exaggerated expression of emotion…irrational angry outbursts or tantrums…incessant drawing of attention to ones self. Always ‘on stage’.

AntiSocial Personality Disorder (Beyond age 18)

Lack of ability to function as a  responsible parent, inability to maintain enduring attachment to a sexual partner, irritability and aggressiveness as indicated by repeated gifts and assaults including spouse or child beating, impulsivity disregard for the truth, conning others for personal profit, recklessness recurrent speeding.

Sociopath (antisocial personality) has no  conscience. Has not the slightest concern for the rights of others. A brilliant mind with no conscience to guide it, the anti-social personality has been likened to a bland TV screen, a computer or robot. It mimics real people giving back only what it must to receive gratification. Breaks heart, minds and lives and is disastrous as a parent. It was never programmed to be a parent. Sociopath- Kill someone then wonder why people don’t understand what they are going through

All three love excitement, mischief and trouble.


False self projects an image of what he really is not. It’s only in an intimate situation that you find what he is really about. That’s the so-called true self that is hidden. Public image may be exemplary.

Jekyll and Hyde-true self and false self. The more a person’s private self matches public self the more he is to be pretty well integrated.  A wife may be drawn to a kind, tender man and awakened to find a man who detests all that is female. A man like this would feel like

These people maintain a facade -an image. In order to do so, these people have to destroy someone who can show that they don’t meet the image.  They are destroying the evidence so to speak. that’s one of the reasons they always profess to be innocent. In a sense they even believe… that they had the right to do what they did…It’s a narcissistic presentation…malignant narcissism. Character disorders-unable to relate in any meaningful way to anyone. They have no conscience.

In projection, there’s a tendency to take one’s own feelings-usually negative feelings and project them onto the environment, and anticipate that they will be coming back at you. He accuses many people in his life of doing things to harm him-a representation of his underlying rage. It think it is intimately tied up with parental relationships.

Sadism-egoyntonic sadism-which means there are people in this world who are just basically very comfortable with cruelty. It’s almost a way of life for the to be cruel to others in small ways and big. You wee an individual projecting his own rage, hostility, paranoia to another person.


  • Not my circus not my monkeys. (colloquial) Anytime you feel yourself being pulled into others problems….It is not my problem. It’s none of my business; I am not responsible for controlling or changing a situation. code: I am not the ringmaster. I can watch the show, and decide whether you stay in that tent, If getting involved causes you to lose your peace of mind, step away.
  • I have been to the puppet show and I have seen the strings. code: I am not blind to what is going on.

STARTING YOUR BUSINESS- Focus on what you can control. See Goals 

  • Know who your ideal and likely customers are in order to grow your business. If 95% of your customer base consists of well-to-do women who are engaged, why advertise on radio stations primarily targeted at men or ads designed to reach male college students? If you focus your marketing efforts strictly to well-to-do engaged women you will spend less on advertising while increasing your bottom line.
  • If your company’s website looks cheap, customers subconsciously infer that your product is cheap. If your website and marketing materials look first class, then customers will assume that your products and services must also be first class. Your customer’s initial judgment of your company directly affects sales. It is like giving someone two pieces of fine jewelry. One is presented in K-mart packaging and the other in a Tiffany box. Which one is going to get the recipient excited?


  • Money does not buy class. -Andy Rooney
  • Class never runs scared.
    It is sure-footed and confident.
    It can handle anything that comes along.
    Class has a sense of humor.
    It knows a good laugh is the best lubricant for oiling the machinery of human relations.Class never makes excuses.
    It takes its lumps and learns from past mistakes.
    Class knows that good manners are nothing more than a series of small, inconsequential sacrifices.Class bespeaks an aristocracy that has nothing to do with ancestors or money.
    Some wealthy “blue bloods” have no class, while individuals who are struggling to make ends meet are loaded with it.Class is real.
    It can’t be faked.Class never tried to build itself by tearing others down.
    Class is already up and need not strive to look better by making others look worse.Class can “walk with kings and keep it’s virtue and talk with crowds and keep the common touch.” Everyone is comfortable with the person who has class because that person is comfortable with himself.If you have class, you’ve got it made.If you don’t have class, no matter what else you have, it doesn’t make any difference.- Ann Landers

BEFORE YOU FEEL LIKE A FAILURE RISK/Mistakes Fear Trials (See Success and goals, jobs)

  • Your mistakes don’t define you!”
  • Einstein was 4 years old before he could speak.
  • Isaac Newton did poorly in grade school and was considered “unpromising.”
  • Beethoven’s music teacher once said of him, “As a composer, he is hopeless.”
  • When Thomas Edison was a youngster, his teacher told him he was too stupid to learn anything. He was counseled to go into a field where he might succeed by virtue of his pleasant personality.
  • F. W. Woolworth got a job in a dry goods store when he was 21, but his employer would not permit him to wait on customers because he “didn’t have enough sense to close a sale.”
  • Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Boston Celtics Hall of Famer Bob Cousy suffered the same fate.
  • A newspaper editor fired Walt Disney because he “lacked imagination and had no good ideas.”
  • If you’ve never failed you’ve never really stretched yourself.
  • Successful people are those who have fallen off the horse a dozen times  and gotten back on a dozen times. -Wheelchair racer Jean Driscoll, eight time winner of the Boston Marathon
  • If you fall, dust yourself off and try again. If you break your arm, it will heal. Learn how to tumble to prevent such an error-but never stop jumping. Performance is the only true measure of the worth of an individual–not rank, title, status, fame or money.
  • “Your dream doesn’t have an expiration date. Take a deep breath and try again.”–K T Witten
  • If you have learned something from it, then it’s not a mistake. It’s a lesson.
  • A person may make mistakes, but isn’t a failure until he (or she) starts blaming someone else. We must believe in ourselves, and somewhere along the road of life, we must meet someone who sees greatness in us, expects it from us, and lets us know it. It is the golden key to success.
  • You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space. –Johnny Cash
  • Don’t stumble turning to look at the past.
  • Failure only proves that you had the courage to try.
  • Failure is not an option. Don’t let it get you down. Stand up and do something. When you give up is when it is really over. -Sharon Riverbank (for Barefeet)
  • He cleaned a parking lot three nights a week, getting up at 3am. to pick up trash by hand. It took two to three hours to clean. The lessons he learned lasted a lifetime – discipline, a strong work ethic and the importance of balancing life’s competing interests (in his case, school, homework and a job). “There is dignity in all work and if people are working to provide for themselves and their families, that is something we should honor.” -Louis Caldera, Secretary of the Army
  • “What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.” – Oscar Wilde
  • The sun will always shine after the storm. You just have to look for it. God knew when He created us that we would have the storms of life to deal with. Isaiah said it best:” For thou has been a strength to the poor, a strength to the needy in his distress, a refuge from the storm. – Jim Cantore
  • The way we accept our fate, and all the suffering it may entail, gives us an opportunity to add a deeper meaning to our lives. You can see your scars as evidence that you cannot heal or you can emerge wounded, but determined to grow. Scars are proof of your humanity. Don’t sweat the small things.
  • Are you carrying a burden? Do you long to lay it down? Jesus promises that He will take our burdens when we bring them to Him. Don’t carry something you don’t have to.   Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Matthew  11:28
  • Suffering is a teacher.
  • Pain teaches you a lot of things!- unknown
  • If we are intended for great purposes, we are expected to overcome great trials. It is usually trouble that brings us closer to the Lord.
  • Often when walking through a trial, I have found myself asking “why”, but I have learned that my perspective changes when I start asking “God, what can I learn through this?” Sometimes we may never understand the “why”, but we can always grow through what we’re going through. -Chad and Erin Co
  • Faith does not eliminate questions, but faith knows where to take them. -Amy Carmichael
  • We can find meaning and the motivation to persevere through suffering by unlocking our sense of purpose and by developing a rich inner life. (Viktor Frankl, a psychiatrist who was imprisoned at Auschwitz concentration camp, where all of his captive family members (and over 1 million others) were murdered in his book about this experience “Man’s Search for Meaning” offers indelible lessons about resilience.
  • Resilence gives you the strength to pray without giving it up.
  • There is no moment, ever, that does not either hold an opportunity or a lesson that God is offering. – Lee Jampolksy
  • Storms make trees take deeper roots.- Dolly Parton
  • For every minute you spend regretting an opportunity that did not succeed, you lose 60 seconds of trying again.
  • If you fill your heart with regrets of yesterday and the worries of tomorrow, you will have no today to be thankful for.
  • Instead of dwelling on the past or what is wrong today there are some good things happening around you. There are always blessings to be thankful for.
  • Your greatness is limited only by the investment you make in yourself.
  • How we spend our days is how we spend our lives. –Annie Dillard.
  • A person is limited only by the thoughts he chooses. – James Allen
  • Poor eyes limit your sight; poor vision limits your deeds.  – Franklin Field
  • You are the captain of your ship.
  • You are where you are today and every day of your life because you have directed yourself to that point.
  • You are better off healed, than you ever were broken.
  • Remind yourself that problems come not to obstruct but to instruct.
  • Things happen for a reason. They are part of the journey.
  • That which was meant to leave you broken can be used by God to make you brave. -Nona Jones
  • What the devil meant for evil, God meant for good. He was able to take the greatest evil ever committed (the killing of the Son of God) and use it for the greatest good (the salvation of humankind).
  • Everything starts with faith. Faith causes us to see good things in the future, and because of this we develop a vision of success and prosperity in life. – Casey Treat
  • Is faith your first response or your last resort?
  • With wings of faith, you can rise and soar
  • Faith is the greatest resource we have for coping with tough times.
  • No matter how bad it is, it could always be worse. Be tough and plow through. -Tanya Tucker’s Dad.
  • Love yourself for who you are and what God made you. Only then can you use your faith to chase your dreams.
  • If you hold on to your faith it will get you through.
  • Take one day at a time.
  • No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show up and never give up.
  • The only pre-condition for wrong to dominate right is for good men to do nothing.
  • Ctrl ‘f’ on service, blessing
  • If you spend all your time looking back, you can’t see where you’re going. -Nelson Mandela, when asked if he was bitter about all the years he had spend in prison. (It is like, if you keep picking at a sore, it will never heal.)
  • I try to incorporate faith every day, to not remind myself of past failures, to learn how to forgive and to trust the future.-Vanessa Williams
  • “There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed.”-Ray Goforth
  • The past doesn’t equal the future, and the minute you think it does, you are trapped. -you can’t change. Mike Rowe
  • “It’s not whether you get knocked down, it’s whether you get up.” ~Vince Lombardi
  • “Even if you fall on your face, you’re still moving forward.” -Victor Kiam
  • “I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure which is: Try to please everybody.” – Herbert B. Swope
  • “Victory is sweetest when you’ve known defeat.” – Malcolm S. Forbes
  • You can’t change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.
  • A lump in the oatmeal and a lump in a mattress are not the same as a lump in the breast. Learn to know the difference – R. Fulghum (You don’t sweat the small stuff after you lose your 11 month old baby to SIDS.
  • Place your failure before the Father. Life’s real failure is when you do not realize how close you were to success when you quit.” – Rhett Power
  • Don’t worry about failure; you only have to be right once.” — Drew Houston
  • “You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.” — Wayne Gretzky
  • Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston Churchill
  • Success is going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill
  • Be your own secret sauce. America is still the best place int he world to start with nothing and make something of yourself–but it is up to you. – Dave Ramsey
  • Courage is born at the point where God’s grace and human effort intersect. – Father Timothy M. Gallagher.
  • Find God in a situation or become bitter. Choose God and experience freedom like you never knew before.
  • God may lead us into the wilderness…but he will never leave us there. Tracie Miles Proverbs 31 Ministries speaker.
  •  No failure is final, so just start organizing or whatever is the simplest step.
  • The hardest part about being an entrepreneur is that you’ll fail ten times for every success.”- Adam Horwitz, Mobile Monopoly
  • “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” — Thomas A. Edison
  • I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure–which is: Try to please everybody. Herbert Swope
  • Success is most often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.” — Coco Chanel
  • Success comes in cans; failure in can’ts.” Unknown
  • Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” — Thomas A. Edison
  • I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure–which is: Try to please everybody. -Herbert Swope
  • Not failure, but low aim, is the crime. In great attempts it is glorious even to fail. —Bruce Lee
  • Nobody is a finished project. Never give up.
  • Anxiety is just repeatedly experiencing failure in advance. —Seth Godin (Journaling can help reduce anxiety. Deep breaths can instantly soothe frayed nerves.)
  • Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again.” Richard Branson
  • One can tell how big a man is by how small a thing it takes to frustrate him.
  • The Pearl Principle – no inner irritation, no pearl. —Lama Surya Das
  • Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.” — Oprah Winfrey
  • Winners say they have temporary setback, not failures. Choose to call what others may call a ‘failure” a ‘temporary setback’.
  • Failure is impossible- Susan B. Anthony
  • Some dreams will fail, but what are the consequences of not following your dream? What if the genius neurosurgeon had given up because he didn’t want to take a chance?
  • Video: Failures & tears kept me going When I reach the place of my dreams, I will thank my failures and tears. They too, kept me going.
  • The only real handicaps are those we create for ourselves.
  • “The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain.”- Dolly Parton
  • “Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.” – Samuel Beckett
  • If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse. – Jim Rohn
  • “If you are not willing to risk the usual, you will have to settle for the ordinary.” – Jim Rohn
  • “People who succeed have momentum. The more they succeed, the more they want to succeed, and the more they find a way to succeed. Similarly, when someone is failing, the tendency is to get on a downward spiral that can even become a self-fulfilling prophecy.” – Tony Robbins
  • There’s no possibility of success without risk.The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks.”
  • Champions are willing to do something they hate in order to create something they love.
  • Commitment turns weights into wings.
  • Risk taking is the fundamental foundation of economic progress. Societies that allow or encourage it flourish; those that don’t encourage it don’t flourish.
  • “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” — Thomas Edison
  • “Believe you can and you’re halfway there.” -Theodore Roosevelt
  • “Believe and act as if it were impossible to fail.” -Charles Kettering
  • “You may only succeed if you desire succeeding; you may only fail if you do not mind failing.” — Philippos
  • “The world makes way for the man who knows where he is going.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • You are the fruit of the thought you have planted and nourished. If you want a better harvest, plant better thoughts. Every thought has a consequence. the more intense the thought, the more powerful, the outcome. -unknown
  • “Make no small plans for they have no power to stir the soul.” – Niccolo Machiavelli
  • “What the mind can conceive, it can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill
  • “You got a dream, you gotta protect it. People can’t do something themselves, they wanna tell you you can’t do it. If you want something, go get it. Period.” – Pursuit of Happyness (Movie)
  • “History shows us that the people who end up changing the world – the great political, social, scientific, technological, artistic, even sports revolutionaries – are always nuts, until they are right, and then they are geniuses.” – John Eliot
  • “You will not do incredible things without an incredible dream.” – John Eliot
  • Dwelling on past mistakes or succumb to anxiety about the future are the worst time wasters of all as they diminish efficiency and joy.


  • If you’re doing something, trying new things or just living you will always make mistakes and have setbacks. It is those who do nothing who never make mistakes.
  • Your mistakes don’t define you!
  • Successful people aren’t afraid to fail in order to arrive at excellence. Thomas Edison, who by his own calculations, made thousands of mistakes before getting inventions to work, felt each ‘mistake’ brought him closer to success.
  • When a winner makes a mistake he admits it; a loser makes excuses. A person may make mistakes, but isn’t a failure until he (or she) starts blaming someone else.
  •  Be accountable for your actions. Taking responsibility for your mistakes  shows maturity. And live in the present.  Dwelling on past mistakes will diminish your efficiency and joy. Don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.
  • Build on mistakes and use it as a stepping stone.  The next time you make a mistake accept and embrace it.  Analyze it and learn all you can as a chance to grow, allowing yourself to find the silver lining from the positive lesson you can learn from it.
  • Mentoring, by sharing mistakes with others, that we have made, can keep them from making the same mistakes.
  • Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it. (Observe the past in order to avoid making the same mistakes.)
  • You have to break a perfect cake in order to enjoy the goodness. 
  • Reach out to God. Trust Him at all times with everything.   Pour out your heart to Him. Turn over your mistakes and frustrations. Let it go.
  • You’ve never gone too far that God can’t redeem you, restore you, forgive you, and give you a second chance. — Lysa TerKeurst


  • Maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them, and less to do with how many birthdays you have celebrated.
  • Maturity is the ability to control anger and settle differences without violence. Maturity is patience. It is the willingness to pass up immediate pleasure in favor of a long-term gain.
  • Maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you have had and what you have learned from them, and less to do with how many birthdays  you have celebrated.
  • Maturity is perseverance, the ability to sweat out a project or a situation in spite of heavy opposition and discouraging setbacks.
  • Maturity is the capacity to face unpleasantness and frustration, discomfort and defeat, without complaint or collapse.
    Maturity is being big enough to say, “I was wrong.” And, when right, the mature person need not experience the satisfaction of saying, “I told you so.”
  • Maturity is knowing that silence is more powerful than having the last word.
  • Maturity is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence. Talking and listening to people who disagree with you is good for your brain as it makes you hear another side to what you believe.  (getting along with others, See fellowship; Community)
  • Maturity doesn’t just come with age, but by the acceptance of responsibility. Accept personal responsibility. We are not victims. Do not blame your parents, siblings, husband, wife, teachers, officials, kids, neighbors political leaders, police. Everything is not someone else’s fault. Don’t be like ‘fault-finding, entitlement immersed society’ blaming others.
  • You can allow yourself to be a victim, or you can be the kind of person who understands that you have to take charge.  Humiliation you feel can spur the will to improve your lot. Realize it isn’t right to be hurt all the time, to be scared. There is something better in life….and you deserve it.
  • Don’t find fault; find a remedy.–Henry Ford
  • Forget blame. Your results are your responsibility.  It is not the fault of the government, the economy, your boss, your in-laws, our spouse, or the weather. You are where you are in life because of the actions you have taken.-Larry  Winget
  • “The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” – Albert Ellis
  •  Responsibility leads to success. Being responsible means playing by the rules. It’s not true that rules are made to be broken. If you work hard and are responsible for your own actions, play by the rules you can accomplish anything.
  • We take care of what we are given responsibility for. A pet is one of the first things a child learns with.
  •  Choice, not chance, determines human destiny. – God’s Little Instruction Book II
  • If the mountain won’t come to you then go to the mountain.
  • You can’t make excuses in the real world. Just do your best.
  •  In the biblical story of Jonah, his stubborn actions threatened the lives of everyone around him on the ship that day. Deep inside, Jonah knew he was to blame but he didn’t want to face it, until it was nearly too late. Finally he asked, “Is it I , Lord?”

LEARNING-  (See mentors)

  • Learn from experience : A young girl was trudging along a mountain path, trying to reach her grandmother’s house. It was bitter cold, and the wind cut like a knife. When she was within sight of her destination, she heard a rustle at her feet.Looking down, she saw a snake. Before she could move, the snake spoke to her. He said, “I am about to die. It is too cold for me up here, and I am freezing. There is no food in these mountains, and I am starving. Please put me under your coat and take me with you.’
    “No,’ replied the girl. “I know your kind. You are a rattlesnake. If I pick you up, you will bite me, and your bite is poisonous.’
    “No, no,’ said the snake. “If you help me, you will be my best friend. I will treat you differently.’
    The little girl sat down on a rock for a moment to rest and think things over. Suddenly, she said, “I believe you. I will save you. All living things deserve to be treated with kindness.’
    The little girl reached over, put the snake gently under her coat and proceeded toward her grandmother’s house. Within a moment, she felt a sharp pain in her side. The snake had bitten her.
    “How could you do this to me?’ she cried. “You promised that you would not bite me, and I trusted you!’
    “You knew what I was when you picked me up,’ hissed the snake as he slithered away.
  • Keep learning all you can. Graduation is not the end of your education. You don’t go to school once for a lifetime. You are in school all of your life.
  • You don’t explain everything to everyone in the same way. We don’t learn the same way.
  • What gave Einstein, the distinction of being one of the smartest men who ever lived wasn’t his IQ, but his ability to free his imagination. Letting yourself visualize all the possibilities is the secret to finding unique solutions. Einstein carried pencil and paper wherever he went. Write down your ideas. Jotting notes charges your brain more than just thinking. Record even the craziest ideas, intersperse them on paper with the facts of a problem and look for pattern.     Retrain your brain with ‘streamwriting’: Pose a problem on paper as specifically as you can: “How can I earn an extra $1000 this month?” Then write everything that pops into your head, not stopping to think. If you run out of ideas write “I’m stuck.” Just keep going pushing your conscious aside and letting your imagination take over.     “Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere”- Albert Einstein


  • A winner always looks a better way to do something, instead just going along with something just ‘because that is the way it’s always been done here’.
  • A winner works harder than a loser, and has more time: a loser is always “too busy” to do what is necessary.
  • A winner isn’t nearly as afraid of losing as a loser is secretly afraid of winning.
  • “Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are.” -Unknown
  • A winner knows what to fight for and what to compromise; a loser compromises on what he shouldn’t and fights for what isn’t worthwhile.
  • A winner repeats behavior that works and avoids behavior that doesn’t work;  a loser repeats behavior because he is comfortable with it.
  • A winner is extremely loyal; a loser doesn’t know the meaning of loyalty,
  • Bravery isn’t about the absence of fear and hurt but the ability to look directly at them and push right past.
  • If you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything.
  • You are always a winner if you made the effort.
  • A winner  asks questions and listens to the answers to learn  all he can from every one he meets in order to better  himself,  aware that  everyone knows something he doesn’t while a loser never listens because he is too busy bragging about what he’s going to do, tears down others and believes  he isn’t as  bad as a lot of other people.
  • Personally, I am always ready to learn, although I do not always like being taught.l  -Sir Winston Churchill
  • The man who rows the boat generally doesn’t have time to rock it.
  • I didn’t lose the gold, I won the silver – Michelle Kwan
  • It is not about winning. It is about not giving up. If you have a dream fight for it. – Lady Gaga
  • Giving up is not failing — it’s the chance to begin again. —Unknown
  • Every day we start over. God wants us to come to Him. He doesn’t have to be your Lord in desperation.
  • “Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” – Robert Kiyosaki

 SUCCESS SUCCESS  see also goals

  • Success is when you look back at  your life and the memories make you smile. Success is going to bed with a clear conscience, knowing you have been kind to all in the past 24 hours.
  • Successful people have a sense of gratitude. Unsuccessful people have a sense of entitlement.- unknown
  • Read something no one else is reading, think something no one else is thinking, and do something no one else is doing.
  • Success comes from doing, not dreaming and not good luck but thorough planning and preparation.
  • There are two sides of life. There is the negative side that points out the risks and wants to rain on your parade. Then there is the positive side that cheers you on and roots for your success.It’s up to you to determine the best path.
  • Saying you believe in what you can do will not guarantee your success, but saying you don’t believe will guarantee failure.
  • Success is a marathon, not a sprint. Never give up. Be persistent and work hard.
  • Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. –Thomas Edison
  • Living life in the fast lane, gets you to the toll booth quicker.
  • Success is when you have achieved inner peace despite life’s hardships and imperfections.
  • Be honest and dependable. Take responsibility. You never win by cheating.
  • The two hardest things to handle in life are failure and success.
  • Success is to know that even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.
  • “Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.” — Jim Rohn
  • Nothing good comes easy. Anything worthwhile that you want in life will take hard work, but if you are willing to put the effort in, so many amazing things can happen.
  • “Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.”- James Baldwin, an American essayist, novelist and playwright.
  • Better encounter a danger than live in continual fear.–William H. Browne
  • When we relinquish the need for perfection and go of the fear of not being perfect–we find freedom, joy and all the other good stuff we want in life.
  • Pres Reagan was nervous when he stumped that he open his speeches with a joke to get a quick victory (laughter) from his audience.
  • Success is completing one thing each day that will be a help or a blessing to another.
  • Success is not wealth, but character. Those who are most successful live happy lives and have happy relationships. They never say a bad word about anyone and everyone likes and admires them.
  • The real measure of a man’s wealth is what he has invested in eternity.
  • Success is those who are called “friend” by all who know them because they are loving, kind, supportive, and generous with their time and talents.
  • A smart boss doesn’t want ‘yes’ men. They want those who make him look good by winning ideas/have innovative ideas.
  • Success is not something to wait for, it’s something to work for.
  • Let us realize that the privilege to work is a gift; that the power to work is a blessing that love of work is success.
  • If you want to succeed, be willing to assume responsibilities and to work to the highest level of your capabilities.
  • To be successful in business, be daring, be first, be different. – William Marchant
  • Make the most of what you have, do the best you can when it counts, and expect a good outcome for your efforts.
  • People who are most successful in life do not get to the top because of what happens to them; they get to the top because of how they react to what happens to them.
  •  The two leading recipes for success are building a better mousetrap and finding a bigger loophole. -Edgar A Shoaff
  •  If you don’t get everything you want, think of things you do get that you don’t want.
  • How you think is everything, so be positive. Think success, not failure. Beware of a negative environment.
  • In everything you do, put God first, and he will direct you and crown your effort with success. Proverbs 3:6
  • Trust God, for no matter what you face, He can always pull you through.
  • When you take time to get to know God, your faith will ALWAYS be strengthened.
  • Prayer is a battle and the reward is worth it all.  For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Eph 6:12 NIV
  • Prayer is man giving God a foothold in enemy territory. – S.D. Gorden
  • There is no promise God cannot keep, No prayer God will not answer, and no problem too hard for Him to solve. -Adrian Rogers.
  • Beware of praying only for a blessing. Let us first seek obedience and God will supply the blessing.- A. Murray “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33
  • Even when we can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel, because of God’s faithfulness we can still trust that it is there.
  • Trust is like a paper, once it’s crumpled it can’t be perfect again.
  • Be careful who you trust the devil was once an angel.
  • “Never trust anyone completely but God. Love people, but put your full trust only in God.” – Lawrence Welk


  • The best time to end eBay Sunday between 6pm and 10 pm
  • Bidding- wait until 2 minutes before auction ends so others can’t make a counteroffer that drives up the price.
  • Fees when buying and fees when selling. (Mistakes buyers make that can be costly)

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (by Stephen R. Covey)

  • Be proactive.
  • Begin with the end in mind.
  • Put first things first
  • Think win/win
  • Seek first to understand….then to be understood
  • Synergize
  • Sharpen the saw

Guarantee yourself a well balanced life and livelihood by asking each of these questions at the end of the day.

☐ Am I sure about what matters most?
☐ Did I make a difference today?
☐ Am I secure in who I am regardless of my performance?
☐ Did I schedule some “Quiet Time” today? (Two hours quiet time builds the brain.)
☐ What did I do to show my family that I love them?
☐ Did I keep ALL my commitments?
☐ Did I compromise my honest and integrity in any way?    Do what you say you tell someone you are going to do or are you passive aggressive? Don’t  be guilty of the ‘hot air’ syndrome (all talk and not action).  Studies show that people pay more attention to what others do than what they say. Walk your talk. Your actions ultimately speak louder than words. There is no reason to ever have to say the words “I promise”, when your word should be good enough. Otherwise it sounds like anything you say without saying ‘I promise’ gives you the opportunity to lie.     9 Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but whoever takes crooked paths will be found out. Proverbs 10:9/   Do to others as you would have them do to you.  Luke 6:31  /  Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices  Col 3:93 The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.  Proverbs 11:3    /17 An honest witness tells the truth, but a false witness tells lies.  Proverbs 12:17 22 The LORD detests lying lips, but he delights in people who are trustworthy.  Proverbs 12:22 /5 An honest witness does not deceive, but a false witness pours out lies.  Proverbs 14:5  / The one whose walk is blameless is kept safe, but the one whose ways are perverse will fall into the pit.  Proverbs 28:18/ Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.  1 John 3:18/

☐ Did I read or learn anything new?
☐ Was I kind to someone else without expecting anything in return?
☐ Did I laugh today? Laughter is God’s sunshine. Laughter is good exercise. It is like jogging on the inside.
☐ Was I a model of excellence at work today?
☐ If today was a day off, did I rest or was I restless?
☐ Did I provide emotional support to my loved ones by encouraging them, listening to them AND telling them that I love them ? What will I do differently tomorrow? – Jeff Conley’s Habits of the Heart 1998



  • You are responsible for your own happiness. No one can make you feel inferior unless you allow them to do it.
  • People won’t stay mad at you long if you can say, “I was wrong, and I am truly sorry. I hope you will forgive me.”
  • When something is troubling you, tell someone you trust instead of trying to cover it up. You will be surprised to learn that the other person has been through something similar.
  • Don’t pass up an opportunity to tell people you care about them. You may never get another chance.
  • Reserve judgment until you know all the facts. Even then, keep your mouth shut if no useful purpose is served by adding your two cents’ worth.
  • Be grateful for your good health and the health of those you love. Be aware that without good health, money and success mean little.
  • If you enjoy your work and your life, you are rich. If you aren’t happy with either, how can money help?
  • It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness.
  • If you are having a rotten day, don’t take it out on those around you. Simply say to yourself, “Things could be worse. Tomorrow will be better.” That attitude will improve your disposition as well as your digestive system.
  • Don’t be afraid to try something you think you can’t do. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.


  • Have a clear idea of what you want. You may not want a replacement, especially if the product didn’t work the way it was supposed to int he first place. Say you expect a refund.
  • Shocked, Appalled and Dismayed (the book)


  • There’s no such thing as the perfect man or woman. Look for the best overall package of kindness, consideration, ambition and intelligence. Otherwise, you will spend your life alone.
  • No one is perfect or can make themselves so. It is fine to be the best we can but perfectionism is like trying to steal from God.
  • The Paradoxical Commandments People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway. If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. Think big anyway. People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway. People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway. Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway. © Copyright Kent M. Keith 1968, renewed 2001 (Mother Teresa thought the Paradoxical Commandments were important enough to put up on the wall of her children’s home in Calcutta.)

To Remember Me . . .’‘ by Robert N. Test (Re-printed Ann Landers column Nov 17 1990)

The day will come when my body will lie upon a white sheet neatly tucked under four corners of a mattress located in a hospital busily occupied with the living and the dying. At a certain moment a doctor will determine that my brain has ceased to function and, for all practical purposes, my life has stopped.

Give my sight to the man who has never seen a sunrise, a baby`s face or love in the eyes of a woman. Give my heart to a person whose own heart has caused nothing but endless days of pain. Give my blood to a teenager who was pulled from the wreckage of his car, so that he might live to see his grandchildren play. Give my kidneys to one who depends on a machine to exist. Take my bones, every nerve and muscle in my body, and find a way to make a crippled child walk.

Explore every corner of my brain. Take my cells, if necessary, and let them grow so that, someday, a speechless boy will shout at the crack of a bat and a deaf girl will hear the sound of rain against her window.

Burn what is left and scatter my ashes to the winds to help the flowers grow.
If you must bury something, let it be my faults, my weaknesses and all prejudice against my fellow man.
Give my sins to the devil; give my soul to God.

If, by chance, you wish to remember me, do it with a kind deed or word to someone who needs you. If you do all I have asked, I will live forever.         –

What do you want to pass on to your kids? (Tell us in the comments below.)


  • When depressed Psalm 27
  • Lacking -Psalm 37
  •  If people have been unkind to you John 15
  • Losing Confidence in people 1 Corinth 13
  • If you can’t have your own way James 3
  • Out of sorts Heb 12
  • For a traveling companion Psalm 121
Bearing a grudge – Luke 6; II Corinthinans 4; Eph 4   don’t hold grudges or you will be  condemned – judged James 5:9     
 Bored- Psalm 104:23, 33-34   2 Kings 5; Job 38; Psalms 103, 104, Ephesians 3
Bitter or Critical 1 Corinth 13
Budget planning Mark 4; Luke 19
Busy- You seem too busy Ecc 3:1-15
Courage Joshua 1:9, Psalm 27:5
Crisis- facing one Job 28:12-28;   Proverbs 8; Isaiah 55, Psalm 121, Matth 6:25-34, Heb 4:16           Psalm 91:11?
Defeated Rom 8:31-39
Disaster Threatened Psalms 91, Psalm 118 5-6, Like 8:22-25
Discouraged about work Psalm 128
Disobedient: Mark 12, Isaiah 6; Luke 5
Friend fails you– Psalm 41:9-13, Psalm 27, Luke 17:3-4
God seems distant-Psalms 25, 125, 138. 139 ;  Luke 10  For feeling God’s presence Matthew 18:20; Psalm 46:10
Growing Old (aging)– Psalm 71
Guilt feelings II Corinthians 5:17; Psalm 55:16-17
Have sinned– Psalms 51; Isaiah 53; John 3; 1 John 1
Hopeless– Psalm 23 and 27- even in the grimmest circumstances
Immortality- for the promise of it John 11:25; I Corinthinans 2:9
Impatient – Psalms 40,  90; Hebrews 12
In Danger– Psalm 91, Psalm 118:5-6
Job- starting a new one Psalms 1; Proverbs 16; Philippians 3:7-21
Joy John 15:11; Proverbs 16:20
Overcome Psalm 6 Rom 8:31-39  1 John 1:4-9
Prayerful – Psalm 4, Psalm 42, Luke 11:1-13 John 17,  1 John 5:14-15
Rules needed for living Romans 12
Satisfied with self Proverbs 11; Luke 16  Everything is going well- Psalms 33:12-22; 100; 1 Timothy 6; James 2:1-17
Seeking the best investment Matthew 7
Tension John 14:27; Matthew 11:28 
Thankful – Psalm 100, 1 Thess 5:18, Heb 13:15 (or is it Heb  13-15?)
Traveling Psalm 121

Cheated feeling– Psalm 103

Weary feeling Psalm 95:1-7; Matthew 1; Psalm 90; Matt 11:28-30; O Cor 15:58 Gala 6:9-101
Friends go back on you/fail you Matthew 5; 1 Corinthians 13, Psalms 41:9-13, Luke 17:3-4, Romans 12:14, 17, 19, 21 II Tim 4:16-18 Proverbs 19.
You are out for a good time- Matthew 15:1-20; II Corinthians 3; Galatians 5
Leaving home Psalm 119, Proverbs 3, 4, Psalm 121, Matth 10:16-20      Making a new home – Psalm 127; Proverbs 17; Ephesians 5; Colossians 3; 1 Peter 3:1-17; 1 John 4   Moving
You have been placed in a position of responsibility- Joshua 1:1-9; Proverbs 2; 2 Corinthians 8:1-15
Want to know the way to prayer- 1 Kings 8:12-61, Luke 11, 18
Without JESUS life is empty. To draw close to Him today spending time with Him and talking to Him, like you do other friends.
Confidence,  False Matt 7:24-27-
Crime– Matt 15:17-20
Enemies- Matt 5:43-48
Excuses- Luke 14:15-24
Extravagance– I Tim 6:7-12
held held
Flesh-Romans 13:14 
Intemperance- Proverbs 20:1
Lip-service- Matthew 7:21
Self-exultation-Luke 14:11
Self-righteousness-Luke 18:11-12
Sin-John 8:34-36
Submission-I Peter 2:13-17
Worldliness -I John 2:15-17
Abundant Life- John 10:10
Citizenship-Romans 13:1-7; Titus 3:1
Cleanliness- II Cor 7:1
Consecration– Rom 12:1-2
Contentment– I Tim 6:6
Diligence– Rom 12:11
Duty-Luke 20:21-25
Endurance- Luke 21:9-19; II Tim 2:3
Faith-Matt 8:5-13; Mark 11:22-24
Faithfulness– Matt 25:23
Freedom-John 8:31-36
Fruitfulness– John 15:1-8
Godliness – Titus 2:11-14
Happiness-Matt 5:3-12
Holiness– 1 Peter 1:13-16
Honesty– II Cor 8:21
Honor– I Peter 2:17
Honor to Parents– Matt 15:4
Hope– I Peter 1:13
Humility- Luke 18:9-14
Joy- Luke 10:20; John 15:11
Labor-John 9:4
Love– Luke 10:27; I Cor 13
Obedience- John 14:15:24; Acts 5:29
Overcoming- John 16:33; Rev 3:12
Patience– Heb 10:36
Perseverance– Mark 13:5-13
Prayer– Luke 11:1-13; Eph 6:18
Pure Thinking– Phil 4:8
Purity– Matt 5:27-32; II Tim 2:22
Reading the Bible– John 5:39; Psalm 1:2; Psalm 119:97
Resolution-Eph 6:10-18
Reverence– Psalm 89:7
Righteousness– Matthew 5:6, Matth 6:33
Sincerity– Phil 1:9-10
Stedfastness– I Corin 15:58
Stewardship– I Cor 4:2; II Cor 9:6-7
Temperance– I Thess 5:6-8
Trust-Psalm 37:3-5; Prov 3:5-6
Truth- John 14:6; John 17:17; Eph 4:14-15
Victory- I Cor 15:57; I John 5:4
Watchfulness– Mark 13:34-37
Worship-John 4:23-24
Zeal –John 2:13-17; John 6:27
The Ten Commandments- Exodus 20; Deuteronomy 5
The Great Commandments  Matthew 22:34-40
The Great Commission – Matthew 28:16-20; Mark 16:14-18
The Beatitudes- Matthew 5:1-12
The Sermon on the Mount– Matthew 5, 6,7
The Shepherd Psalm Psalms 23
The Birth of Jesus Matthew 1, 2; Luke 2
The Shepherd Psalm– Psalms 23
The Crucifixion, Death and Resurrection of Jesus– Matthew  26, 27, 28; Mark 14, 15, 16; Luke 22, 23, 24; John Chapters 13-21
The outpouring of the Holy Spirit Acts 2
The Holy Spirit outpoured on the Gentiles– Acts 10 
The Parable of the Good Samaritan Luke 10
The Parable of the Prodigal Son- Luke 10
The Parable of the Sower– Matthew 13; Mark 4; Luke 8
The Last Judgment- Matthew 25
The Faith Chapter- Hebrews 11
The Love Chapter – 1 Corinth 13
Instructions regarding spiritual gifts– 1 Corinthians 12, 14
The Ascension of Jesus– Acts 1:1-12
The Day of Pentecost– Acts 2
The Temptation of Jesus Matthew 4:1-11; Luke 4:1-13
The Making of woman & Fall of man Genesis 2-4
Blessed is the man that walketh not.. Psalm 1
Under the shadow of the Almighty Psalm 91
Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God Isaiah 9:6
The Suffering of Messiah Isaiah 53
That which is conceived Matthew
For God so loved the world… John 3:16
He is not here, He is risen... Luke 23
I am the Way, the Truth... John 14:6
Jesus’ Prayer John 17
But you shall receive power… Acts 1:8
The Love Chapter 1 Corinthians 13
The Armor of God Ephesians 6
The Marriage Supper of the Lamb Rev 19


Although things are not perfect
Because of trial or pain
Continue in thanksgiving
Do not begin to blame
Even when the times are hard
Fierce winds are bound to blow
God is forever able
Hold on to what you know
Imagine life without His love
Joy would cease to be
Keep thanking Him for all the things
Love imparts to thee
Move out of ‘Camp Complaining’
No weapon that is known
On earth can yield the power
Praise can do alone
Quit looking at the future
Redeem the time at hand
Start every day with worship
To ‘thank’ is a command
Until we see Him coming
Victorious in the sky
We’ll run the race with gratitude
Xaulting God most high
Yes, there’ll be good times and yes some will be bad, but…
Zion waits in glory…where none are ever sad!

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10 Responses to Things I Want to Teach My Child

  1. Dave says:

    Someone wrote Ask Amy about adult children who borrow from their parents and don’t repay their debts. Wanting to be fair to all their children they gave each child a cash Christmas present slightly larger than the largest debt, and subtracted each child’s debt from the gift. Everybody got something and now everyone was even.

    Amy responded that while forgiving these debts could be good for relationships in the short term, but, depending on the recipients, it might impede their financial competency.Amy added that she hoped that the parent kept the slate clean by not lending money to their children.

  2. Jewel says:

    Success is a marathon, not a sprint. Never give up
    Get all the facts, all the input. Learn from your mistakes.
    Don’t let other people or things distract you
    Following the herd is a sure way to mediocrity.
    Learn to understand and motivate people
    Be honest and dependable; take responsibility. -borrowed

  3. Davis says:

    Fraud in the Family -The people you know best are most likely to cheat or swindle you…. The perpetrator may be a child …

    The Distant Son …..

    “One of the things I’ve heard is, ‘It’s OK to steal or take this money from Mom and Dad because it’s my inheritance,’ ” says Jilenne Gunther, director of AARP’s BankSafe initiative.

    “This is the easiest crime to commit,” says Karen Sundstrom, who works for the Lexington County, South Carolina, Recreation and Aging Commission as an advocate for older adults who experience abuse. “It’s a piece of cake.” Once someone close to you gets over the moral hurdles, the logistics are easy. A relative or friend, unlike a larcenous stranger, knows or can quickly find out exactly what you own and where it is. Most important, that person has your trust. Once a fraudster has that, experts say, getting you to agree to requests is relatively simple.


  4. Anna C. says:

    A fake laugh- Someone who appears upbeat all the time is repressing their feelings out of deep insecurities and the fear of rejection. Afraid if they reveal their true selves others won’t like them they constantly wear a “happy face”. An individual like this can never have a true friendship because their energies are always focused on maintaining a pleasant mask.
    Always be yourself. It’s better to be a real nobody than a fake somebody. You were born an original. Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody … Originality is a thing we constantly clamor for, and constantly quarrel with.

    See :MASK OF JOY ‘Smiling depression’ is one of the most dangerous mental illnesses, expert warns – and it affects MILLIONS One in ten people suffer depression – of those up to 40 per cent suffer ‘smiling depression’, hiding their torment from the world

  5. Donna says:

    How to ruin your kids life
    From several parents who have ‘been there, done that’ and are now deeply sorry:

    • Make sure he never develops sense of responsibility. responsibility and organization- Let the cleaning lady pick up and clean for them.
    • Rescue them when trouble arises and protect him from everything- a teacher when he doesn’t do his school work…pay his speeding tickets. Deny him nothing!
    • Hand them money to take from them any creativity to figure out how to earn it on his own.
    • Destroy their craving to learn and his self esteem by doing everything for him so he thinks he can’t do it since you apparently don’t believe he can and he won’t try, choosing to let everyone else take care of him. His wife will love you for it.
    • Steal his feeling of triumph for learning to do something. Let him rely on you so you steal his joy of of enthusiastically looking to God.
    • Cripple them by Squelching their desire to learn how to do things for themselves by doing everything for them.
    • Think for them. Make sure your thought and your beliefs are theirs.
    • Don’t teach them goal setting.
    • Smother him so he is ill equipped to do a thing for himself because the last thing you want is for him to not need you. Be sure you let the kids live at home as long as possible.
    • Instead make sure you always bail them out of debt
    • .

  6. zander says:

    A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, were visiting with their college professor. Conversation soon turned to complaints about stress in work and life.

    Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups: porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive some exquisite.

    He told the guests to help themselves to the coffee. After everyone had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said,

    “If you notice all the nice looking expensive cups have been taken up leaving the plain and cheap ones. While it is normal to want the best for yourself, that is the source of our problems.

    The cups adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases it is just more expensive and hides what we drink. What all of us really wanted was coffee, not the cup but consistently we reach for the best cups and then began eyeing each others cups.

    Life is like coffee. Jobs, money & position in society are the cups. They are just tools to contain life. The type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live. Sometimes by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee. Savor the coffee.

    The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything. The richest person is not the one who has the most, but the one who needs the least.”

    Live simply. Speak kindly. Care deeply. Love generously.”

    “Life is like Coffee. “

  7. Taylor B, says:

    WHEN YOU HAVE KIDS…from Ask Amy
    Grandparents, ideally, are involved, caring and kind. They offer a soft place for their grandchildren to nestle, removed from the pressures of other relationships. They love without harsh judgment. They create a positive presence, even when they are not nearby. They communicate and show a loving interest in the lives of their grandchildren.

  8. Davina says:

    When everything seems to be going well with us, we are apt not to care for others, and in the fulness of our enjoyments, we forget the many wants of our brethren.

  9. Davina says:

    If you really want to pay me back, the next time you see someone who needs help, please give that person the needed assistance and think of me.

  10. Robyn says:

    Basic Etiquette for Dummies

    Don’t pick at anything in public (nose, butt, scabs, teeth, zits spouse)
    Keep your elbows off the table
    Don’t talk with food in your mouth.
    Don’t smack.
    When you stand up, look around you first before you start walking away so you don’t knock someone down. And always watch were you are going do you don’t run into or over someone.
    Don’t talk loud
    Don’t attract attention
    Don’t be greedy and reach for the last thing. Make sure there is enough to go around.
    Never eat in front of someone unless you offer to share.
    When someone visits it is your job to make them comfortable.Offer them a drink of whatever you have-soda, tea, juice or water if that is ll you have.
    Always make sure your friends car starts and they move before you leave the parking lots.
    Brush your teeth when you get up. No one wants to smell your dog breath.
    If you are visiting, don’t help yourself to the fridge. If your host is etiquette challenged and doesn’t offer you a drink and you need one ask only for water.
    NEVER pop in on someone. This is not the 1940s or 1950s. Always call first. Don’t just show up on their doorstep, yell surprise when they open the door. The surprise may be that they have plans they cannot change. (Give plenty of notice if you would like to visit. Call to check schedule several days in advance.)
    Keep your bodily noises to yourself. Nobody wants to hear or smell them.
    Wipe your feet well at the door before entering another person’s home.
    Sleeves are not Kleenex
    When you visit someone, it is true that company is like fish, after three days it begins to stink!

    Remember you are not the cute ‘exception to the rule’ no matter what your mama told you.

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