When My Grandmother Became a Widow….

When my grandmother became a widow, we were all there that day, for the service.  We figured since Grandma had lived through the depression, she was tough and she’d get over it. She will be fine.

When my co-worker became a widow, we took up a collection and bought a ham. Her husband had been sick and now we figured, she will be free to go and do more things. She will be ok.

When my neighbor became a widow, I didn’t know her well, but I saw some cars at her house and knew that she had some friends, so need to be concerned.  I bought a card, had some of the other neighbors sign it and then dropped it off.

When my mom became a widow, lots of people came to Dad’s celebration of life service. Hugging Mom, several people told her to let them know if she needed anything … so I was sure that they meant it and assumed she’d be just fine as they’d check on her from time to time.

When my sister was widowed early, her husband had been such a people person that lots of flowers were sent. That seemed to prove that some of those friends or someone from the church will be there for her, from time to time. 

THE REALITY:  Widows tend to suffer in silence. Not wanting to be a burden, it is typical for a widow to put on a brave smile.  A strange noise in the house that awakens them  2 a.m., keeping her terrified and unable to go back to sleep, is nothing compared to the emotional pain of feeling alone and forgotten. Most widows will not mention that people stop calling after a couple of months. Widows won’t hint that they desperately desire something as simple as a phone call, but when asked directly about it many, with tears in their eyes, will nod. 

Because death is inevitable for everyone, it  is a real possibility that a married woman will become a widow.
Every year, in the US  251,000 men  become widowers and 600,000 women become widows. Currently there are 100,000 widows and widowers in Oklahoma. If someday,  you are widowed, wouldn’t you like to know that there will be someone there for you?

The average age to become a widow is 59.4, according to census.gov (See table 7)

Who will stand up for you when it is your turn? Will there be any help for you if you don’t help get something in place now, before you need help and, yet, there is none!



 The time to repair the roof is when the sun is still shining  ~John F. Kennedy


Isaiah 1:17 “Learn to do Right; Seek Justice. Defend the oppressed. Take up the cause of the Fatherless: plead the cause of the widow.”



Purple heart Facebook: A Heart for the Widowed


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