Acts of Kindness Can Create a Domino Effect in Your Community!

Research shows that those who perform acts of kindness become kinder, more
grateful and happier, which can spill over, creating a domino effect that can ignite a community.

Secret acts of kindness can restore hope and bring fresh strength to those who are desperate to believe that someone cares.  Few things are as clear in scripture as the
biblical imperative to care for widows. Valentines Day provides a chance to show compassion and kindness to the widowed.

How do we change the world? One act of kindness after another. Hold a door, make eye contact and give a cheerful good morning. Give a compliment, a kind word,  a pat on the shoulder or if you know them, a hug.

Some like to  do an act of kindness, in secret, to honor the memory of a loved one.

Governor Mary Fallin’s Proclamation to recognize our widowed on Valentines  Day coincides with the first day of Random Acts of Kindness Week, February 14, 2016.

Secrets the widowed won’t tell you, but wish you knew to help you understand why they act as they do. 






 Purple heart Facebook: A Heart for the Widowed

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15 Responses to Acts of Kindness Can Create a Domino Effect in Your Community!

  1. David says:

    Secret acts of kindness can restore hope and bring fresh strength to those who are desperate to believe that someone cares.
    Why not do one to honor the memory of a loved one?

  2. Betty says:

    …positive emotions like compassion and gratitude …. A person whose emotional state is one of gratitude is in an appreciative state of mind will act more trustworthily

  3. Betty says:

    Tulsa, Oklahoma and Cushing, Oklahoma are celebrating “A Heart for the Widowed” for Valentines Day.

    Encouragement provides hope and it is hope that empowers us to become more mentally, spiritually, and physically healthy.
    Have you encouraged someone today? Maybe a kind word or compliment to someone in the aisle at the grocery store. A smile for someone who isn’t smiling. Waving someone to go in front of you.
    Whenever we pass on an act of kindness it starts something.
    The butterfly effect is the concept that small causes can have large effects.

    We all need to realize is that we never know what kind of day the other person is having. A kind word, or a thoughtful nod, a simple acknowledgement of any kind can change a day, or maybe even a life for someone.

  4. Katey says:

    Dr. Harley Galusha and his wife, in Tulsa for six years at Christmases sponsored a Senior Holiday Ball, featuring free dinner and dancing for hundreds of elderly Tulsans. This was in the 1980s and early 1990s.. Would love to see this for Valentine’s Day for the widowed.

  5. Debbie says:

    Every Kid is ONE Caring Adult Away From Being a Success Story

  6. Bob says:

    This young man was bullied but with his acts of kindness his life changed to being someone the other kids looked up to, he was chosen prom king and he does public speaking.

    A study at Duke University Medical Center has led researchers to believe that they may have discovered why people perform random acts of kindness. It appears that altruism may not be learned, after all, but, rather stimulated naturally by a part of the brain that deals with empathy and an awareness of others.

    You can never tell when you do an act just what the result will be; for with every deed you are sowing a seed–though its harvest you may never see.
    Always show more kindness than seems necessary, because the person receiving it needs it more than you will ever know.
    Kindness is not just about being nice; it’s about recognizing another human being who deserves care and respect.
    You can never err by treating everyone with respect, thoughtfulness and a kind word. Every person has value and wants that value to be recognized. everyone needs appreciation and reinforcement. Taking care of others is perhaps the best form of kindness. – Colin Powell.

    “Giving Tuesday” started in 2012. It promotes donations and volunteering at charities. People post pictures of themselves doing something selfless. (Go to the link to see when it is this year.)
    You are one in 7.5 billion people in the world and it does not circle around you. Give to others.
    Look deeply into your spouse’s eyes for five minutes of silence then say “I love you. What can I do for you?”- unknown

  7. C.C. says:

    RAOK for caregivers:

    * Gather a group of his friends and decorate his house for the holidays.
    * Cook a meal and deliver it piping hot in time to relieve the chore of preparing dinner
    * Offer to pick up the prescriptions for the person who is getting care and deliver them.
    * Write him a letter telling him you know of his sacrifices and you admire his perseverance.
    * Pick up her kids and take them to whatever after-school events are on the calendar.
    * Find a caregiving colleague at work and donate some of your vacation days to her.
    * Bake him a plate of his favorite cookies-then offer to share and chat.
    * If he longs to travel but can’t find the time, send over a collect of your favorite adventure books.
    * Help tutor her children, or if pre-calculus gives you a headache, hire a tutor to give them a hand.
    * Grave a couple of board games or a deck of cards and stop by for an evening of play.
    * Get your kids or grandkids to draw an encouraging message.
    * If technology frustrates her, send over a geek to get her devices working.
    * Help rake her leaves, clean her gutters or cut her grass, or hire someone who can do those jobs.
    * Buy some gift cards to his favorite restaurant and drop them off–or offer to take him out for a bite.
    * Send her a bouquet of flowers on a day you know will be filled with more than the usual number of challenges.
    * Find out his favorite television show and send over a boxed DVD set.
    * Hire a credentialed massage therapist who makes house calls to see her in her home.
    * Pick up a couple days worth of groceries and bring them to his house.


    AARP Nov 2015
    National Caregivers Month is in November

    We never know how really strong we are until strong is the only answer.

  8. Casie says:

    Never underestimate the ripples that can be generated by one person’s actions (good or bad).

    Negativity and hate are contagious. But so are positivity, kindness and courage.

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  11. Alan says:

    If you are ever ‘down’ go do something kind for somebody. Whatever you do, will make you feel full of love inside. (Be sure to click on and read Sather Brown’s story below!)

    You can help your fellow man without ever opening your wallet. All kindness counts. There are so many simple ways to give; here are a few:

    • text to a friend and share something that you love about them.
    • prayer – in text, email or via snail mail.
    • card to a friend for no reason.
    • handwritten thank you note to a person who has helped you in the past. (Even better….you would be surprised at what happens when you continue writing notes of appreciation at least once a week.
    • call to a family member or friend to let them know you’re thinking of them and how much your appreciate them.

    • Give someone a smile! Say hello!
    • Acknowledge the cashier who’s helping you and genuinely ask them how they’re doing.
    • Pay someone a sincere compliment. Give a compliment about someone who did service work or your waitress or waiter for you to his / her manager.
    • Compliment a work colleague

    • Do something special on Valentine’s Day for someone who is alone. It they can’t eat candy, a rose or a small bouquet or a meal out would be greatly appreciated.
    • visit an older person whom you haven’t seen in a while and have a normal conversation..) Time is the best thing you can give someone. Their families get busy. Make sure you allow enough time to sit and have a chat. Listen to stories about the good old days. Showing them that you care, by taking some extra time out of your day to visit with them will mean the world to them.
    • help out a little bit. Trim your neighbor’s hedge. Sweep or shovel their sidewalk or driveway when you do your own. Help them carry the trash out or bring up their trash and recycle bin from the street. Change a light bulb or a smoke alarm battery.
    • call from the grocery store to see if you can pick up an item or two.
    • offer a ride to church or if there is an event that would let out after dark, many will not return to a dark house at night, so offer to pick them up and take them so they can enjoy it….and when you bring them home, go inside with them to make sure everything is fine, before you leave. It is a comfort to have someone do that.



    •Give up your seat to someone who needs it more, not just an elderly person.
    • Hold the door open for someone. (OK we should always do this but sadly some people weren’t raised that way.)
    •Let someone in front of you at the grocery store, the bank or in traffic
    • If you arrive at a stop sign at the same time as another driver, let them go first.
    • Give another driver your parking spot.
    • shovel a neighbor’s walk
    • bring a casserole to a grieving person
    • reach something for them from the top shelf at the grocery store,
    • Talk with a child who seems sad
    • Give a helping hand when you see someone carrying a lot of stuff; such as groceries or bags.
    • Open the door for someone.
    • Reach an item off a high shelf for someone.
    • Help someone change their flat tire.
    • Ask a person who looks lost at the mall if they need help.
    • Help a mom with a baby


    SOMEONE GOING THROUGH A HARD TIME help someone in need.

    •If you know someone who is having a hard time financially and you can afford to , pop $5, $10 or $20 in an envelope, disguise your writing or type the envelope, and mail it to them.
    •contributing a few dollars towards expenses after a sudden tragedy.
    •Send to a family experiencing hardship the same amount of money that you would have spent on a Valentine’s gift or a fancy dinner. Imagine if we all spent a little *less* money on loved ones who already have enough, and gave a little *more* to those in need. Spending as little as $5 on someone else could make us significantly happier, according to research done by the University of British Columbia.
    • Use to organize meal delivery for a family going through a hard time.

    • Play with pets in an animal shelter.
    • Foster a dog or cat.
    • Walk a sick friend’s dog.


    • Clean up obvious litter on your next walk.
    • Remove debris or other obstacles from a road or path.
    • Pick up trash in your neighborhood. Showing you care enough about your neighborhood and surroundings is a great act of kindness! Who knows, you may even make some new friends as they help you along!
    • Gather a few friends and help clean up a local park.

    • Give blood.
    • Sign the back of your driver’s license to be an organ donor.

    • things that you no longer use or need—clothing, household goods, toys, books.
    • old eyeglasses, stick them in a box or padded envelope and mail to New Eyes for the Needy. (For the address, go to
    • On your birthday, ask your Facebook friends to donate to a charity that’s important to you.


    • at an event at your kid’s school.
    • with Meals on Wheels to deliver meals to those in need this Thanksgiving.
    • at a local soup kitchen or food pantry.
    • with a mentoring organization to help guide kids in your community.
    • by helping your kid’s school start a garden.
    • Offer to drive your teen’s teammates to sports games or practices.
    • Read to people with low or no vision. (Get started through

    •bake a small treat to community helpers– (Before delivering Cookies for a Nursing Home–or VA Clinic: They may be diabetic)
    • Make a dish for a new mom or someone who lost a family member.
    •Offer a piece of fruit or water to a delivery person.

    • a meal for a homeless person
    • coffee or a soft drink for someone.
    • a phone card and give to a homeless shelter for them to give to someone.
    • a couple of umbrellas, blankets, and/or ponchos at a dollar store, and keep them in your trunk. When it’s a cold or rainy day, find a person who needs it (try a bus stop) and give them one.


    •Drop off flowers at your friend or neighbor’s house.
    •Take flowers to a hospital ward for someone who hasn’t had any visitors. (Funeral homes should suggest this for all the flowers that the family doesn’t know what to do with after a funeral!)


    Check out these touching sites:
    • Sather Brown healed his pain with Acts of Kindness:


    • Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. – Mark Twain
    • A good deed brightens a dark world…Author unknown…
    • To the world you may be just somebody, but to somebody you might just be the world.
    • There is no better exercise than reaching down and lifting people up.
    • The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the greatest intention – Oscar Wilde
    • Success has nothing to do with what you gain in life or accomplish for yourself. It’s what you do for others. – Danny Thomas
    • We cannot just rely on others to make the world a better place – each one of us has to do our part.
    • Show the same kindness to others that you would like others to show you….or better yet, to your mom!


    • Alan says:

      “When you’re helping someone, the feeling of satisfaction creates hormones, such as epinephrine, dopamine and serotonin, that generate a feeling of well-being,” explains Ilan Shapiro, MD, medical director of health education at AltaMed in Los Angeles.

      Sincere praise is just another form of generosity. Offer a thank-you or a compliment especially those who aren’t appreciated enough, like the garbagemen, the UPS guy, the high school custodian or kids who seem left out. Not only does the act reduce your own stress, but it’s also free—and easy. “How hard is it to say, ‘Your hair looks lovely today’ or ‘What a great outfit’?” says Susan Newman, PhD, a social psychologist in New York City,

  12. Alan says:
    Uploaded interviews become a part of the American Folklife Center at the Library of Congress, and can be shared with family and friends.

    Listen to how giving touched this homeless guy:

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