Widows and Widowers

We all know someone who is widowed. According to the U.S. Census Bureau 800,000 people become widowed each year, in the U.S.  with 59.4 the median age of a first-time widow.  *  Half of all women who will become widowed, become so by age 65.  In 2017, there were approximately 15 million widowed in the U.S. with more than 100,000 of them living here in Oklahoma.  * https://www.census.gov/prod/2011pubs/p70-125.pdf  (See table 7)









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15 Responses to Widows and Widowers

  1. Justin says:

    Each one of us can reach out to a widow or widower. Text them or send a card to let them know you are thinking of them. Remember them on Valentine’s Day. Take some produce from your garden or change a light bulb or smoke detector battery if she can’t stand on a ladder.

    Do not oppress the widow or the fatherless, the foreigner or the poor. Zechariah 7:10

    Those we hold dear truly never leave us. They live on in the kindness they showed, the comfort they shared and the love they brought into our lives. ~ Isabel Norton

  2. M.Louise says:

    Written by Andy Rooney, a man who had the gift of saying so much with so
    few words.

    I’ve learned…. That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.
    I’ve learned…. That when you’re in love, it shows.
    I’ve learned … That just one person saying to me, ‘You’ve made my day!’ makes my day.
    I’ve learned…. That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.
    I’ve learned…. That being kind is more important than being right.
    I’ve learned…. That you should never say no to a gift from a child.
    I’ve learned…. That I can always pray for someone when I don’t have the strength to help him in any other way.
    I’ve learned….That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.
    I’ve learned….That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
    I’ve learned…. That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult.
    I’ve learned…. That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
    I’ve learned…. That we should be glad God doesn’t give us everything we ask for.
    I’ve learned…. That money doesn’t buy class.
    I’ve learned…. That it’s those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.
    I’ve learned… That under everyone’s hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.
    I’ve learned….That to ignore the facts does not change the facts.
    I’ve learned…. That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you.
    I’ve learned….That love, not time, heals all wounds.
    I’ve learned…. That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am.
    I’ve learned…. That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile.
    I’ve learned…. That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them.
    I’ve learned… That life is tough, but I’m tougher.
    I’ve learned…. That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss.
    I’ve learned…. That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere.
    I’ve learned…. That I wish I could have told my Mom that I love her one more time before she passed away.
    I’ve learned…. That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them.
    I’ve learned…. That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
    I’ve learned…. That when your newly born grandchild holds your little finger in his little fist, you’re hooked for life.
    I’ve learned….That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.
    I’ve learned…. That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.

  3. Christopher says:

    Songs for widows: .https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rbJnNRvQLm8
    I Would Have Loved You Anyways by Trisha Yearwood (funeral)
    Go On Without Me (reminder he is still near me.)
    Homesick by Mercy Me
    To Where You Are Josh Groban
    While You Loved Me by Rascal Flatts
    Evanescence – My Immortal, The Other Side, My Heart Is Broken .https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5anLPw0Efmo
    In This Moment – Into the Light
    Avril Lavigne – Wish You Were Here
    Celine Dion – Fly
    Celine Dion – My Heart Will Go On .https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DNyKDI9pn0Q
    Céline Dion
    Every night in my dreams
    I see you, I feel you
    That is how I know you go on
    Far across the distance
    And spaces between us
    You have come to show you go on
    Near, far, wherever you are
    I believe that the heart does go on
    Once more you open the door
    And you’re here in my heart
    And my heart will go on and on
    Love can touch us one time
    And last for a lifetime
    And never let go till we’re gone
    Love was when I loved you
    One true time I hold to
    In my life we’ll always go on
    Near, far, wherever you are
    I believe that the heart does go on
    Once more you open the door
    And you’re here in my heart
    And my heart will go on and on
    You’re here, there’s nothing I fear
    And I know that my heart will go on
    We’ll stay forever this way
    You are safe in my heart
    And my heart will go on and on.
    a song, by Great big World featuring Christina Aguilara, for the first time.

    Miranda Lambert’s song “Over You” and again with Russell Smith and The Amazing Rhythm Aces “Let It Burn”.

    Leonard Cohen – Dance Me to the End of Love

    Different Kind of Christmas (Mark Shultz) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ziCbpoeUfDU

  4. Bill W. says:

    Volunteering gives people access to possible friendships, gives lonely people a true sense of purpose and contributes valuable service to the organization.

    Social interaction and friendship A lady whose husband had passed away loves to knit and wanted to teach others. It’s become a wonderful support group as some have also lost their husbands. They talk and bond while they knit. They’ve made 112 blankets in the past year and given them to patients at the cancer clinic in town and to survivors of domestic violence. https://www.guideposts.org/better-living/health-and-wellness/living-longer-living-better/5-benefits-for-seniors-who-volunteer

    Bonds are best made between people who regularly do meaningful activities together. – Kelsey Ogletree AARP

    Read more about volunteering : here

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  6. Michelle says:

    For men:

    Herb Knoll lost his wife, Michelle to pancreatic cancer on March 7, 2008. Knoll is a retired bank executive, marketer, and professional speaker turned widower advocate. He founded:

    -the Michelle’s Angels Foundation, Inc., a not-for-profit organization, whose mission it is to “provide love, hope, compassion, and comforting music to those who quietly suffer” (MichellesAngel.com).
    -the Widowers Support Network https://widowerssupportnetwork.com in 2014 so he could better serve, comfort, and assist widowers and those who love them.

    His book ‘The Widower’s Journey ‘

    – tackles tough questions
    -breaks down barriers that block men in their journeys to recovery.
    -encourages men to seek out the fellowship of other widowers, and he provides resources that -men need to move forward.
    -identifies how society fails widowers
    -spells out how institutions need to change so widowers can receive the support they deserve.

    Provides advice on many topics, including:

    -how men can process grief
    -keeping healthy during stressful times
    -managing a career while coping with loss
    -drawing strength from your faith
    -reentering the dating world
    -dealing with the issues that sex, dating, and marriage create
    -parenting as a widower
    -solving financial and legal problems
    -preserving your late partner’s memory for yourself and for family and friends

  7. Liz says:

    Widows wonder if they should sell the house and rent

    Own- responsible for taxes, insurance, heating system or A/C if go out, water leak, hot water tank, roof replaced, lawn sprayed, termite spray, pest control, filters changed, mower (repair, gas, blade sharpened), fix fence, electrical problems, lightbulb replaced, piering, carpeting, painting, and all other maintenance, etc

    Rent – peace of mind that if anything goes wrong it isn’t you who has to worry!

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