Amy Daczycn, who successfully raised six children says when ice cream cones were a rare treat her kids were happy with a junior size cone, savoring every drip. But, a small cone became less appreciated if the children received one on each trip to the mall. Parents may assume that the kids need something better to make them happy. A banana split does make the kids happy, at least for awhile. When the banana split no longer thrills the child, parents buy the child the jumbo deluxe sundae… and so on, until the kids become impossible to please.
Receiving everything they desire, kids don’t have the opportunity to experience the appreciation and thrill when receiving gifts. Parents assume they must provide more impressive gifts and/or entertainment to make them feel excited. It is human nature…the more we have, the more we want.
One wonders what kind of employee or spouse these kids will grow up to be if they have been handed everything they ask for, without having to work for anything. It is a sad fact of life that adults who have been taught that everything should be given to them tend not to be successful in life, or pleasant to be around.
We tend to more appreciative when experiences, opportunities and activities are not too frequent, while diminished appreciation is a barometer that one has had too much. Instead of moving up to the banana split, simply saving the treat for a special occasion makes the junior ice cream cone appreciated when it is once again received. After not having ice cream for awhile the rare junior cone treat is savored, giving more pleasure and satisfaction.
This lack of overstimulation (i.e creative deprivation) allows one to receive more enjoyment out of the little things in life.
Life is stressful. A desire for more money to buy more things may entice us to work harder and longer, putting more stress on ourselves to obtain a bigger house, with higher insurance, taxes and HOA fees and the latest equipment for the big media room in the new house. We may feel that we now need to drive better vehicles to go with the expensive home in the nicer neighborhood. That can mean hefty car payments plus higher insurance and car tags that goes along with it. However, numerous studies have shown that money only increases happiness to the level of bringing people out of abject poverty. The rest is just excess. Studies show that most Americans would enjoy contentment, relaxation and quality time with family over stress of excess.
When we have so much of anything we fail to appreciate any of it like those who have less of it. Those living in the state of Colorado where one is constantly exposed to the beauty of the mountains may not stop and appreciate it as much as those of us who only get to visit a few times.
When you aren’t getting joy out of what you have done in the past or if what you have doesn’t add value to your life. When something begins to give you less pleasure instead of moving up to the next level simply stop indulging in it at all until you really miss what it was that bored you. “Creative deprivation” allows you to put things in perspective and gain a renewed appreciation.
Instead of never feeling satisfied and constantly feeling the need to get something bigger or better learning to love what you have is truly a blessing.
Read how well Amy explained it, here on: this blog