Starving Widows in Oklahoma (Full Story)



  • Four million Seniors are malnourished in the US according to The American Academy of Family Physicians. Oklahoma ranks as one of the ten states in the nation for senior hunger, coming in at  #8!
  • Out of those seniors who face the threat of hunger, the majority (63%) are white, have incomes above the poverty line and the  widowed, with disabled widows at a higher risk. Among the most pronounced increases, for food insecurity, are the retired, those who do not live in a metro area, women, and households with no grandchildren present.
  • 12% of those 65 and older are living at the poverty level.
  • Hunger is higher in rural areas than in Oklahoma City where 1/3 of Seniors are hungry on a daily basis.


  • One in three Oklahomans rely on Social Security for their total income, although there is no minimum Social Security benefit amount.
  • At the death of a spouse one Social Security benefit goes away.
  • There are hungry elderly people on Social Security, in our state who do not qualify for Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program (SNAP), more commonly called  food stamps While more than 50% of  households  receiving food through Feeding America* are also receiving food stamps a  Senior receiving  the average  Social Security benefit does not qualify for food stamps.
  • One widow lost her $22 monthly SNAP benefits, when the Social Security benefit cost-of-living increased by 1.7% this year,  putting her over the allowed income.

ON A VERY LIMITED INCOME A  STRUGGLING SENIOR  MUST FIGURE OUT HOW TO EAT  AND STILL GET BY. Imagine for a few  moments that your total income was from  Social Security and  the monthly benefit was  $1000.

How much of that $1,000 Social Security would you have left after first paying:  your rent,  utilities  (water/sewer/trash, gas, electric, phone), prescriptions, medical co-pays and uncovered services,   personal care basics (such as toilet paper, deodorant, shampoo, toothpaste, etc.), stamps to mail in your bills, house insurance and real estate taxes, if mortgaged or owned house maintenance/repairs/upkeep (such as a hot water tank, fridge, stove, washer or dryer goes out), vehicle to go back and forth to the doctor and grocery store in poor condition even if paid for, still requires a drivers license, auto insurance, a tag, gasoline, oil, and basic repair/maintenance, such as a battery, tires and wiper blade replacement, late fees, when you just don’t have enough money to pay the full amount (and yes, this will be often).

  •  Many Oklahoma seniors skip meals in order to purchase the medication that needs to be taken with food to assure its effectiveness. Older adults spent 13.2 percent of their total expenditures on health—more than twice  the proportion spent by consumers overall.
  • More than half of all seniors report having to make tradeoffs, many times choosing between eating or paying for prescriptions, transportation to the doctor, rent or utilities (heat and water), etc.  Many go hungry.These tradeoffs  mean that our older population is suffering as many Oklahoma seniors  don’t receive the proper nutrition critical to their  health.
  • Living close to the edge one may fall behind on mortgage payments or  real estate taxes and lose the family home in foreclosure. When the equity in a house may have been their only  “savings” it is a hard choice to make: eat or lose the house. Still, a person who worked at a lower paying job may have never been able to buy a home and continues to pay monthly rent. Since the average rent for an apartment, in Tulsa, is $750 that leaves very little to pay for all essentials for the month.

With very little left to buy food for the month some resort to:

  • payday loans  with Annual Percent Rates of 391% or higher.  Oklahoma is No. 1 in Payday Loan Usage – NPR State Impact
  • credit card companies that do not receive the minimum payment by the due date may add a late fee of $35 and the APR may be increased to the variable penalty of 29.99%!
  •  purchasing  inexpensive,  unhealthy food as they are unable to stretch their dollar far enough to buy enough food to sustain their health, 79% of households  report. Processed foods (packaged) may seem cheaper, but  can  adversely affect health.


A recent study found that food insecure seniors had significantly lower intakes of vital nutrients in their diets.  Inadequate nutrition can have long-term consequences, which include a high rate of heart attack, asthma, high blood pressure,  diabetes,  depression and congestive heart failure.

The health  of our older population is suffering.  Enough food, and nutritious, health-sustaining food is important  in order to  reduce the rates of obesity,  diabetes and other chronic diseases and the accompanying skyrocketing health care costs.   While it is important to everyone, adequate nutrition is especially important to this high-risk population who are particularly vulnerable to disease. Food insecurity among elders increases disability, decreases resistance to infection, and extends hospital stay.  Seniors are at  increased risk for chronic health condition which can create additional financial strains.  Many report having medical debt even with insurance,  due to deductibles and uncovered services.

ASHAMED AND EMBARRASSED BY THEIR SITUATION,  FEW ELDERLY GO TO A FOOD PANTRY 17% of the clients served by Feeding America are age 60 and over. Most older folks don’t want to admit that after a lifetime of working they are now near poor or living in poverty. A person who worked at a low paying job may not have had  the chance to save much to fall back on, in retirement. Many times if they did have savings it was quickly depleted on everyday necessities. Many will never mention the hunger, as they  were raised to believe that only lazy people, with no pride, take (what they may perceive as) a handout.


  • FEWER NUTRITION PROGRAMS ARE AVAILABLE FOR SENIORS   Only one in more than ten meal programs target seniors while nearly one in three meal programs target children.
  • MANY CANNOT  GET TO A FOOD PANTRY TO RECEIVE  FOOD. Life circumstances that prohibit or inhibit an individual’s ability to obtain healthy food  include: inability to get to a food pantry due to poor health, limited mobility, lack of transportation, living in a “food desert” (too far from a food pantry), isolation  and even shame.
  • DENTAL PROBLEMS  make it extremely uncomfortable to eat but Medicare, in Oklahoma, does NOT cover a visit the dentist when one simply can’t endure the pain any more. (Nor does Medicare  cover a visit to the eye doctor to replace glasses that have broken or weren’t strong enough to see or   hearing aids. Many elderly who don’t have money to eat certainly won’t have enough for these “luxuries” and  just do without.)


  • A widowed person may be going hungry but  many times is ashamed and doesn’t want anyone to know.
  • There are more than 100,000 widows in Oklahoma. 40% of women in Oklahoma over the age of 65 are widowed and nearly 70% of widows in Oklahoma live alone.
  • A lack of money seems to play a bigger part in widows becoming isolated. Many times there is no choice but to decline offers to socialize. A hungry widow/widower receiving the average Social Security benefit does not qualify for food assistance from SNAP, even if they do not have enough to eat.  There isn’t money to buy a little extra food to attend a potluck. Many times it is a hardship to buy gas for the car to get to church once a week. Even  a small gift for a grandchild’s birthday may be financially outside the realm of possibilities. Feeling ashamed and believing they are the only ones in their predicament further isolates them as they tell no one.

While food can break down barriers, the three hardest words to say are  Please help me“. Yet, we can all do something:

  • Now that you know of the problem, is there anything that you, as one person, can think of to do to make a difference in the life of a hungry widow/widower?
  •  A simple act of kindness can restore hope and bring fresh strength to those who are desperate to believe that someone cares.
  • We can nourish their body allowing their minds to be open to nourishment from the Holy Spirit.



  • Educating the elderly and their caregivers on how and where they can get help, and if they cannot get there, we need to get it to them.  (Help them find out if they qualify for SNAP and helpt them get to a food pantry.)
  • Extras from your garden, such as a nice tomato or a cantaloupe can go a long way in helping someone who is hungry. (See
  • Delivering food to the Senior low income apartments in RURAL areas    (Example: Cushing, though closer to Tulsa is served by the Regional Food bank, not the Eastern Oklahoma Food Bank    Cushing falls under  the Regional Food Bank:  
  • Senior Servings appears to deliver in the OKC and Tulsa metro areas. Seniors in rural areas, such as Cushing, desperately need this so that those elderly who cannot make it to the food pantry have food delivered to them.

Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again. Luke 6:38


“At the end of life we will not be judged by how many diplomas we have received, how much money we have made, how many great things we have done. We will be judged by “I was hungry, and you gave me something to eat, I was naked and you clothed me. I was homeless, and you took me in.”~ Mother Teresa   (See Matthew 25:35-40)


  • Enough healthy food for adequate nutrition is important, for our Seniors  to  reduce the rates of obesity,  diabetes and other chronic diseases and the accompanying skyrocketing healthcare costs.
  • The  health of low-income elderly persons,  60 years of age and older, can be improved by supplementing their diets with nutritious foods.
  • Individuals, charities, businesses and government all have a role in ending Senior hunger. Each of us can all do something, no matter how small we feel it is.! Working together, we can solve hunger in Oklahoma.



And they, continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and breaking bread from
house to house, did eat their meat with gladness and singleness of heart,
Acts 2:46 KJV

Information taken from:


The State of Senior Hunger in America 2012: An Annual Report Prepared for the National Foundation to End Senior Hunger May 2014 Professor James P.Ziliak University of Kentucky Professor Craig Gundersen University of Illinois


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  3. Mildred C. says:

    great comments about this story are on this link: (It is a condensed version of what you jut read but it has lots of good comments!)

  4. Dianna says:

    There is a difference between hunger and malnourished (malnutrition) or starving. Grandma usually doesn’t eat right when there is just one person to cook for. Many of them are malnourished. See:

    It is important that she eats nourishing foods. Due to lack of finances or no longer having someone with whom to share a meal, she may not eat nutritious foods, which can lead to malnutrition. A deficiency in vitamins and minerals can masquerade in a number of different ways, for example a deficiency in either vitamin B12 or vitamin D3, is associated with falls and many other conditions that people assume are simply a sign of aging. Signs of a B12 deficiency might show up as one or more of the following: cataracts, macular degeneration, essential tremors, cognitive impairment, chronic fatigue syndrome, sleep disturbances, suppressed immune system, psychiatric illness (clinical depression, bipolar disorder, dementia, schizophrenia and anxiety disorders which may include changes in mood, personality, personal habits and/or social withdrawal) to neurologic problems such as multiple sclerosis (MS) or Parkinson’s disease. (Note that to be effective, B12 requires folate, not to be confused with folic acid.)

    Community Service Council can help.

  5. Dana says:

    Clarence’s wife, Wanda, had passed away a few years earlier, and he had no family nearby to help him with grocery shopping. Unable to drive or walk, Clarence called a local supermarket, but the manager told him the store didn’t delivered. Hungry and desperate, Clarence dialed 911. – See Saved by the Switchboard November 2015 Reader’s Digest

  6. Dana says:

    When you cook for people, they feel cared for. Ruth Reichl, chef and food writer in her book My Kitchen Year

  7. Paula says:

    Everything from how you cook meat to what you eat for dessert can play a role in your brain health. Here, how to eat to prevent dementia and Alzheimer’s.
    By Kenneth S. Kosik, MD from the book Outsmarting Alzheimer’s


    Prevent Alzheimer’s Disease: 8 Daily Habits a Neurologist Swears By
    Sleep is important too.

    For more google his name: kenneth s kosik

    • T.D. says:

      Some of the most remarkable results came from Finnish and Swedish researchers just this past spring. For several years, they followed more than a thousand people (ages 60 to 77) at high risk for developing Alzheimer’s. Those who changed their habits to include nutritious eating, regular exercise, and intellectual pursuits performed at least 25 percent better on tests of memory, thinking, and problem solving than did other people who kept the same routine. This was enough to delay a dementia diagnosis by two years and reduce the prevalence 25 percent. Had the interventions started earlier in life, the findings might have been even more dramatic.

  8. Justina says:


    Sharing produce from our garden with those who are hungry, yet are unable to garden, is
    a simple way to show love for our neighbors and help them stay healthy.

    By loving and caring for others, we are doing it unto Christ which is what is required to
    receive eternal life. Matt. 25:34-40

    God wants our bodies healthy, as they are a temple of the Holy Spirit. He placed Adam and
    Eve in a garden and give them every seed-bearing plants and every tree that has fruit
    with seed in it as food. Gen. 1:29

    By taking to church our tithe from our harvest to share the Lord will bless all of our work, and
    pour out so much blessing there will not be room enough to store it. Malachi 3:10

    Jesus said, that to receive eternal life we will live if we love the Lord our God with our whole
    heart and soul and strength and mind’; and, ‘Love our neighbor as ourselves.

    In answer to who is our neighbor Jesus used a parable where a man robbed, stripped and beaten,
    and half dead, is ignored by a priest and Levite who saw him, but did not help. The Good Samaritan
    bound his wounds and took him to an inn where he paid for him to be cared for, saying that if there
    were additional costs he would be responsible. The Samaritan, by showing mercy and love by taking
    care of another human, was the neighbor.

    Luke 10 :25-37 Paraphrased

    *See also Deuteronomy 6:5 and Leviticus/19:18

    When Jesus returns He will separate people so that those on His right (the righteous) will
    receive eternal life, because when they fed, gave a drink and clothes to those in need,
    welcomed in the stranger, cared for the sick, and visited those in prison they did for Him.’

    Those on the left will be cursed, and receive eternal fire for not helping those others.

    Matthew 25:31-46 Paraphrased
    Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these, my brethren, ye have done it unto me.
    Mark 25:40
    God cares about every aspect of our lives and wants the best for us….including our health:
    “Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul
    prospereth.” 3 John:1-2
    God placed Adam and Eve in a garden. “Then God said, ‘I give you every seed-bearing
    plant on the face of the whole earth and very tree that has fruit with seed in
    it. They will be yours for food.“’ Gen. 1:29
    Today, many people are overweight and sick; dying in their 40s, 50s, and early 60s from diseases
    that might be prevented, if they ate from a garden instead of processed (packaged) foods that
    are full of chemicals: “Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit,
    who is in you, who you have received from God?” Corinthians 6:19

    The National Cancer Institute recommends eating 5 to 9 servings of fruits and vegetables a day
    because eating a healthy diet may help lower our chances of diseases such as high blood pressure,
    stroke, diabetes, heart disease, and some types of cancer.

    A simple way for churches to help members improve their health, by eating more fruits and
    vegetables every day is by bringing healthy eating into the church; a blessing beyond measure.

    We are to set aside a tithe (one-tenth) of all the crops we harvest each year and take the
    tithe to the designated place of worship. Give it to the Levites, who will receive no allotment
    of land among you, as well as to the foreigners living among you, the orphans, and the widows
    in your towns, so they can eat and be satisfied. Then the Lord your God will bless you in all
    your work.

    Sharing what we have with widows so they can eat and be satisfied and God will bless us in
    all our work. Deuteronomy 14:22-29 PARAPHRASED

    Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,”
    says the LORD Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out
    so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it. Malachi 3:10

    God wants us to be in good health, and for food to eat he gave us seed-bearing plants and trees
    with fruits with seeds. Extras from our garden, such as a nice tomato or a cantaloupe can go a
    long way in helping someone who is hungry.

    A simple way to help others improve their health, is to share our harvest with those who are unable
    to garden, themselves and for whom produce might be a luxury.

    While caring people do share with food pantries many of our elderly don’t visit pantries for numerous
    reasons, including shame or mobility issues. Bringing produce from our gardens to church to share on
    Sunday can be a real blessing for them.

    The Lord will bless all of our work, and pour out so much blessing there will not be room enough to
    store it. Malachi 3:10 Feeding others we not only show mercy and love, but we are doing it unto
    Him, which is what we are required to receive eternal life.Matthew 25:31-46


    Why there is senior hunger in Oklahoma

    Increase your social network just by planting a community garden in front of your house.

    Keywords: Storehouse Widows produce church

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